well, its not like i DONT believe in love, its just i don't believe in being IN love. really what is love? a time when you cant be away from them for a second? a true deep feeling like you can never let them go? a feeling that you'd kill yourself for them? you'd beg to their every will?
arn't those all obsession?
2007-05-09 10:49:15 · 22 answers · asked by Kat 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You're right. That is obsession.
Its an old saying that if you love something, let it go and if it comes back its yours. People seem to forget that part.
2007-05-09 10:53:23 · answer #1 · answered by Takfam 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
More a feeling of caring, familiarity, comfort , friendship, completeness, lust, companionship,understanding and accepting a person for who they are good and bad it takes alot of feelings combined to have love, there intensities varies as to each feeling with different personalities and individual moods, it is not always perfect and feelings change and come and go from day to day , I believe that true love is something that has to grow with time. I believe far to often people confuse lust , friendshipand personal needs with love. I believe lust and friendship is short term feelings and can be the start of love, but to have love it has to grow beyond that starting point and is much more complex.
2007-05-09 18:03:26 · answer #2 · answered by Hey Moe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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ask her exactly, "How do you feel about me?" there. thats it. if she stumbles over the answer then you know the relationship pretty much sucks.
I think there are all kinds of people and there are people that tolerate and even like mostly wonderful unfocused emotionally riveting confusion
I think physiology has a bunch to do with that; any attempt to bring rational order to personal emotion is kind of livind 2d on a 3d world
that said may your future affairs be wonderful happy times
2007-05-09 18:01:40 · answer #3 · answered by treonbarleyverdery 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the way people see love is different in every person. for me its being there for that person not wanting to be with anyone else but them. now every second of everyday is too much. its trusting them with your heart. its that raw emotion you feel just being near them. like your heart skips a beat. being able to forgive them. going through the good and the bad. that's what i hink love is. as for beg to their every will no. you do things for each other but you're not their slaves. you should be equals
2007-05-09 17:54:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO those are not obsessions. That is what love is. Love is a wonderful thing. If you have never felt love before than you cant talk about it. You never know what you will feel or do when you are inlove.
2007-05-09 17:53:41 · answer #5 · answered by Chris F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been married for almost 34 yrs. and I would say that is pretty close.
Its a feeling of closeness to someone else, you catch yourself looking at that person, wanting to be with that person, don't know what you would do without that person.
My husband treats me so good I feel sorry for women who never get to feel this. I met him at age 14! Who would have thought? He was 17.
2007-05-09 17:57:01 · answer #6 · answered by Momwithaheart 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I love the girl i am with. I can be away from her, but not because i want to but because i know it strengthens the relationship, I could let her go if i knew that it would truely make her happy and i will not kill myself for her but i would Live for her and die with out her. I will not bend to her will but i will allow more changes in my own for her than i will for anyone. Love is the ability to do things for some one that you know will make them truely happy but not to the point that you physically hurt yourself for them
2007-05-09 17:57:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think when you are in love you have a deep affection and appreciation for them, your heart races at the thought of them, you find every possible excuse to talk about them.....and you feel a bit of nausea in the pit of your stomach. It's the nausea that disinguishes love from lust, in my book.
2007-05-09 17:56:13 · answer #8 · answered by Clarissa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you meet the right person, the one that makes your life all the more worth living, the one you can't wait to see or talk to, the one that makes your breath catch in your throat.. when you meet that person, then you'll know you are in love, until then you're right, it all seems a bit obsessive.
2007-05-09 17:57:54 · answer #9 · answered by Aunt Henny Penny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you describe is not love. If you are not able to be in love with someone so be it. You must have had a very bad childhood that did not show you what a loving relationship looks like.
2007-05-09 17:57:34 · answer #10 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋