I'm a 22 year old female. My neighbor, 24 year old male has shown interest in me, off and on, for the past three years. He's sweet, mature and intelligent. He seems insincere sometimes, which is why I'm not dating him now. One week he'll try really hard to get my attention. Another week he'll ignore me or give me the cold shoulder. I have developed a crush over time and I would like to date him, but I still don't trust him. Part of me feels that the smiles and sweet talking is just an act. The other part of me really likes him . I must admit that I'm to blame. When he first expressed interest in me, he did invite me out with him. It wasn't an official date date, but more of a way for us to talk and get to know each other. I turned him down. At the time I didn't see him in a romantic way.
2007-05-09 13:33:05 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We live in the same building but I don't see him often. He works. So I would see him once every 3 months. When he does try to get my attention, he'll go out of his way to talk to me. I've thrown some mixed signals at him. Because we are neighbors I have to be extra careful. Many times when I see him, it's usually on weekends when I'm running errands. I tend to look a mess ( sweat pants, dirty t-shirt, messy hair, and bags under my eyes). When I see him I die of embarrassment, and I try to keep the conversation brief and I literally run away. This is why I'm not completely mad at him.
P.S. He did ask me out a second time, to go dancing. I turned him down because I hate dancing.
2007-05-09 13:34:43 · update #1
For starters, you need to make up your mind whether you like him and want to get to know him or not. Then, if you do, the next time you see him ask if he would like to grab a bite to eat. If he says yes, then you have a perfect opportunity to talk to him, and if you have a lot to talk about, set up a real date. If you find yourself searching for things to talk about, and there's a lot of time contemplating the taste of french fries, then you know there's nothing there.
And as a sidenote, don't be too concerned about your appearance at the complex. If he sees you trying to flee when he comes around, he may be thinking you're trying to avoid him. Trust me, women worry more about clothing then men do. They're usually more interested in what's UNDER the clothing. *wink*
Good luck!!
Blessings
2007-05-09 13:44:04 · answer #1 · answered by Silverwolf 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say this time you go ahead and ask him out on a date, that way u can go do something u like. Or, ask for his help in a neighborly manner (like changing a light bulb) but be careful with this. In any case, be sure of what you want and take things at your pace, if he's a s good as he sounds, then he'll follow right along. Hopefully this helped. Good luck.
P.S. I found the last part (about the ackward run-ins at the most inconvenient times) very funny. Ha ha ha!
2007-05-09 13:45:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of couse you should date him! This does not mean you have to start a relationship, although if you do, that is not a direction to head into. You will never know if you are compatible if you do not go out with him, and get to know him a bit better. At the very least, you will have made a friend. End the confusion!
P.S. You may want to spruce up a bit on the weekends since that is mostly when you see him. It cannot hurt.
2007-05-09 13:43:59 · answer #3 · answered by krjam 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will never know unless you go for it !! Let him know right away that you are not looking for a one night stand !! It sounds to me like you both have been giving each other mixed signals !! This is a hard one because you are neighbors !! If it doesn't work out you will still have to see him on occasion but at least you'll know !! Ask yourself what can I lose by going out with him and if you can't come up with any good reasons GO FOR IT !!!!
2007-05-09 13:49:57 · answer #4 · answered by Polar Molar 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have gave up on you a long time ago. If you turned him down twice then it's your time to ask him out. His interest is probably on and off because your signals are on and off. We don't care if your dressed to impress all the time. It's not a first impression, and if you're talking to him anways he knows what you look like with messy hair.
2007-05-09 13:49:32 · answer #5 · answered by dossrocket 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are obsessed, that's all the reason NOT to go out with him. You are out of control and not thinking straight when you are obsessed. Nothing else matters to you. That even means, it doesn't matter if they guys is nice or horrible, right now you don't care, Wait until you KNOW something about what kind of man he is, really, not just on the outside. Then, maybe, say hi and see what happens.
2007-05-09 13:38:25 · answer #6 · answered by John B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you invite him out...if you don't like dancing, what do you like to do? Go to dinner, take a walk through a park, just take some time to get to know him and for him to get to know you. You may find he is a better friend than a boyfriend. But hey, go for it, you never know. The worst he can do is say no, like you did! Good luck!
2007-05-09 13:42:40 · answer #7 · answered by lkoontz62301 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi. Your ambivalence is where his mixed signals might originate from. I would get my head straight first, so the poor fellow wouldn't end up feeling like a yo-yo. Do you trust yourself to be fair to this fellow, and communicate properly (ex. Did you tell him why you turned him down twice)? If so, go for it; if not, leave him be...Best of luck.
2007-05-09 13:41:41 · answer #8 · answered by Artemisia G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally wouldn't date a neighbor (if i was single) just because it might be kind of awkward if it doesn't work out. Just imagine, you go on a date and it doesn't click - it's not like you can avoid him. He could just come over and bother you anyway.
But if you feel him, go for it. I am probably just weird like that. You're only young once, so f*** it.
2007-05-09 13:40:34 · answer #9 · answered by binemaeuschen22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-30 23:55:33 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋