We broke up because I was trying to rush things were only 25 and on top of it I was listening to my friends something he HATES also I nagged him to be superman when he was already the perfect man he made sure I never wanted or needed anything yet I still found ways to get on him about what I wanted him to do to be even better plus I had trust issues I need to overcome. We split today but I want to give him his space without him forgetting about me totally because he is really upset and claims he can't see me cause he wants to get "IT" out his system so what should I do because I dont want to lose him.
2007-05-09 16:30:20 · 29 answers · asked by icechampagne81 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well give it 3 days. By 3 days (Saturday) if he hasn't contact you back by then contact him. If you love him tell him you're sorry for nagging,not trusting him and whatever you did to make him mad. Tell him you love him and you are sorry and you want him back and you are willing to go to cousoling if that's what it takes.
2007-05-09 16:42:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to lose your boyfriend, you need to relax. From your question, it sounds like your smothering him. Chill out, stop rushing things, stop listening to your friends. Your relationship is your own, no one else's. It's good to have friends to talk to, but they aren't in your relationship you are.
And unfortunatley most sometimes friends get their opinons on relationships from Maury Povich, or their own experiences, which biases opinions.
Listen to yourself, give him time to chill out, he's probably still mad at you, you may want to put a band-aid on things, but that will only make it worse, wait for a few days, then maybe call and talk to him about somthing other than the relationship.
After a few phone calls about something other than your relationship, he will be more willing to talk about it. As a matter of fact, you should let him bring it up.
You need to deal with your trust issues right away because no man wants to be accused of something he ain't doing, paranoid women are a real turn off.
2007-05-09 23:41:41 · answer #2 · answered by Tha_Loop 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My bf complained me about nagging him a lot recently. I like to tell him what to do because I think my ideas is better that what he has. I just want him to be good and not trying to hurt him. Sometimes when we were fighting, we almost break up, but we didn't. Relationship is hard, sometimes you have a good time, sometimes it is miserable. It is a good time to give him some space if he asked for him. You can try to email him and convince him later that you both been together for 2 and a half years and that's not easy. You both put a lot of effort and such into it. Say something nice to him to have the relationship back. It takes time, you can do something to show that you care for him but try not to nagg him. I will do the same to my bf not to nagg him a lot. Guys just don't like to be control. Good Luck.
2007-05-09 23:54:37 · answer #3 · answered by Crazy in love 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uhhh. My answer is "forever." Do not contact him. he doesn't like you. He doesn't like anything about you or how your relationship turned out (you said it yourself). Perhaps part of the breakup was due to your nagging, but I bet the OTHER part was due to his being an a**hole. You should take time to deal with your trust issues by getting to know yourself and the things that make you uneasy (maybe things that remind your of your absent father or whatever (for me, its men who sleep too heavily...or at least it was)). I know you won't listen to me. You will call him several times, and he will a) not answer the phone, or b) sound bored and distracted when you call and you will apologize profusely for bothering him, or c) play with your emotions because he wants sex. None of these things are fun. You are worth more than this. After call # 10, I hope you will realize that you should stop. Your pride and your self-worth and more important than "how much you love him" How much does he love YOU? Ask that every time you start dialing.
2007-05-09 23:41:20 · answer #4 · answered by yp_plum_new_york 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my best advise, girl is to give him as much time as he needs, don't crowd him, just be a friend, but let him know that you love him and you'll wait as long as it takes In the meantime, find yourself all over again,LEARN FROM YOUR MISTAKES thats the best thing I've learned from any of my past mistakes.If you had trust issues with him, work on those, take this time to work on any issues you had. If you can, sit down and think of each time you we're mad or got in an argument, figure out why, and write it down, KEEP A HIDDEN JOURNAL under your bed, write your thoughts, and don't reread it for a while, in time you will be amazed at what you'll learn ABOUT YOURSELF but always remember, if it was meant to be, it will happen, if not learn from your mistakes
2007-05-09 23:44:19 · answer #5 · answered by patsy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say about 5-7days. You want to give him space, yet you still need to let him know that you care for him. He will be very angry with you for a couple of days, then he might start to miss you. He might call you first. If not, call him and explain that you love him, and the most important thing is to be with him. The more you push him for marriage....the farther you will push him away. You are only 25. Take it slow. Make sure you are both ready. I promise though, pushing him will just anger him. He has to be ready too.
2007-05-09 23:39:30 · answer #6 · answered by Fernando G 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honestly I can tell you this.. " you never know what you had till it's gone" I can honestly say that you never appreciated your man and now he's gone. That whole I need some time thing..that's just an excuse and an easy way to let you down. Still after all crap you put him through he still had the heart to let you down gently. Dont give yourself any hopes of getting back with him there are so many good women out there who would appreciate a good man like that. Surly he'll run across one while you have your "TIME OFF" ! I would suggest moving on...!
2007-05-09 23:37:15 · answer #7 · answered by ~* Pink Princess *~ 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ahhhhh! You sound exactly like me! No matter how perfect my boyfriend was or is, I still found or find faults with him! We had been dating for two years, we broke up for seven months (didn't talk AT ALL), and now we're back together! I suggest that you give him space. He won't forget you, believe me! If he does forget you, then he's not worth your time anyway hun! Good luck!
2007-05-10 00:31:43 · answer #8 · answered by Creme de la Creme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him be, he wont forget you because he was with you for 2 1/2 years. He wont forget trust me. Next you shouldn't listen to your friends if they are single because they are probably jealous and they want your relationship to fail. I say don't call him don't see him, don't even think about him. I know it would be hard but they say if you love him, let him go, if he comes back to you then he's yours!
2007-05-10 01:34:34 · answer #9 · answered by PlainJane 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to sound negative BUT you have already lost him by doing all those things you wrote about! If he needs space let him have it. Don't pester him or you will drive him away even further. If you have truely seen the error of your ways perhaps write him a letter leaving it open for him to contact you to talk about your issues then leave it at that, if he wants to talk he will contact you.
2007-05-09 23:39:38 · answer #10 · answered by tarceyblu 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋