im a teen and my parents pasted away awhile ago. and im currently living with my grandmom. im often asked this "why do u live with your grandmom?" or "why dont u live with your mom?" or "where is your parents?", etc. im sure u get the point. well...THE QUESTIONS ARE REALLY ANNOYING. whenever i answer and say my mom pasted away. there is always a followup question like "for real, what happened?" When did it hapen?" are u sad?" did u cry?" OFCOURSE IM WAS SAD AND CRIED YOU ******* IDIOTS!!! **what do i do about this?** IT REALLY BOTHERS ME ALOT!!! please im beggin help me. what do i say?
2007-05-09 10:56:59 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
This is a very rude question to be asked. I'm assuming that it's always by people who don't know you. Your close friends would already know your situation. If these are people who you know you will never see again, let 'em have it. When asked why you're living with your Grandmother, say because your parents passed away. When asked if you are sad, give a way rude answer like "Hell no, best day of my life!, went out and had a party." Their eyes will bug out, and you will leave them with their mouths hanging open. Or you could ask them why they feel the need to ask such rude and personal questions. That will give them something to think about as you're walking off. If it's someone that you want to get to know, just say, "I'm sorry, I don't really wish to discuss this with you. " I hope this helps.
2007-05-17 10:17:41 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How rude to ask if you cried. It's not that unusual to live with a relative. What a person is wondering is if you have family elsewhere and live with your grandmom so that you can go to that school, or if you're secretly some wild kid who's been kicked out of the house and has to live with a relative. I guess you know that but it doesn't make it easier, does it?
Whatever you say, there will be a followup question. The only shortcut - too late to be of an use to you - would be to say 'I live with my mom' and just pass your grandmom off as your mom. But now that enough people know, you're just going to have to stick with the truth!
By the way, telling an untruth, like saying your grandmom's your mom, only buys you time in the short run. Eventually, someone would ask, 'So where's your dad?'
2007-05-17 07:21:44 · answer #2 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many teens who live with a grandparent, do so because of problems in the home, not because of death, so as I see it, that's why they ask you why you live with your grandmother. It's a difficult situation for you, and I'm so sorry your parents died. I lost my dad when I was 17, and my mom, just a few years ago. Teens are very afraid of death and losing their parents, and because they haven't experienced what you have, they want to know the details. Yes, it is annoying, but you may want to consider another option for handling the questions. You are in a great position to teach others, and to help others going through the same thing. Everything in life happens for a reason, and something good does come out of darkness, even though you may not see that now. Stay strong, don't answer questions you're not comfortable with, and you'll be okay. And most of all, don't get mad at those who ask. They may be asking because they're afraid, or they may ask because they want to know in case it happens to them. Good luck sweetheart.
2007-05-16 00:05:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry for you that you lost your parents but you have someone that loves you very much your grandma. As for the people if they are strangers to you even if you go to school with them you do not have to explain yourself. I am sure your best friends know your situation and are not asking. So for the others like the other answers people gave you it is none of their business. You can answer as calmly as you can it is non of your business. or if you feel you must say you just say you live with your grandma and leave it at that. If they persist ..."Where are your parents?" Just say you don't feel like talking about it. Keep up not telling people and they will get the point. I guarantee it!
2007-05-16 01:55:12 · answer #4 · answered by bssd12000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nosey people are very tiring and unfortunately everywhere.
I would tell them that my parents passed away, and that it's still very hard for me to talk about. Don't feel forced to answer simply because they asked the question. This is your life, and if you don't feel like sharing the details of your pain, that is perfectly valid. I'm a private person, too, so I understand where you're coming from.
They may feel that being your friend gives them the right to ask and know these questions, but those friends whom you choose to be close to will respect your privacy, respect your pain, and will listen with a sympathetic ear IF and WHEN you decide to share your story with them.
2007-05-15 15:59:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes the best thing to do when someone asks you a really stupid or uncomfortable question is to turn it around on them and make them realize how stupid they sound. To pull it off successfully you must never lose your cool... Try just turning to the other party and calmly saying "Excuse me?" or telling them flat out that you cannot believe they would ask you something that would obviously be really hard to think about let alone answer. People will ALWAYS say and do stupid things, but I have found that if you make them stop and re-think what their saying they tend to get the hint. Good Luck!
2007-05-17 17:39:40 · answer #6 · answered by andiw 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After you say that you live with grandma because your parents are deceased....hear that? Deceased. Usually, no one will ask why. If they do, simply say that You don't like to discuss the topic, let's talk about something else.
It usually does the trick. If someone keeps pressing fro info, say " please, I'd rather not discuss the topic. If they persists even still, leave...really, They are highly invasive and know no boundaries. This is a boundary issue.
2007-05-09 18:05:40 · answer #7 · answered by Legandivori 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the youn people will tend to ask you what happened, and I don't think it's that they're being nosey at all. If the questions start coming after you tell them your parents have passed, just try to blow them off. Change the subject, that's the best way to approach it at the teen level.
2007-05-17 16:11:00 · answer #8 · answered by Lisa R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, don't be offended.... while the continued questions are rather annoying.... I'm sure many teens just can not quite comprehend loosing their parents at such a young age.
Heck I'm 56 and still can't quite comprehend loosing mine! And they are 79 and 84!
Just tell them, "My parents died a long time ago and I'd really rather not talk about it." They "should" get the message with that.
(((((Hugs))))
2007-05-09 18:02:55 · answer #9 · answered by ♥♥The Queen Has Spoken♥♥ 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
First, I am so sorry for your loss! And people are curious, especially when it is something so heart rending. I would say something like" My parents passed away, it really hurts me to talk about it so I would rather not." If questions persist, walk away.
2007-05-17 01:38:39 · answer #10 · answered by dizzkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋