I want to tell my mom but I don't know how to tell her. If I do tell her she'll freak out, she'll say it's a faze I'm going though. But it's not i really am. But I want to tell her but how. How do I face her and the rest of my family.
2007-05-09 16:24:09 · 24 answers · asked by Kenzie K 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If your mom is going to "freak" out by this information there's really nothing you can do to prevent it. However, you can make the situation easier and more comfortable about how you tell her. Maybe it would be more comfortable for both you and your mom if you told her in private and then everyone else one on one.
2007-05-09 16:43:43 · answer #1 · answered by Lwood 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom would be right to assume it's a phase. You're really to young to "know" you're bisexual. You're still developing. My stepdaughter told us she was bisexual at 16. It lasted until she was about 25.
What changed when she told us? Rather than rules applying to just the opposite sex, suddenly she wasn't allowed to have girlfriends sleep over or even have the door closed with them at the house. Is this a risk you want to take? Why? Let some time go by. If you still feel this way after college, then tell your mom.
2007-05-09 17:26:42 · answer #2 · answered by Zeltar 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you don't think you can tell her to her face, try writing her a letter. I would just keep it short and simple. Tell her that you love her, you need her support, and you wanted to be honest and up front. Just try to keep in mind that this sort of thing isn't always easy for parents to understand. You will have to be patient and prepared that she might not be 100% accepting at first. She deserves some adjustment time to digest everything. Don't let her first reaction drive a wedge between the two of you. Honesty is always the best policy. You know your Mom better than any of us could ever know her. You know if she can handle the news.
2007-05-09 16:32:39 · answer #3 · answered by lnfinitelylnteresting 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're 13...that means you will have different feelings about sex and sexuality...it's perfectly normal.
Sit down and talk to your mom about how you've been feeling. She might tell you that it's a phase, but then again she might surprise you. She might ask if you have engaged in any activities with the same/opposite sex, and you have to be honest. The point is, you will not know how she will react unless you sit her down and tell her.
If you still aren't sure you're ready to talk to her or any other family member you'd normally trust, then talk to your school counselor or look into an outreach center for gay/lesbian/bisexuals.
The key is for you to get a support basis to deal with what you are feeling.
Best of luck to you.
2007-05-09 16:39:22 · answer #4 · answered by Mendi W. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sit her down and ask her if she knows anything about bisexuality. Let her talk for a while. Then tell her you were wondering about it because thats how you feel, and you want her to know about it. Be prepared, she may freak out and theres never any prediction that can be made about a parents rection, but she loves you no matter your orientation and you should let her in on that part of your life, even if it's hard at first. I know this because I'm the child of two lesbian parents.
2007-05-09 16:31:08 · answer #5 · answered by whitexsaucer 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It's pretty normal to have attracted feelings to others of the same sex at such a young age. To some people it sticks, to others it does not. I have a 14 year old niece who thought she might have been gay, but it just turned out that it wasn't for her. When she broke the news to her mom, it was more of a "Mom, I know you love me, and I know you'll support me in all I do." (Good Ice Breaker) "I think I'm a lesbian, because I feel like I'm attracted to other girls" Explain to her your situation, talking about it with her might even help her understand the true identity that you as a teenager are starting to form.
2007-05-09 17:24:39 · answer #6 · answered by matthew_dillard2003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really think you aren't even old enough to have thought this through yet. Think about how this may play out in future relationships first. You may feel this way now, but someday you will meet the right person and something like this could mess it up. But I do feel strongly that your mom is a good person to discuss your feelings with and to help you sort through them.
2007-05-09 16:58:37 · answer #7 · answered by rwb 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey, i thought i was bi for a little while, so i get it. i am fifteen, and went through this at 13-14.
parents aren't always as understanding or supporting as you want them to be, so be prepared for whatever may happen. break it to which ever parent you feel will be able to handle it better, and then, say Mom, break it to Dad. then discuss it with them both. it is a lot easier to have a one on one conversation rather than having two people jumping down your throat and tying their words together.
this could be temporary, or permanent, but there are other people like this, so don't feel lost. and you are young. there is so much life ahead of you!
good luck with your parents. i know mine would give me hell, i pray yours do better
2007-05-11 08:30:30 · answer #8 · answered by -Nessa- 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...maybe you should start by NOT concluding that you are bi-sexual at this point in time. You should discuss with your mum and family about bi-sexual traits, personality and character. Or at least you discuss with them, how would they know if a person is bi-sexual Or he/she is straight. What are the causes and symptoms that shows that a person is bi-sexual...and then slowly ask them whether they think that you are or not? and then discuss with them that you feel most probably you are and state the reasons why you are etc...
hope this will do for you..
take care..
2007-05-09 16:54:11 · answer #9 · answered by trymejames 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say this but you are just a normal 13 year old. It is usual to be more in tune with your own sex until your teens and it is during this period that you will change. Wait a couple of years before making any decision as all this will change as you grow.
2007-05-09 18:34:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋