My last day at my current job is Friday, and my ex works with me. We broke up about 2 months ago. The entire office knows that I am leaving, and everyone is wishing me well. My ex has not even acknowledged it, even though we are not on bad terms. Why can't he simply congratulate me, or at least acknowledge that I am leaving?
2007-05-09 14:22:31 · 9 answers · asked by Halo729 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
There are a few reasons he might not be congratulating you -
1. he is jealous
2. he doesn't care
3. he is just biding his time until you leave and then will be so relieved that he never has to see or work with you again.
4. he is a loser.
5. he has no manners and doesn't care about being seen to do the right thing.
6. He has moved on and thoughts of you don't enter his head.
I do not mean to sound harsh - its just the way men are.
2007-05-09 15:30:50 · answer #1 · answered by that girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot control the actions of another. You can influence, you can suggest, but the main actions of another will always be in their own control. The trick is to empower yourself with your own abilities. Take everything in stride and do only that which will bring you joy. There's no use in thinking a thought like "Why didn't he congratulate me?". Since most people place a strong value on money, It'd be like me thinking "Why won't everyone give me 100 dollars right now?" I simply cannot control the actions of others. But I can and will control my actions to their most empowering state for myself. There could be a quite a few reasons as to why he isn't congratulating you, but the thing about it is, he isn't. You can't really do anything about that, Now be very careful about your will to have people do what only you think is ideal. Idealizing is a very dooming loop. You idealize a future point in time when you could be happy if, or I'll only be happy when such a such future point in time happens, and then it comes and you're disappointed, in which you respond by idealizing again. Some people go around forever in that manner, but that's not the case for me. I know better. And you do too. I'd focus on the love and gratitude you have the past memories and relationship and I'd give those to him. How he reacts to it is irrelevant. This is what I want to do so I'm going to do it, regardless of outward opinion. Things always turn about best when one does things in that manner. It's the most fulfilling. Chances are when he sees your detachment from the situation, when he sees you without a need to control, he probably will express himself a little more to you. Even if he doesn't, the important thing will be that you're now governed by what your power is, not by what another should be doing for you. And that'll get you much farther than otherwise. Very good.
2007-05-09 17:01:43 · answer #2 · answered by Answerer 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't know. This is more important...he is your ex...treat him as such. You can't allow others to control your ups and downs. Stop worrying about why he does what he does and truly move on with your life. Once you let go completely, you will have a weight lifted off your shoulders.
2007-05-09 14:32:17 · answer #3 · answered by Apple21 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not only your ex boyfriend but now your soon to be ex coworker. I simply would move on and not worry about it if I were you. That might be what he's doing too, ya know.
2007-05-09 14:40:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because he is treating you like an ex. Exs do not count in anyone's life anymore.
2007-05-09 20:37:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
cuz you broke up? he's under no obligation to talk to you at all. some folks just aren't comfortable talking to their ex's, especially when the break up is so fresh; it's a coincidence that you are crossing a milestone in your career, but he doesn't have to say anything if he doesn't want to.
2007-05-09 14:30:46 · answer #6 · answered by KJC 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would congratulate an ex if I genuinely meant it and was sincere about it. But you shouldn't expect it or demand it.
2007-05-10 03:36:49 · answer #7 · answered by pathfindercia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess it would depend on how bad the break up was and if either one of us still had any feelings still. Maybe he still has feelings for you and doesn't want you to leave because he won't get to see you any more?
2007-05-09 14:30:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if I would
I would feel kind of uncomfortable doing it but i would probably do it
that would be the right thing to do
2007-05-09 14:41:10 · answer #9 · answered by Ryan Z 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋