He wanted to go on the computer and i was like ok wait a few minutes and i'll be right off and he was like no now and i was like ok just wait and then he punched me in the back and walked into the other room and now he's in the other room what should i do
2007-05-09 14:54:57 · 55 answers · asked by Rolanda 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Tell him to leave. Hitting is not acceptable.
2007-05-09 14:59:58 · answer #1 · answered by kiwi 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋
It is never ok for him to hit you, Christian or not, that simply makes no differance. I can promise you that abusive situations "Especially Domestic" DOES NOT GET BETTER!!
If this is the first incident, consider how hard he hit you and what little reason he had to do this, now consider that the reasons get even more insignificant, and the one hit becomes
a minor beating, then escaleades into beating the hell out of you, then escalades into years of being a prisoner to his abuse; and when you think it is over, He will try to kill you rather than to lose the one thing that makes him feel Big and Important, and IN CONTROL. It is all about control. Listen, you must get away from this ASAP. Do not give it a second thaught or a second chance. I am speaking through much experiance. Do not buy into his parade of apologies , or tears, or how he loves you, This is called a game of MANIPULATION, if he can reel you back in, then he knows He is still in control. When you get away from him absolutely Stay Away, because when he cant get what he wants, he will go postal (Very Violent). If He intimidates you and you fear him, then get to a friend, neigbor, or loved one and call 911.
2007-05-09 15:14:02 · answer #2 · answered by Justme 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We all want to disallow tolerance for domestic violence in even the slightest degree. But... I've never met somebody who hasn't resorted to "hitting" of some kind at least once in their lives -- maybe in good humor, maybe harmlessly, maybe when disciplining children. But, anyway, everybody has lost their temper before. It's no excuse to, like, murder him, and it's not necessarily a reason to abandon him. Should he have left you, the last time you lost your temper at him?
But... Is it a common thing? Was it more than a single blow; was he in a rage? Was it unprovoked (yeah right... what else did you say to him)? Was it hard, and did it really hurt? These are total warning signs of a future of abuse, with that guy. I'm sure you don't want that.
First, go tell him you're sorry for pissing him off (what! Girls intentionally piss their boyfriends off), then tell him you never planned to be with somebody who would hit you.
2007-05-09 15:12:30 · answer #3 · answered by Bravo-Alpha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, him being a Christian has nothing to do with this issue...Number two you should be talking to him about this and not a bunch of strangers on yahoo. If he is going to hit you over a computer then you might want to think long term and walk away from this relationship.
2007-05-09 15:00:35 · answer #4 · answered by Spades Of Columbia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many Christians are also abusers. You should tell him that hitting you for any reason on any part of your body is NOT ok. You need to decide whether you are willing to stay in a relationship with someone who beats you. If not, break up with him. If so, but you want him to get help - find a program for batterers and abused women in your area that might help you. You are a precious creation of God and you deserve to be treated as such - hitting should NOT be tolerated.
2007-05-09 15:07:30 · answer #5 · answered by sasmom 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Turn the other cheek? Sorry, I couldn't resist. I would find some object and beat the living hell out of him with it. Any guy that feels he can hit a girl is lower than an inchworm in a dead whalebone at the bottom of the Mariana Trench.
2007-05-09 15:02:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Um, what is the significance of him being Christian. Are you hoping God would strike him dead? Or maybe a group of christian men can take him out to the country and threaten him (because that is what they used to do). I'd say this is no different then if he were atheist. Dump him
2007-05-10 16:07:34 · answer #7 · answered by Peggy Pirate 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Him being a professed Christian has everything to do with it. It is not acceptable at any time and it is still considered an abusive relationship. If this happens often, I would dis-continue a relationship with him. If you are serious about your "walk" maybe he needs to talk to your pastor. As one body in Christ, we are all accountable for our actions. You should not keep it to yourself.
2007-05-10 11:02:33 · answer #8 · answered by Mike M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear girl, you should dump this guy at once. NO ONE has the right to hurt anybody, less if thet person is suposed to love you and take care of you.
If this boyfriend of yours doesn't understand that and learns fast to control himself from those anger reactions, he might do it again, and again, and may be end up hurting you. So stop this now.
2007-05-09 15:04:58 · answer #9 · answered by melissa986 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First dont listen to Nikita. Nikita, no offense, but she should not appologize for a situation where someone else was in the wrong. That is how abusive relationships are allowed to continue and nothing is done. My advice, tell him if he hits you again, you two are done.
2007-05-09 15:03:09 · answer #10 · answered by Zach D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what his religion has to do with this. Get out. Leave him and never look back. If he hits you once he will hit you again and it will only get worse. Don't defend him. Don't make excuses for him. Don't fool around with this. Have him charged by the police.
2007-05-09 15:03:57 · answer #11 · answered by wendygirl1000 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋