I'm 14 years old & i just found out i was pregent. 1 month pregent. I got pregent by my boyfriend, of almost 8 months. I regret deeply for having sex. Even though we used protection, I became pregent. My boyfriend is supportive & he is trying to help as much as possiable in helping me find a way to explain to our familes. We are neighbors, and i don't want to start causing problems with our familes. So how should I tell my mom? And will I be okay? Im short, and skinny, so she'll have to start seeing it eventaully. I don't to give it up for abortion, since i don't really believe in it. It's murder to me. Also, i want to stay in school. I want to b a doctor when i grow up, and i dont want to give up on my dream.
And if you are going to leave rude comments;; please don't.
I don't need anything like that right now.
Just support.
2007-05-09 11:32:26 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
You already posted this once...
2007-05-09 11:35:00 · answer #1 · answered by banderson 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow hun I really feel for you! You are too young to be haveing a baby. But my honest opinion is you need to wait to tell your parents till your atleast 3 months along because since you are so young there is still a very high chance of having a miscarriage. But your plans of staying in school will be altered a little but Im pretty sure you can do home school and what not. BUt you are in for a very rude awakening. Haveing a child is the hardest thing to do especially since your only 14. There are going to be a lot of things you will never be able to do and you will miss out on a lot. I dont believe in abortions either but if you do have this baby you need to think about it and look into putting it up for adoption. But still i think you should just wait till 3 months and then tell your mom. And just to let you know from experience.... you are going to break you mothers heart and things will never be the same. Good luck to you!
2007-05-09 11:45:52 · answer #2 · answered by bktp37 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is you and your boyfriend sit down with your parents or his parents first and tell them together. There is no right way to do it, you jus have o suck it up and do it, sorry if that sounds mean, but really, cause you need to start seeing a doctor as soon as possible. It is really good to hear that your boyfriend is being supportive. Also, I don't think you will cause problems with your families since you guys live next door to each other, look at it as a good thing, al the help you are going to need is RIGHT THERE! Feel very lucky, and your boyfriend will of course be right there with you, not just a phone call but just a few footsteps away. Another way you might consider telling your patrents and his if you are really having a hard time telling them face to face write them a note, tha way you can explain exactly how you feel without any intteruptions, and you can get all your feeling out and they will hear everything you have to say about it. Good Luck.
2016-05-19 02:31:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know your parents or his, so I can't say how they'll react. One thing I do know is that the longer you wait to tell them, the more upset they'll be because you hid it from them. My mom was upset with me mostly because I didn't tell her for so long (I was 19, almost 20; and she didn't find out until I was late in my first trimester). Raising a child is very difficult, but that doesn't mean you can't finish school. There's a lot of people who do drop out of school over pregnancy, but there's a few who keep going. I had a friend who got pregnant in 10th grade and she graduated with the help of her family and hard work. She went to summer school each year to get ahead in school. There's plenty of people who go off to college and get great careers after having a child at a young age. There are some high schools that have programs for pregnant students. Mine didn't (my friend did, however, get help from her counselor at the school), but the other high school in town did.
There are some women who are sure they want an abortion, have always been pro-choice, get one, and regret it later. If you feel that way about abortion, getting one will really haunt you.
What you did wasn't the smartest thing, but instead of focusing on what you did, you need to focus on what you WILL do. Telling your parents should be on the top of your list along with prenatal care.
Good luck! =)
2007-05-09 11:54:30 · answer #4 · answered by Ambrosia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I mentor a 14 year old girl who recently found out she was pregnant, and I was amazed at how supportive her family and school were. Families can really come through in a situation like this.
I really wanted to say to you, don't worry about your dream of being a doctor. There is so much support for people that want to continue education these days - even if it means you take some time off and go back to it, there is no reason why you can't do it - just don't let it only be a dream!
Good luck x
2007-05-09 11:44:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is lots of causes like this. You are not alone. My suggestion is that you tell your families as soon as possible, don't wait. Now how I think you should do that is like this.....tell your families together. Make them see you and your boyfriend love each other. Just plainly say, "I think I am pregnant". Your family may or may not be supportive. That is for them to decide. You want to be doctor. that's nice. You don't have to give up your dreams. There is always a good chance your family will help you. His too. Your 14 and like in the 7 or 8 grade? well there is still time to think about what you want to do when you get older.....now that there is a baby on the way, you may change your mind. How's about teaching?
I hope I helped you.
Don't give up on yourself, you will live. time will go on. and things happen.
2007-05-09 11:47:35 · answer #6 · answered by kissable kimmy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with your view on abortion and respect that very much. You need to get some advice from a family planning centre or doctor and maybe they can help with telling your mum. The sooner you speak with her, the sooner you can start planning what you are going to do. You will need support, you will need financial assistance - babies cost a lot of money and you need to look after your health. If you keep the baby you can still study but it is very difficult as they take up all of your time. Is giving the baby up for adoption an option to you? I wish you all the best - good luck.
2007-05-09 11:45:07 · answer #7 · answered by bongojd 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, you will be alright. You just need to tell your mom how sorry you are and that you made a mistake. Dont hide it from her. I suggest maybe giving the baby up for adoption when he or she is born. You are awfully young to keep your baby but some girls are able to do it. Tell your mom right away so she will have lots of time to get over the initial shock and then she will be able to help you make the decision of whether to keep the baby or give the baby up for adoption. Stay in school as long as you can and you can go back after you have the baby. Best of luck sweetie.
2007-05-09 11:37:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
tell your mom, Im sure she will not want you to abort the baby also, its her grand kid after all,
and im sure she will help you raise the baby if you needed that,
and she will need to help get you a medical card so you can start going to the doctors for check-ups. and you need to make sure your taking your vitamins everyday and eat healthy .
as long as you have the baby in the hospital you will be fine giving birth,
I had a epidural with my last one and it was a pain free birth completly..
dont be pushed into a abortion just because your young, it will haunt you for the rest of your life.
like you said its murder. adoption is better if you had to give the baby up.
everybody grows up different i guess, me I just wanted to get married someday and have kids,
my first kiss was when the preacher said you may now kiss your bride,
Im not being rude and its not too late to turn to Jesus,
Blessings,Debbie
2007-05-09 11:53:08 · answer #9 · answered by stormsstar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HI and Hugz...
know what you are going through...
I was 15 when i had my daughter...
I was very lucky I had support from my grandparents...
My daughter is 25 now and has 4 children of her own...
I am very happy I kept her,I had a miscarraige after her...
She is my only child and she was a blessing...
We are best friends today and she means the world to me...
I hope and pray you do only whats right in your heart darlin
because this is your body and your child, and your decsion..
just find a good support system.... take care ....
2007-05-09 11:49:39 · answer #10 · answered by ♥Saw Dust♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hunny, you will have to tell you parents so you can have more support than just people on the internet....They will be upset but tell them that you made a mistake and are willing to deal with the consequences...If you want to be a doctor you still can be....nothing is impossible...and if you want to have the baby, then why not use adoption....Give your baby a good home and be able to fufill your dreams......God bless
2007-05-09 11:39:57 · answer #11 · answered by madimadimarisol 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋