girl problems?

Question

I can't really seem to get a girlfriend. Can't understand why I'm very stylish, all my female friends say i'm sweet (so i belive them) I'm a little overwieght but that's lik the only turn off. could have something to do with me? whenever i get a girls phone number i don't call for a long time 2 afraid ill screw something up. or ill do something like call her another chicks name or sometheing like that. plz help!

Answer 1

Hi. u sound really nice but i think part of the problem is in your question. "they say your sweet". see, some guys are told they are handsom and some are told they are cool, hip etc. for some reason in our generation most girls are blind to what really means something in life. cuz the handsome guy can loose his looks on acount of an accident or something else and then the girl will wake up one day and say, 'without his looks i don't really like him'. or the guy that is cool, when it comes time to setle down, he might just turn into a dreary and booring fellow, but someone who's sweet will always stay sweet. u have to realise that u have nothing to fear, women like guys who know what they have to offer (don't be too out there, cuz that is not what will get one of us) just show them the real u and then you'll get the girl that is perfect for u cuz she'll love u for your sweet ways and for everything about u.
and plz plz plz, if a girl gives you her #, call, we usually wait for that call. plus, what's the worst thing that'l happen? she'll blow u off? there r so many better girls than that one out there for u...
good luck

Answer 2

Don't worry about getting a girlfriend. I think it this worrying that is hurting you. It sounds very cliche but just be yourself. Have a sense of humor. Don't ever take yourself too seriously. I'm no Brad Pitt, but I'm married to a beautiful and intelligent woman, because I make her laugh. Remember that!

If you get a number and you like her, CALL HER! Don't wait! You have to strike while the iron's hot. Sure you may say something dumb but relax no ones as smooth as they are in the movies.

Again, don't focus on getting a girlfriend. Focus on meeting new people and learning about them and see how they fit with you. Everything else will work itself out.

Answer 3

when you get a girl's phone number, call the next day or so. If you don't call for a long time, they are going to think you aren't interested and move on. You need to step up and make the first move. If you make a mistake while calling just say sorry and if it was really bad, just hang up and you don't have to talk to them again. Good luck. I hope you find a partner soon!

Answer 4

This is the best way to handle girls dude. In all honesty, it does wounders for everybody and makes life a lot less stressfull! Just talk to them and like you would around your guy friends, be yourself. Then you will notice who likes you for who you really are and all that jazz. Girls are not as shallow as men are when they are checking out others. But yeah, talk to them and all that like you are just friends. Then you will notice the ones that are more interested in you than the others, then try to persue that further, but its always good to be friends first, that way, if things get rough, you can still be friends in the end. Just got to stay chill. And with the name confusion, your probably to on edge when your around them, you have time, dont worry so much. If you do mess up on a name, apologize before the gasp is let out by them. It wont make it better, but it gives you a head start. Just dont let that happen, and be yourself!

Answer 5

Well, obviously the girls like you and they must like you enough to give you their numbers! Besides, if you're "messing up" as you put it even when you call them, then why wait?! Just do it. Call them a couple of days after you get the number, and make sure you have the piece of paper in front of you w/ her number and NAME, so you don't call her something else! Make sure that YOU write down where you met her on the same piece of paper, so you can call & say, "Hey (her name here)! How's it going? It's (your name here). We met (the date) at (such and such ... where you met her). I was wondering what you were doing this weekend (or whenever) ... maybe you'd wanna hang out!" It's real easy. Write everything down if you have to, until you feel comfortable enough to do it w/o a "cheat sheet."

Answer 6

Confidence is where it's at! You just need to calm down, plan out what you're going to say... call the girl and walla! And I mean plan it, write down her name and what you want to say, seems lame I know but it helps to overcome these sticking points.

And seriously what can you screw up? She's not your girlfriend when you call so if you say something wrong and she doesn't hangout she's still not your girlfriend, you haven't lost anything!

Make sure when you are meeting new girls to stay away from the dreadied "friends zone". Meet girls and make it obvious that you are into them by flirting and the likes.

Answer 7

1) Sweet guys don't get girlfriends, they get female friends. Women want a guy who acts like a guy, not like one of their friends. Sac up man!

2) So you're a little overweight. Me too. Start jogging if it bothers you (and it does, else you wouldn't have said anything about it).

3) Well how in the hell do you expect to get a girl if you don't call them man? C'mon now, this isn't like the pizza delivery guy. Your girl's not just going to show up out of the blue. You need to go find her!

4) ...Hm, that's a tough one. I guess if you call her another chicks name then you're thinking of another chick. Don't do that. Concentrate on the here and now and leave your over-thinking meticulous detail oriented brain at home. We're human beings, not human thinkings. So be in the moment, don't think in the moment.

Answer 8

You are being you're own worst enemy. If you are going to get a girl's number only do so if you plan to call. Don't be afraid you'll screw something up, you really need to relax and be yourself after all you want the girl to like you for who you are. Lastly, when you get her number write her name above it, that way when you call it you'll have no question about what her name was.

Answer 9

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Answer 10

You answered your question. Not calling for a long time conveys to a girl that you are not really wanting to talk to them, girls like to be called. You seem insecure for the reason you gave, and that turns girls off.
Are you okay with people you want to get to know calling you the wrong name? Of course not.