I'm pregnant again, but my boyfriend do not care. I know he is cheating at me but he denied even if I show him the e-mail he send to another woman. This is his unborn baby in he hit me because he doesn't want to hear the truth. I want to leave but is hard because we buy a house together. What can I do?
2007-05-09 13:33:19 · 36 answers · asked by Butterfly 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
WHY do men cheat?????????????????
2007-05-09 13:35:35 · answer #1 · answered by Welshchick 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he is unfaithful and abusive, you need to leave no matter how hard it is. If you stay with him it's almost like telling him it's ok. Also think about what his behavior suggests about how he might treat your child.
Owning a house together is no reason to stay in a bad relationship. And when you do leave him, you should file for child support. Don't worry about being nice after the way he's treated you. One thought though - don't go for the jugular when you file for support. He may deserve to pay out the nose, but if the support order is reasonable there is a better chance he will actually pay. While there are many ways the legal system can deal with deadbeat dads, it doesn't really help you if you aren't actually receiving money each month.
2007-05-09 13:45:28 · answer #2 · answered by Justin H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bubu, He hit you, he won't stop, he'll keep on going, he obviously doesn't care for you or the baby. I'm sorry but, that's the truth. Leave now please.Who cares about the house. Get a lawyer and get OUT. Do you want the baby? If you do save your life and the babys by leaving him. Go to your parents, or a friend. Call safe homes and they will help you. I know it's hurts really bad but, he does not care about you or the baby. He is dangerous and if you don't think so you don't care. Talk to your parents. E-mail me if you need to talk. Pleaseeeeeee get out of the relationship and put a preotection order on him. You need to go to the police. God Bless
2007-05-09 13:47:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so saddened with your plight. First of all he is not ur husband. Given that he is your husband, he does not love you. What he has for you is LUST, not LOVE. A loving husband (same with a wife) will never do anything that would hurt his wife. There is sacrifice in love, just like Jesus. He died on the cross to redeem us from our sins because He loves us. As far as I am concerned, a cheating husband loves only his own self and works only for his own gratification. He tramples on the sanctity of his marriage (or does he really believe in the sanctity of marriage?). I think culture and upbringing are also the essential factors why men cheat. My advice to you is use your common sense, weigh your priorities, think of your unborn baby, have a heart-to-heart talk with your parents, (or if they don't care) talk to spiritual or legal counselors. And then. . . LEAVE!!!!!! He is not yet your husband and he is already cheating on you and beats you. I remember our professor once said, "Only uncivilized men hit their wives." If you believe in prayer, then I advise you to pray and ask God for a good and god-fearing husband. Surely He will give you.
2007-05-09 14:08:07 · answer #4 · answered by Basang Sisiw 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
men cheat because there insecure and are not satified with the girl they have or just want two different women but cant choose with one he wants, yep it sucks but us women are better than that, i would say move out and let him pay for that house, fine u a nice appartment or stay with a friend for a while, with him hitting u and cheating on you hes not worth it, hun ur better than that, if he doesnt want to take care of his child and hes cheating then theres no point in u staying he apperently doesnt love u he just loves ur body and to get u preg so he can go brag to all his friends that he scored again, for some reason no matter what age its kool for a guy to knock a girl up, with some guys thats all they care about, is there rep, personnaly its stupid,
im sorry ur going through this
good luck and i wish u the best
jbsbabygirl
2007-05-09 13:43:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he hit you, then this is serious - you need to get out of there; things will only get worse the longer you stay, and above all else, he is a danger to you, and to your unborn baby. My advice would be to look for a shelter for domestic violence victims. If he hits you again, call the police.
A good first step would be to visit http://www.ndvh.org/ or call 1-800-799-7233 (domestic violence hotline). Please trust me on this - if you ever do feel like giving him a second chance, don't, as he will most likely just go back to his old ways.
Best of luck, and I hope that you will be alright and that everything works out for you.
Never give up hope on your own future.
~L
2007-05-09 14:01:42 · answer #6 · answered by L Lawliet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I'm understanding you correctly you are saying he hits you and cheats on you? Why are you still with him? Being pregnant does not mean you have to stay with him. It is unfortunate that you are in this situation, but your best bet is to leave and contact a lawyer now to protect you and your unborn child's rights as well as start spousal and child support.
2007-05-09 13:42:54 · answer #7 · answered by vixeness1981 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Chances are he's just scared and feels that he's not ready for a baby. A lot of guys feel scared about that but only the really lame losers actually go and cheat on their pregnant wife/girlfriend
2007-05-09 13:38:01 · answer #8 · answered by Rae G 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
gurl i feel u on this one... lil boys only cheat men do not so obviously he is not a man... now that we have distinguished that he is a little boy.... u cant make him admit that he is cheating on you even if you have all the evidence in the world! he will not admit to cheating... if you ask me I would go on Maury but thats just me... if you dont want to make yalls identities open to the whole world maybe you should mention the idea of going to a counselor to him... if he doesnt exept that than holla at me then i can think of some more ideas for you
2007-05-09 13:47:43 · answer #9 · answered by baby gurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing that I can focus on in your question is that he hit you!!! Forget the house...get out..for you and your kids. Men cheat for lots of reasons but hitting is just unacceptable and he's just bullying you to cover for his own insecurities. Tell him to go pick on some one his own size before you walk out!
2007-05-09 15:51:57 · answer #10 · answered by KJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am going through the same thing...kinda...my husband wanted to start a family with me i mean we talked about it...then he changed his mind AND personality..He still wants me to get an abortion and he hit me a few times but I had to file a restraining order because I am terrified of him...see a lawyer and see what your options are maybe you can get out of it...its not worth it...Good luck I will be praying for you
2007-05-09 13:37:50 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋