My bf has cheated on me and i havent talked to him since. We got together like 2 weeks ago. ANd are I wasnt really into the realtionship so i think that is why he cheated on me... And i met the girl who he cheated on me with and now shes sayin **** about me and its really starting to piss me off.. Should i just talk to my bf about it like when i see him tomorrow or should i just let him continue talking to her its been a week and a few days... I dunno what to do??
plz help??
2007-05-09 10:35:03 · 59 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
shes sayin that i dont like her and shes telling everyone that he is hers and that im just making it up because i like him and that is not true!!
and i told her to dont worry about it but its getting to me now i really want him back now... I dont know what to do??
like i said i havent talked to him in like a week and accouple of days...
2007-05-09 10:35:57 · update #1
Well Kesha you have two choices. You can sit there and play the role of the victim and go through a whole lot of drama over your boyfriend of merely two weeks or you can accept the fact that this guy lacks maturity and committment it takes to be in a meaningful relationship. Being a guy I can tell you first hand that if he is cheating on you after two weeks it would be wise for you to choose the second option and move on. As the saying goes, "There are plenty of fish in the sea." In other words, there are a whole lot of guys out there looking for a nice young lady such as yourself. All you have to do is go fishing and real them in. And besides, you had to admit yourself that you weren't really into the relationship. The question you really have to ask yourself is whether you are angry because your relationship is in jeopardy or because he saw your weren't interested and chose to move on with somebody else? Peace and God bless.
2007-05-09 10:56:23 · answer #1 · answered by cave man 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You know what...? The most logical answer would be to sing the song "To the left" By Beyonce and kick him to the curb right?
But in the same aspect, no matter how many comments you get from your question above, you will still be left with one person's decision. YOURS.
It's up to you to decided. Some questions you can ask yourself is:
1. Do I forgive him? (Even if you let him stay you will have that in the back of your mind for the remainder of your relationship). Forgiving is something different from forgetting.
2. Can I trust him?
3. Do I want to remain in this relationship now that things are tainted.
4. Is his love as strong as mine?
If it's not real in your heart right now, you will hurt more staying than the pain in letting him go.
2007-05-09 10:47:16 · answer #2 · answered by ~Virtuous Woman~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The way gal is find another male that is better than him. He ain't worth it gal. I know its hard to let go, seem bec he's cheated with that chick, Now you want him back! You are so confused, annoy with everything going on at moment.. You don't know what to do. Honestly Why not have a laugh back to her by having a better boyfriend. " Don't get mad- Get even" Try not to play her game, Be strong, show her nothing bothering you. It will eventually bother her at the end.
As for your ex.. Really its up to you. If you leave gasp too long between u, him without talking He'll properly thinks its over between you.
Choices are made between u, him, Noone else.
Best Luck Gal
2007-05-09 10:46:02 · answer #3 · answered by blue_sassy007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl let it go. You do not need the drama. He should have clarified the relationship with you before he started sticking this other chick remember you could either do better or you could do bad by yourself. As far as the chick talking sugar tell her you don't want her man and if you did it would not be a problem to get that because he is easy just like her
2007-05-09 10:42:33 · answer #4 · answered by S M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have had this guy for 2 weeks as your boyfriend and he has cheated on you. It's been two weeks, we make mistakes in life. I say you should learn from this experience, and move on with your life. There will be someone else for you that will treat you the way you should be treated. As for this other girl, she is antagonizing you. Be the bigger person in this situation and ignore it, move on to something better. You may find that person your looking for soon, or maybe later down the road.
2007-05-09 10:43:45 · answer #5 · answered by dlr9999 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not take him back under any circumstances. If he cheats on you, he clearly doesn't love you enough. I don't care if you "weren't into the relationship" at the time. If you date someone exclusively, there is no excuse for infidelity. As for the girl, she's a tramp who doesn't love herself enough to turn down a guy who is in a relationship with someone else. Tell them both to take a hike. Tell them you hope they're happy together! You deserve someone better. Think of the wonderful devoted guy you might meet tomorrow! Your boyfriend and his whore are not worth your time.
2007-05-09 10:42:42 · answer #6 · answered by ms dont panic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well for one if you really weren't into the relationship then I wouldn't be too upset about it. If she's talking s*** on you, you can do 1 of 2 things. Either ignore it cuz she's just tryin to start crap w/you. Or you can confront her. Tell her she did you a favor by opening your eyes to the loser she's now seeing, and that in time, he'll do the same to her. I believe in karma sweetheart. What goes around comes around, my ex-husband is living proof of that.
Besides, eventually you'll find someone that will make you deliriously happy. Then you'll forget about ol what's his name.
2007-05-09 10:46:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you want him back? Is it because you care for him or is it just to win the competition you have with the other girl?
Also, how much does it bother you that he cheated? Do you believe he will do it again?
If you care for him, feel like you can forgive him for cheating and are willing to accept he may cheat again; Take him back.
If not, then move on to someone that will treat you right. They seem to deserve each other.
2007-05-09 10:42:48 · answer #8 · answered by Matt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were only together for a few weeks, then it wasn't a relationship worth holding on to. He didn't even give it a chance... or maybe he thought it was a casual/dating relationship, not a serious/monogamous relationship like you did.
Ignore them both and forget about him. He's not your boyfriend anymore - just some guy you dated and it didn't work out. Stay out of the drama, it won't gain you anything. If she bugs you, tell her she can have his cheating loser behind, and she's welcome to it, because you're setting your sights on something better.
2007-05-09 10:40:58 · answer #9 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you are just now realizing you want to be with him, it might just be to spite the girl who is talking about you behind your back. If you weren't into him then, keep it that way. Regardless if you were only together 2 weeks and he couldn't stay faithful, he probably isn't worth a damn anyways. If he didn't think things were going well there was nothing holding him back from breaking it off with you before persuing her.
2007-05-09 10:39:31 · answer #10 · answered by tinks44 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋