white guy - black girl?

Question

I met this caucasian male the other day and he told me I was "pretty" and asked me "did I date white guys?" I said "yea." But I didn't think he wantd 2 talk to me. less than 30 minutes later...he text me saying that"he'd never talked to a black girl b4,but I seem diff." I'd never dated a white guy b4,but I'm open 2 diversity n respect! so he wants to hang out this wkend n he asked what I wanted to do.I said something *relaxed*...so he asked if I drink n smoke.I'm not up 4 engaging in those activities with him esp. the 1st time we chill...plus he needs 2 see me as an individual n not a drinking buddy.He asked me were we still on 4 the wkend..I just said let me know the plans b4 hand n not @ the last minute.all he said is "ok. better come fly!"?I don't know where we're going...but he also said."don't be intimidated bc i'm white." it doesn't bother me, but I hope he doesn't bc i'm blk.I don't know what he's up 2. I think he's tlkd 2 a blk girl b4, but don't c y he would lie about that..??

Answer 1

girl....beleieve me...all he want to do is 'do the nasty' dont give into it though

Answer 2

This has been an issue around me also. I believe the white girls that date black guys exclusively have a low self esteem. They are usually the girls that are overweight with pasty white skin that are not very attractive. The ones I know do not think they deserve white guys or that they are not good enough. It is not good for anyone to have low self esteem, it doesn't matter what you look like. From what I've seen also, it is a trend in high school. Usually short lived after graduation. Girls finally get tired of being mistreated and the guys usually grow up. Why don't many white guys date black girls?

Answer 3

YEa, if you're suspicious then its for a good reason. Heres the reason, He DIDNT tell you where it would be., Thats making a big assumption or its some kind of just 'hang out' thing where he thinks its cool to be seen with you or something. I find it a bit creepy but then again Ive been assaulted a couple of times. The last creep I met up with WAS a creep. He might not be a creep, but still you need to know who what when where and all of the above and then maybe it will be cool and maybe you should bring a friend of yours too.

But then again you dpnt want to party with him SO why does he want to take you partying? Thats what Im getting at. Translate he doesnt give a crap what you want to do and that to me is creepy. If he doesnt gibve a cvrap about that then who knows how hell treat you there. I would blow him off

Answer 4

Well, First off it shouldn't matter what color either of you are.I think you are both putting to much emphasis on this.You are a person and he is a person.If you both have interest in the other to start.Just hang out and see where it goes.
And so what if he wants to have a drink.If you don't feel like having one than don't.No one should expect anyone to be or act different in someone Else's presence if that's what they do.If he is at your home or the home of someone who doesn't condone that behavior than hopefully he is respectful of their/your wishes.Be yourself and show him that person.If he is into drinking alot and your not and that isn't your style, than move on if it is going to affect your whole opinion of the complete person.But my best suggestion is to just chill on the judgment and the reading into things so much.Just walk into it with an open mind and you just may be pleasantly surprised.
Good Luck!

Answer 5

I must be missing something here. I think all women are beautiful and never even notice skin color. This guys seems a little hung up on the subject in my humble opinion. I have done tax returns for 36 years and try to treat everybody alike; I snarl at them and ask questions and put money in their pocket or purse and they are happy. There are only two kinds of people in this old world; a s s holes and not a s s holes. People can be one or the other, the choice is theirs.

Answer 6

hmmm, not sure what your question is....

If you're asking if you should go out on a date with him, then why not. Go for it and see how it turns out. Texting is one thing, but no substitute for really getting to know the individual in person, regardless of race. Also, if you don't smoke or drink then say so. No need to change just because someone else is into something.

-good luck

Answer 7

Pick a neutral spot and communicate your concerns, and listen to his thoughts, and if it makes sense then, as personalities, that you could enjoy one another's company, make some definate plans. It can be good, but there is more negotiating, and of course some others will be surprised, and some negative, and that needs to be discussed as well. Respect and communication are the 2 keys.

Answer 8

Blow this guy off. He 's just a party boy. First date and he wants you to get drunk and high...think he's got something else on his mind? Tell him you're not into that crap and wouldn't date someone who was. Don't let this one as* give all white guys a bad name, some of us actually are very nice. by the way...big ups to you for being open minded. When I went to high school in the 70's I got my *** stomped for dating a black girl. I didn't care, I played defensive Tackle on the football team and took em out, one by one. I still talk to that girl too, 32 years later. Pretty cool.

Answer 9

I hung out with a black chick one time and im hispanic by the way.
We had fun, it was the first time I had ever kissed a black chick and we almost took it to the next level.
Sure wish we could have it would have been great.

Just relax and be your self if you want to date out of your race.
In my eyes we are all the same race and that is the "Human" race.

That is all I have to say about that.

Answer 10

I think you should pick somewhere to go, dont go out and drink, tell him you would rather go to the movies because, you can really tell alot by a guy taking you to a movie.
a) If he doesn't open the door for you, he is not a gentlmen.
b) If he does not pay for anythig, LOSER
c) If he does not want to go at all, he obviously does't really want to get to know you. Sorry to be harsh.

Answer 11

Good for you for being open to diversity. I can understand if you don't want to engage in those types of activities the first date. Instead I would shift him in the direction of a crowded place with people, just in case he turns out to be a jerk, you can be on neutral territory.