Child support??

Question

I have court order not to pay child support, but my ex-wife ask for money all the time, so I still give her money because she says its for the kids. Now she says she is going to the child support office to get "what she deserves" According to her, she filed it already, but she still asks for money. Should i give her money still???????

Answer 1

Well, I have no idea why a judge would order you not to pay child support, but if the children need things then provide those items for them. If you doubt that the children are actually benefiting from the money then purchase the things that they need yourself. Whatever you do keep a receipt....in fact don't give her cash but a check or money order instead that way if the court does decide that you need to pay child support you at least have proof that you have been providing. This will ensure you that she can't get you for back child support.

I do agree with other posters, it's not about the two of you but the children. You are their father and should do all that you can to make sure their needs are being met.

Answer 2

Save your receipts and follow the courts ruling. Don't get emotionally involved with this before things are finalized (again). Some parents have a way of using up their childrens' youth to get at people (as in the famous Alec Baldwin tape, he was primed for it)
You are now uncomfortable, and before you were contributing willingly and very comfortable. Let the receipts speak for themselves, and to actually avoid things like the previously referred to horrid incident, go to the movies, where someone else does the talking. Don't get dragged into this, as she will showcase your living quarters, your food in the cupboards, your wardrobe, your automobile, it can be so invasive, there is always the danger something explosive could happen, and where would you be as a person. It isn't human what the dad did, and if he cared about, and searched himself for the things he could provide for his daughter, he may have become upset, AFTER he said "Thank you, I'll try next week, or please call me if you get the chance." Then, and only then, could he unlease anything, and it isn't good against a child I hope it provides a wakeup call for parents yanked about by lawyers. Take it easy, proceed with caution always, treat them as irreplacable valuables, you will always cherish in your life and go from there. There is a lot of suffering, although there is also counseling, groups, the library, walks, hotels, your own vacations, etc. Been there, done this. (I drove 300 miles to have the door shut in my face, and I did have to turn and drive home, as it was the weekend, and the lawyers office wasn't open. Thank goodness for orange juice, and I didn't call until Tuesday, because by then I was sane, and gotten in a day's work. Everything counts, I was out $45 gasoline, and could have been out of my mind. Stay in control, and keep records of the things she says and does.
Don't give her the money outright, your emotions will follow, seek advice, as to put the amount you would give her into an account, where she can access it. She may then become responsible for her own reciepts. If you can only occasionally splurge, say it in writing, and get it to the courts.
Good luck,and it is nice to have a contributing father.

Answer 3

That is up to you. However; I would start making a log of everytime you give her money for the "kids" and write down for what she says it is for: For example: "The kids need new shoes and clothes for the fall for school." Write down what she said it is for, and how much you gave her. I would also if your not sure... I would ask the court if you do this if it will count towards your child support payments or whatever, they will be able to help you more than anyone on here can. Unless they are an attorney, or work for the foc system.
Good Luck

Answer 4

im surprised a court would order you NOT to pay child support. Unless she remarried...as far as I know...you are responsible with supporting your child until they're 18.
If the court ordered you NOT to pay...then you shouldn't be giving any money * She could be pulling your strings by saying she's already filed and if she did....great* ..dont' be giving her any more money until the court tells you , that you have to*
WHen she says it's for the kids*....has she proven what's shes gotten for them? clothes? food? or is it going on just her word*??
I would stop giving her any money until you go back to court with your court order stating you don't have to pay. I still don't get that tho*?? but oh well, ces't la vie* GoodLuck*

Answer 5

well even though you have a court order not to pay it, they are still kids and need to be supported. however, the way you are going about it is not the best way. what you need to do is to ask her what they need and then buy it yourself, that way you know for sure that it is being used for the benefit of the kids and not just being blown on her. do that from now on. chances are the kids are seeing little if any of that money. good luck.

Answer 6

If you give her money which shows your interest in supporting your children, get her to give you a receipt. It might be in your best interest to have a court order. Then you pay what the order requires and only give her extra if you truly want to...it would then be considered a gift.

Answer 7

No! 1st of all she's being a snot about it! So don't give her a dime, just make sure you spend the money yourself on your child.

Only listen to me if your ex has a good job and can support herself and your child. If she has no job, or really can't support the child then make sure you give her money! Your child needs your ex to be financially secure in that instance.

BUT... AGAIN....

If she IS financially stable, THEN.....

'F' Her... Dont give her a stinkin penny cause she sounds like a C**T!!

Answer 8

it depends on the importance of the money.the best thing you can do for yourself is get a reciept book ready for her.you need to have reciepts for court and for your own records.let the judge see how much you provide even before your court date.because shes obviously being spitefull.she doesnt realize that child support could work for her or against her.see if you give her 100.00 a weak,the judge may order 50.00 a week.just keep handling your resposibility,good luck.

Answer 9

Hay i would stop paying, by the sounds if it she's just using the kids to get money of you, by the sounds of the court order, she must be doing okay

Answer 10

What about doing additional things for your children if needed? For example buying shoes, groceries, school supplies etc... Save all of your reciepts and be sure you only give her checks. Money orders do not hold up in court.