If you really really like a guy how long should you wait after meeting a guy youre dating to do these things (if its not a measure of time what should happen first ex. he says he loves you)...
kiss (open mouth)
let him touch with clothes on
let him go under your clothes
use mouth
have sex
2007-05-09 13:50:05 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sex? until ur married
2007-05-09 13:55:34 · answer #1 · answered by Chelsea :-* 2 · 2⤊ 3⤋
Sure he says he love you ,,,, You will eventually learn that with the exception of a very few ,, all guys let their glands do their thinking for them ,,,, It starts at or around puberty and continues on into their 30' and 40' and beyond ,,,, Some even have this problem all their lives ,,,, They can never settle down to just one woman ,,,,
But yes he definitely loves you because you have something he wants and he's more than ready willing and able to do say or promise you anything he has to in order to get what he's after ,,,, These guys are always ready for the rutt ,,,,
With these guys it's always "I DO" until he doesn't want to anymore ,,,, He will gladly score with you a few times or for a while but eventually and inevitably he will start getting tired of you and start looking else where for some one that excites him more than you do ,,,, The next thing you know he starts cheating on you or just up and leaves you and there you are ,,,,
You are left high and dry and used and abused and he could care less who gets hurt or how bad ,,,, They only live in the present and for the moment ,,,, They can't see the future because their glands are blinding them ,,,, They never know or recognize what they have until they lose it ,,,, They haven't got the slightest idea what the words commitment obligation loyalty or fidelity means or what they entail ,,,,
If you want to be someones toy and or plaything and be his fool then it's not a matter of time at all ,,,, Just go on ahead and do it all right now ,,,, Sounds like it's going to wind up that way anyway so why worry about waiting ? ,,,, He will gladly oblige you and the process for him starts all over again only with you as the new girl this time ,,,,
Once he starts losing interest in you then you become old meat to him ,,,, All used up and worn out ,,,, All he wants is the young stuff ,,,, All sweet wet snugg and fresh ,,,,
You need to set rules and standards for yourself and stick to them ,,,, Forget that list of things you mentioned ,,,, They will get you nothing but trouble ,,,, But you go ahead and do it your way ,,,, You will eventually learn something if not with this guy then with another or another ,,,, There is no doubt about what's going to eventually happen and you will learn the hard way about the things you've just been told here and now ,,,,
Yoda told you this ,,,,
2007-05-09 21:36:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel that everyone has their own pace of how they work. I think it also depends on how experienced you are prior. I've been with my boyfriend for 7 months.. We didn't start open mouth kissing for like a week .. and like after that he touched me over clothes.. after one month we started playing below the belt.. and at about 4 months we started doing oral things.. we started to have sex around 5 and 6 months.. so i think honestly itjust depends on you and if you're comfortable enough with the guy. There is no certain amount of time..don't worry about what others may think.. if you're comfortable enough go for it. Don't do anything you don't want to. Just be safe with whatever you do :]
2007-05-13 19:03:48 · answer #3 · answered by Ann Marie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
from a guys point of view
1. The longer you make him wait the more he respect you.
2. youll find out if he really just wanted you for your body if he isnt satisfied with the little stuff and leaves.
3. you shoudnt have to wait for a kiss.
4. it should be sex first and then oral due to the fact that sex is supposed to be spiritual as well as physical while oral is just a pleasure. replace that with jagging him off topless that way there is no entrance but its still sexy.
5. The most important thing to note is that what ever step you get to make sure your comfortable enough to do it well. If you make him wait for some half assed experience then the wait doesnt seem worth it. If you do what your doing well then the wait isnt so bad.
P.S. And please dont fall for that I love you sh**. Love is shown not said.
2007-05-09 21:05:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
There's no such time line, it's all in how you are together. One you'd do it all in a week, another may be a year. It's all in the emotional connection. If a boy pushes the right buttons, it all happens seamlessly. That's really what you're looking for. The one that makes YOU need to do all these things as soon as possible.
2007-05-09 20:56:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well let me answer you this way My husband then bf and I were togeather for almost a month before he got to kiss me open mouther and we were dating for like 3 months before he got to go under my shirt and it was almost 1 year before we even had sex but I was raised very old fashioned I am only 24
2007-05-09 20:54:15 · answer #6 · answered by weeping_spirit 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
These things all depend on your comfortability w/him. There's no strict time table on any of this. Although, you should probably wait until you're "of age" before you get too heavy. By of age, I mean, over 18. I know you'll probably not wait this long, but you need to wait until you feel completely comfortable before you ALLOW any of this to happen.
2007-05-09 20:55:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hopefully your an adult and protect yourself if you choose to have sex with him...I feel that if a guy tells you he loves you how long after you met him did he say this...I have sex because I want to and you should do the same.....But make sure it's what you want and not just him wanting it and making you think you want it...Get it..
2007-05-09 20:55:38 · answer #8 · answered by misty 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
10 minutes, tops, on all questions.
j/k!
First it depends on YOU and what you are comfortable with. Second, it depends on how old you both are (actual age AND maturity). Sry, but it is difficult to answer this without understanding the situation better. GL!
2007-05-09 20:54:30 · answer #9 · answered by Mucho 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it all depends on what you want from him, and what you expect of yourself ... are you using him or is he using you? Do you just want to have sex or are you looking for a lasting relationship. If you just want to have sex, then just do it, because nothing else matters. If you want to have a lasting relationship, then the longer you wait, the better your chances.
2007-05-09 20:52:34 · answer #10 · answered by John B 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't rush in to anything!!!! Do not do any of these until you two are an item. Just remember, every person he has been with you are going to share the same and vice versa.
2007-05-09 20:55:16 · answer #11 · answered by Julie 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋