Recently I broken up with this fantastic guy because he didn't want my father's and I relationship to go down hill because of him. My ex and I are still friends, and we really love each other still. He wants me back and I want him back but I may have to pay the concequences. My father lost a bit of my trust when I was dating this guy. My father thought I was staying after school with the guy and not working on my academics, which I was working on. I really want to be with this guy but my family doesn't really approve of him. What should I do? (note I will give you further details later.)
2007-05-09 09:43:19 · 36 answers · asked by Midget 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I didn't break up with him, he broke up with me because of that.
2007-05-09 11:29:05 · update #1
Well, frankly you are facing the challenge of asserting your identity over here.
You need to prove to your parents that your academics is paramount for you.
Once you show that you can handle both studies and the guy, I'm sure your parents won't have a problem. Give them that assurance.
Go ahead, girl!!! It's not so difficult.
2007-05-09 09:51:57 · answer #1 · answered by Himalayan Mystic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say do what feels right. If he is a fantastic guy then stay with him, but remember your parents know best. There has to be a reason they dont like him. If you are in high school I would say stay away until you graduate. If there is a way you can prove you are doing your work and this guy is not messing with your performance then I would have a sit down with your father. If you lost the trust, you have to get it back. Ask him why he thinks you aren't working when you really are.
I hope the best for you! :)
2007-05-09 09:56:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here is my take on the situation, I know that sometimes it seems like your family doesn't approve of relationships because they don't understand or some other unfair reason. I think you should take a BIG step back and look at why they really didn't approve. Your family, usually, knows you better than anyone, maybe they can see something you can't. If after taking a close look at the situation, you can't find a good reason, I think that you should follow your heart.
2007-05-09 09:52:13 · answer #3 · answered by rebelwitch80 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well for one thing I didn't catch your age, not that that is important. But fathers are allowed to protect their little girls from the undesirables in this world. Your father may see something that you don't see because much of what you see is with your heart. If you really like this guy the first thing is to remember that your father loves you and wants nothing but good for you. If this be the case then sit down with your dad and discuss why he feels the way he does towards this young man. Then see if you can gradually get your male friend to sit down with your dad and discuss his plans in life. A man that will sit down with a girls father carries a lot of weight. It shows that your friend has a respect for your dad and is not attempting to hide something.
2007-05-09 09:55:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you really like this guy then you should.But it is hard to keep a relationship with someone if your family doesnt approve. No matter what anyone says, family always has a way of coming up. What did you do in order for your dad to lose trust in you? Just be careful, because to gain the trust is really hard to get.
2007-05-09 09:52:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello there I know you need help finding out about your feelings and I don't want this to sound corny or weird, But here goes...I think if you really love your ex boyfriend you should not let anyone or anything get in the way of your feelings for him because one of these days you are going to wake up and realise that you wanted to be with him and you are not and no one wants to be alone or scared they will never find there soul mate and please believe me when I say this I don't know you,But this guy is your soul mate and you know it right? I know you do just by reading what you have to say about him and you should go for it really follow your heart and go and get him before it is too late! Everyone needs to be happy and you deserve it.
Now go find him and tell him how you feel OK?
don't take a second thought about it or you will never find another one like him :)
please tell me how it goes OK?
2007-05-09 09:57:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey hun, I think you should re-do everything. Start over. Start dating again, but gain your father's trust by doing anything you can. Keep working on your academics. Show your father that you really love each other and that you really would love for him to approve and that it would make you so happy. I was in your situation, but everything turned out okay and i'm still with my boyfriend. we've been together for 3+ years.
www.myspace.com/dollfacexzombie
if you'd like to talk more!!
2007-05-09 09:56:55 · answer #7 · answered by Lady Luck 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since you are still in school & living under your father's roof. Then listen to your father. After all he's a guy & knows how they think. You made the right decision. When your summer break comes around, you can maybe start with him again.
2007-05-09 09:50:37 · answer #8 · answered by shellysd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to ask yourself how much you truly love this guy. I myself was in the same situation. I repeatedly left my boyfriend because of relationship problems and would retreat to my moms house. Well after awhile I would go back to him after things got better and eventually it ruined my relationship with my mom. She no longer trusts me not to go back to him and to this day she won't talk to me. You also have to ask yourself if he is worth losing your family over. I know its unfair. Your family loves you so why can't they just accept him and let you be together? Its because they care about you and don't want to see you get hurt. My best advice is to follow your heart and if you make a mistake its something you'll learn from but trust me if he is one of the good ones don't ever let him go. There are not a lot of good ones left anymore.
2007-05-09 09:57:08 · answer #9 · answered by sweetrabbit22 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in the same situation as you once.........I loved this girl and my parents absolutely hated her.....and then I didnt know why but looking back at it I clearly understand why...... Why do your parents not approve of him...is it him or just the fact that your dad dont like the mix of you and a guy? best thing to remember is that your family is doing what is best for you...It might be hard to see that now but when it passes you will.......
2007-05-09 09:50:11 · answer #10 · answered by Nate the Great 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋