Do's it still bother you?Can you forgive or do you want revange?
2007-05-09 16:09:08 · 12 answers · asked by freddy 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
The people that adopted me abused me (sexually,mentally, emotionally, and physically) I hated them for many years but it was only hurting me. I began to wonder what kind of life they had to make them so cruel, I believe that most people tend to abuse if they were abused. Things in the past years have gotten better because its more out in the open. Plus counseling, meds all sorts of help not only for the victims but for the abusers too. It took me coming close to hitting my daughters in anger when they were young to see that it can be a learned behavior. I started counseling and still take meds for the depression and post traumatic stress. Thankfully I have a wonderful husband (28yrs) and 2 beautiful daughter 25 &23 that make this part of my life worth living. Do I forgive them??? some days more than others, but its more important I think to try and understand and stop the circle of violence
2007-05-09 16:40:18 · answer #1 · answered by charlies_girl112679 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know every one is telling you to talk to your husband or change your address. But I'll tell you something completely different like, kill them with KINDNESS, offer stuff to them with a smile before they go at it and dropping the little hints that you soooo don't like when people take stuff without asking and when they walk in the front door tell them I was just about to call you to find out if you were coming over any time soon because you wanted to ask them to buy something and make sure its something really expensive, say and do all this with a smile of your face. Because in this life we have to learn to live in the same hole as the devil eventually the devil moves out!!! smile :)
2016-05-19 04:12:44 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marry Me when he never really loved me.And only married me for money.
No i dont feel my forgiveness is necessary.
No i don't want revenge, because he is living a nightmare of a life now, his kids wont speak to him and he is broke and alone. I on the other hand am happily remarried, to the love of my life, who loves me so much i fell like i can hardly breathe sometimes! I have the love and respect of my children and family. I am so strong now and that is an asset to myself and all those i love. I have a lovley home and a fullfilling life...
So no i dont need revenge,,,,the universe took care of him!
Ariel
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2007-05-09 18:11:52 · answer #3 · answered by *~Ariel Brigalow Moondust~* 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably my ex-boyfriend who dumped me *over the phone* after five years of going out. But I've gotten over it, and we could still be friends if he wanted. Besides, I would never have met the man that I married if not for the ex, so there's more to thank him for than curse him for.
Note to Shawn - I had a Christian tell me pretty much the same thing after my dad died when I was young, so I empathize with you. In the long run, she did me a favor, because her words helped encourage me to leave Christianity and find my own path, and I'm much happier because of it.
2007-05-09 16:17:21 · answer #4 · answered by Nandina (Bunny Slipper Goddess) 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I briefly got involved with a married man because he lied his a s s off and said he was divorced. As soon as I found out the truth, I broke it off -- I mean, I literally broke IT off -- or I tried to anyway. He's lucky my name isn't Lorena Bobbitt.
A couple of years afterward, I saw his OBITUARY in the local paper -- he'd died of a heart attack-- and I was stunned because I never knew he HAD a heart.
2007-05-09 16:18:13 · answer #5 · answered by Resident Heretic 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not keep score of pain inflicted to me.
I forgive because it makes me feel better. Forgiving another does not mean we condone their actions it means we don't want to carry the burden.
Revenge does nothing to heal the one hurting.
2007-05-09 16:22:56 · answer #6 · answered by Epona Willow 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex husband took a swing at me when I was holding our baby. Thats why he's my ex husband. And yes after all these years I do forgive him. He has his own demons to wrestle with. I have freed myself from hate and resentment. I pray for him.
2007-05-09 16:22:12 · answer #7 · answered by Kathie Emmanuelite 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My brother built a coffin in shop class put it in the basement and locked me in it. I still have an irrational fear of small spaces and when I feel trapped I get psycho angry. I have forgiven him and I did get revenge. I told his children what he was really like growing up.
2007-05-09 16:19:03 · answer #8 · answered by Lil'witch 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The worst thing was ever done to me was of myself. I just wasted a lot of years blaming everyone else.
Forgiveness can't be forced. Understanding can help. Sometimes just being really really mad helps you heal.
2007-05-09 16:18:22 · answer #9 · answered by ~Heathen Princess~ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A Christian once told me my parents were going to hell because they did not accept Christ as their personal savior.
Imagine what that would do to a nine year old who just lost his parents.
2007-05-09 16:17:30 · answer #10 · answered by Shawn B 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋