how do u deal with a family member who u have to see all the time?

Question

this person in my opinion uses me for there advantage putting me down and always expects there life/problems to be mine.. i cant just never see them, and when i confront this person they say sorry, but the next min do it over and over again.. please help

Answer 1

I had the same sort of situation in my life and tolerated it for way too many years before finally saying enough is enough. I cut that person from my life as they were making mine miserable. I still have to drive past them in the street occasionally but will never let them back into my life, Just because you are related and have to run into a person on occasion doesnt mean you have to be their best friend and if you know the person will never change then you are doing yourself and those around you a favour by cutting the contact and telling that person you dont want to associate with them. I got to the stage that if the phone rung I would start to hyperventilate as I knew it would be her and I would have to listen to all her completely ridiculous problems and how much she loved one person on this particular day and hated another person. Many people in my life have also realised that my relative has a problem and support my decision and if you are feeling stress due to having to have contact with your relative then do something about it. Move to Alaska if you have to as you only get one life so dont let some stupid relative ruin it.

Answer 2

Just be honest, set boundaries, show respect, and if that person can't accept your terms (reasonable terms) then tell them the consequences of violating those boundaries and follow through. This can be very difficult especially with family, but there needs to be respect on both sides for there to be a functioning relationship. Hang in there.

Answer 3

try to avoid a conversation by saying sorry kinda busy right now dont have time to listen or if can turn off and not listen put your ipod on and wont hear a thing turn up the radio if starts and or a deaf ear. its definately not worth an argument since can cause person to react more cause you discomfort etc leave the room if have to but dont add to their problamatic dramatic life by giving opinion they are not worth you loosing your peace and dont have to allow.

Answer 4

Just distance yourself from this person. When they try to talk to you, tell them that you are busy. If you ignore them longer enough, they will get the hint. Do not accept any more apologies.

Next time they say that they are sorry, tell thiem this--"yea, you are a sorry SOB."

Answer 5

u are the only one who can stop this cycle u have to relize that u have to be tough on them try to limit seeing this person and dont allow them to put thier problems on u if they ask for something or want something cut them off tell them no be nice about it but cut them off they are only going to keep doing it till u put ur foot down good luck to u

Answer 6

First remain calm. Secondly try ignore them or stay clear of them. If you cant then when they start up just say "You're doing it again!". Each and every time "You're doing it again"
Hopefully that will sink into their thick skull!

Answer 7

okkkk..you know what? just ignore him because when you want to tease somebody just ignore him and believe me he ll be burning from inside..or just show him that you r strong and can face him but not loudly bcoz barking dogs never bite..be smart..

Answer 8

Buy a mp3 player or ipod, bring it with you, when they start talking, you start playing!!

Answer 9

Move!

Answer 10

You can stay away from anyone you want.