If you loved them would you stay or could you turn your feelings off and leave?
2007-05-09 14:50:22 · 60 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
been there, done that...will NEVER do that again. you must realize love or not, that you mean more than that. and, the person doing this to you does not love you the way you deserve to be love!
so, no i would not stay, and not even if i love them. your feelings don't turn off like a light switch...it takes time, but it does get better.
2007-05-09 15:01:36 · answer #1 · answered by thundakat312 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That's a really hard question to answer. Abuse is a terrible thing. But if I loved him, I'm not sure I could just up sticks and leave. I was in an abusive relationship but I didn't love him, so I got out, but that's a really good question. I know of a lot of women who think they love a bloke and he beats them, but they think they can't leave because they're scared that they'll have nowhere to go, and no money. Their self esteem is totally shot. I felt like that to a certain extent but like I said, I didn't love him.
If ur in an abusive relationship, pleeeeeease leave. U only think u love him. That's not love, he should be in prison for what he does to u. There are many more beautiful men out there, and u deserve much better than that.
2007-05-09 17:16:18 · answer #2 · answered by kiwi_mum1966 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's not love. Love doesnt hurt. Love wont make you hug your pillow at night hoping and waiting to see if the new day is going to be all right. Love is where you physically think that you can't live without the person. So, it all boils down to no. I would not stay in a harmful relationship. Oh, and I would turn my abusive "other" in so that he and or she couldnt do the same to anyone else. Remeber this: "Don't settle for the one you can live with, but for the one you can't live without"
2007-05-09 14:55:52 · answer #3 · answered by Forever the Sickest Kim 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave. No matter how much I loved someone it would not give them the right to abuse me.
My aunt was in an abusive marriage. Her husband blinded her in one eye. Beat her. Broke bones. Put her in the hospital multiple times. And she still stayed. At one time it was so bad that the local authorities told my grandfather that if "something" was to happen to the husband no questions would be asked. After he died to hear her tell it he was a saint of a man. Yeah Right.
2007-05-09 14:56:11 · answer #4 · answered by ♥♥The Queen Has Spoken♥♥ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it was an abusive relationship then i suggest you turn off your feelings and leave because it's just going continue to happen!
2007-05-09 15:07:11 · answer #5 · answered by Victoria H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been through the same thing...I went through an abusive relationship for a few years.. its not easy to leave...THATS ONE OF THE HARDEST THINGS TO DO....Just think no one can make u leave until U decide to leave for good...First the cops usually cant help everyone in the world can tell u that u sholud leave...I am to...You won't do it for good...until U do it urself...Be sure to be ready...be ready to leave...Don't disscuse it with them...THE WILL NOT CHANGE they say it...its not true...Just make up ur mind........THink about how its not only hurtin' u but everyone else who loves you....Get around the fact...and set ur mind to it....and NEVER go back no matter how much they beg. GOod Luck.
2007-05-09 15:01:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there was physical abuse, I'd set the bed on fire before I left. If it was verbal, I'd give back as good as I got. However, I would hope that I would have the courage and strength it takes to get out of a horrible situation. It really makes me angry when a man/woman abuses his/her mate. I've never been in a situation like that because its not my background. I always look for signs in a relationship and it there are warning signs, I'm OUTTA THERE!!!
2007-05-09 14:56:32 · answer #7 · answered by LA Law 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that most everyone would state that they would not, initially, however I have come to know that this depends upon where you are in the learning process. I found out that after 16 years of marriage, I was emotionally abused, because I trusted and was far too loyal for the person that I married. Sometimes you don't know until it's over, and the tally is taken. You have to have enough love for yourself not to adapt to not having your needs full filled.
2007-05-09 15:50:12 · answer #8 · answered by duccees 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in an abusive relationship and I stayed for 8yrs. I don't know why. I'm still trying to figure it out. It's hard to turn feelings off regardless. Your always justifying to yourself and others. The best advice I can give is to learn the warning signs and there are warning signs. Talk to his or her ex.
2007-05-09 15:00:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way. Get out of the relationship immediately. You'll find love again, if you live. If you stay where you are, you might not live through the abusive relationship. Leave today.
2007-05-09 14:53:15 · answer #10 · answered by brews 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋