Why does my parents TREAT ME LIKE IM A little KID....??????

Question

Im Jack and im 12 years old,Why do my parents treat me like im a baby or a little kid???...They always want to know where im going and when i will be back..I told my dad it was none of his buisiness and he said if I got an attitude with him again he was going to spank me...what a loser!!they are soo old they are 35 and 33...Old and they dont understand me HELP??

Answer 1

They treat you like a kid because you are a kid. 35 and 33 are not old.

Answer 2

Jack, I know how you must feel. Been there done that. If you had shown your parents that you are trust worthy, honest, can behave, do as your told, follow the rules, maybe, just maybe they wouldn't be treating you like a kid. Want respect? Earn it. To get ahead in life you must work smart, go beyond what is asked of you. Always be kind and helpful. When is the last time you did a chore around the house without them hounding you about getting it done? When is the last time you asked to work for that extra pop and chips your mom and dad worked all day to buy you?

I know this may piss you off, but kiddo it is a give and take world. You are just a boy, and apparently have not given your parents any reason to trust you. Maybe you should work on that.

As for spanking, I do think you are too old for that, I would just ground you or not let you do something you really like to do.

Now stop whining and earn that respect. And remember, you were'nt born to be waited on hand and foot. Get off your butt and work for what you have.

Answer 3

Don't feel bad! I am 32 years old and my parents treat me like a little kid too!

They see me only once a year because we do not live in the same country. I went to visit them recently and went out with friends I hadn't seen in a long time. My mother calls at 7 pm to ask why I was out that late! So I completely understand what you mean.

P.S. Sorry to hear you think I am old!

Answer 4

I just sat my 11-year-old son to read your post.
I think it's good he hears he is not the only child who is checked and who has rules to obey.

The other answers you got are right.
We, as parents, are not perfect, but we try to do a good job with our kids.

I remember being your age ( A LOONG time ago!) and having the same problems you complain about now with my parents. (( At that time, I thought they were Nazis and they wouldn't let me go to all the parties I wanted to; or if they did, they drove me and picked me up. I had an 11:30 PM curfew by age 19, if you can believe that!))

What I'm saying is this: Now that I am an adult and a mom, I thank them for their trouble and their concern for my well-being. They were strict; yes; but thanks to that I did not get into trouble -like some friends did.

Take it easy....You are growing up and a lot of changes are going on. This can be very confusing and all your friends are going through the same thing....So be patient, you will be a young man in a couple of years....and if you show your parents you are a good person and a responsible one, who uses his brains and does not do dumb things, things will change. Trust me on this!

Answer 5

Jack,
I know you won't believe this, but someday you will appreciate the fact that your parents cared enough to check on you. You have to learn how to get their respect and trust and then it will get easier. Your parents probably remember what it was like to be a 12 year and you want some independence. Sit down with them and come up with guidelines together on what is acceptable and what is not.
They really do care about you and want what is best. I work with kids your age. You have more obstacles to overcome than they did when they were your age. And your parents definitely have more to worry about these days. Don't give them a reason to worry. Be responsible!
Good Luck!

Answer 6

me too . .