I've been really depressed.........?

Question

and I thought about suicide. I cut. i cry at night. I am 17 ,and hate my life. I dont know what to do. I love God, My dad is a pastor. My parents are a huge part of my depression. They control my everymove, what i listen too, dress, and talk!....it drives me crazy. I have been so depressed it hurts physically. I feel sick phsically. And I cant take any pills because my parents....can you pray for me or give me any advice? Id love it.

Answer 1

I don't even know you, and there is a good chance that I will never meet you; however, I can tell you that YOU ARE SIGNIFICANT!! I am only 20 myself and there are definitely hard times, but they come along with the good. Being just a few years younger than you I understand that it sucks being in that "in between" stage where you are just beginning to have your own self-discovery and are finding out who you really are. I am a Christian as well, and for years I tried to control my life, but seriously, whatever it is that seems to big for you to handle, give it up to God. Faith is all about realizing that God will provide for us, and by realizing that we don't' know what His great plan is. Try to talk to your parents and if that doesn't work, talk to God...he will come through for you. Remember God's greatness when times are the hardest. Check out Psalm 42: 5-6, God bless you and keep you!

Answer 2

It seems to me that one factor in your depression might be your lack of control over your life. You cut, perhaps because the pain is one of the few things you can control. That's not to say there isn't a chemical imbalance and I would not rule out medication but therapy can also be very helpful. And you shouldn't take medication without therapy because the pills will sometimes have an adverse effect that a good therapist should be on hand to explain.

Try to take some control elsewhere. If moving out is not feasible, do try and get some help or counseling through your school. The counselor might be able to help and point you to some resources.

Answer 3

Cutting yourself is not going to take away the pain, and life can seem really bad when we look at it in a temporary sense, you will not live with your parents forever, and I know short term solutions seem so easy, but in reality, better things are to come, It can be real quick and easy to mess up your life, or take it, only you don't just die, you go on to worse than you could ever imagine, God promises us that we will never be given so much that we can't handle and gives us little tests of faith, and we should know that God is going to give us something so much better and rewarding, Good things take longer. I've been in these situations, where I used to cut myself and feel like everything was useless, and later something good would happen and I felt really silly for thinking that way, don't talk yourself into something that hurts you, because that is satans plan.
You need to talk to your parents, let them know how you are feeling, and if your father is a true pastor, he will listen, start out by asking him to just listen to what you have to say.
you are still young you have a whole life making your own decisions, where you will work, what you will wear, and where you will live, and I'm sure alot of people really love you and care for you, especially The Lord, because he is our Father.

Answer 4

First, let me tell you from experience, you have so much to look forward to. Giving up now would be a huge waste.

It is difficult to be your own, individual, intelligent person and still be completely controlled by your parents. But you are 17, almost out of school and ready to move out on your own. I realize this is easy for me to say and hard for you to contemplate, but it is just one more year, just one more out of the 70-80 or more you have left. We all go through very tough times and it makes us stronger.

I think you need to talk with your parents though. Whether they respond positively or not, getting it out and letting them know how you feel is important. It will take a load off your mind. You can at least discuss ways in which you can begin to make more of your own decisions.

That period of moving out from under the control of parents and into control over your own life is a rough and rocky one. We have so many ideas for what we want, but limited opportunities. Right now, concentrate on what you need. Take advantage of what your parents DO give you. Learn whatever you can and use it to prepare for the huge leap that is waiting for you in just one more year. Most of all, try to have a conversation with your parents about it. It will help you psychologically, if nothing else. And remember that you have so much waiting for you. Life is amazing. A true gift. Do not waste it.

Answer 5

I think I know why you are feeling depressed. I think maybe you are feeling isolated. A lot of young people feel isolated, like they are alone or traped. Because you have strict parents you feel traped, your 17 and most likely want to rebel and experiment and explore. you are Almost 18, and when you turn 18 I sugest going to college in another state and liveing in a dorm. you should pray, and ask god for guidence. you should do your best to be happy. your urge to rebel is normal, and you shoulden't feel guilty about it. insted of cuting maybe you should pray, ask god for help. it might make you feel better. A hot bath and relaxation music will also help, any nature sound tapes are usualy good for relaxing to. The best way to get out of depression is to pretend to be happy, If you tell your self out loud to be happy, to cheer up. its ok to talk to your self. You need to tell your parents that you are depressed, maybe not about suiside or cuting but for sure tell them that you are sad all the time and that you feel the need to explore the world you live in and explain to them in a clam rational way that you are 17 a year away from being an adult and you would like their premision to make your own disisions. Also politely ask why they don't trust you to not be corupted by what you lissten to, tell them that they raised you well and that you would like some freedom so you can prepare yourself for life on your own. I will pray for you, and I really wish you the best of luck. I am sure the depression will pass, and that you will fell better soon, rember depression is only temporary life changes constantly and when life is hard that means god is testing us so that we can grow spritualy.

Answer 6

Are your parents preventing you from taking medication for your depression? You know you can go to the emergency dept. and get help as a last resort. I went through depression at your age. I know exactly what you mean about the physical pain and emotional pain being unbearable. Having unsupportive parents is a real problem. Please talk to someone in real life. This place is not very good for people who actually need help. And you do need help. Don't let your fear of your parents or embarassment over the problem stop you from getting help. You need to stand up for yourself. You do not deserve to be going through this, and there IS help out there.

Answer 7

the first chance you get leave that house and go out and actually see life before deciding to end it. be careful to no to overdo it (i've seen so many kids like you come from ultra-religious households absoutlely lose it when they break away....if it's not drugs it's booze)

it's easy to give in to despair. I know because growing up I had forgotten more about pain and dispair than many of my peers would ever know about and 6 times I had the barrel of a gun in my mouth wanting to end the pain that was every moment of my existance

but each time i made a choice. I made a choice to survive to spite the people who had harmed me, who wanted to bring me to that fatal point. Find a reason to survive, even if the reason is to anger those who would wish you harm. Other, better, things WILL come to you; all you have to do is keep your eyes open to the possibilites avaliable.

may Adoni keep and bless you child through all the days of your life

email me if you need to vent

Answer 8

Get out.

Clearly despite their perhaps good intentions, they have no idea how to accept that you are now a young adult.

find a counsellor to talk to, someone not affiliated with your father or his church in any way. a school counsellor could be your best option.

do you have any sympathetic aunts/uncles/grandparents who you could live with?

As a last resort, if none of these other options are viable, (I very hesitantly suggest this), call Child Protective Services. While this may inconvenience your family, it will (1) let your parents know the severity of how you feel, and (2) even a temporary foster-home assignment could give you space to breath again.

best of luck.

Answer 9

So sorry to hear that. It's not uncommon - it's frustration having to do with your transition into adulthood.

Take control. Plot your escape by planning your adult life. College or work, and move out. On your own, you can have your own way, make your own rules, dress and talk as you please. Then move towards that, like a prisoner spooning out a tunnel from jail. Watch The Shawshank Redemption for inspiration ;-)

Answer 10

You should talk to a friendly person, there may be some here that have answered, but if they stop talking about you and start pushing any other agenda, go to the next one. Take heartfelt advice seriously. There is lots of good stuff out there, you can find it...