Me and my best friend have been close for 3 years. He's the one i can talk to about everything and i'm the only girl that can "open him up" (pretty lucky to have that considering the fact he's the "shy boy" private-person type). He's liked me all this time and just recently i started to develop feelings for him. We care for each other deeply but decided that if the right time came, it would just happen - no rush. Recently, we just lost someone we knew - he was very close to him. I know i'm not being a pushover and i don't wanna annoy him so i would (now and then) call and txt to see how he's doing.
Personally, I've been going through such a hard time with other things in my life (my lowest point) and I've been reaching out to him letting him know i'm there but i get nothing in return. I know i should't expect much but i feel hurt by what's going on between us - there's no communication. How can i reach out to someone if they're not even there?
2007-05-09 09:37:12 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I'm not the agressive type unlesss I know it's my place to really do something, I'm shy myself and it's hard for me to put all my feelings (all the frustration I'm going through) aside and call him esp. when he's not gonna respond back...
The time i have available for him at the end of the day, i'll call (once a week) to see how he is, but he's out drinking...I don't know if that's how he's handling things...and i'm being a stupid girl for feeling this way...
can someone help me please?
and first and foremost, he's my FRIEND...my feelings for him otherwise, have nothing to do with anything right now..
2007-05-09 09:37:56 · update #1
Sorry to hear about what you and he are going through. please realize that this (drinking) maybe how he is dealing with things. sometimes we as guys are not good with opening up ourselves even though we know it would be better to have someone to listen to us. Sometimes all you can do is to let him know that you are there for him. a shoulder to lean on. Be supportive to him, but also get someone to talk to for you as well. Handle the emotions that you are feeling over losing someone, and then maybe it will be easier for him to open up to you. If he doesn't, then maybe someone you both know can talk with him. Either way, drinking is NOT the way for him to deal with his emotions. Best of luck. If you believe in God, PLEASE pray. Allow God to come in and start healing.
Best of wishes
Robert
2007-05-09 10:26:12 · answer #1 · answered by Fugitive Peices 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
everyone grieves differently, he probably just needs some time to sort himself out....feeling sucks....i know.....and expectation is one of the worst things in the world...i am having a prob with that myself right now, sounds like you need to reach out to someone else with your own issues and just give him his space, i think the once a week thing is good right now just to let him know you are there...god bless
2007-05-09 10:24:22 · answer #2 · answered by Christi Webb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he hasn't asked for you help then don't push him. I would just let him know you are there if he needs you and leave it at that. If you hound him he may get annoyed and push you away. Always remember you can't help those who don't want to be helped.
2007-05-09 09:43:26 · answer #3 · answered by THEMURPHSTER 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you asking for help and no help ?
Who was lost recently? Can i know????
Do you want to share your hard times with me?
I have nothing to do with you too.
I really don't want anything from somebody even from my family.I just want to get it myself type.
2007-05-09 09:51:21 · answer #4 · answered by amee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
perhapsyou both need a break fom each other. it's no good to depend on one person so much
2007-05-09 09:43:45 · answer #5 · answered by luckford2004 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be nice to him
2007-05-09 09:43:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋