Girls your man has proposed and you are getting married. When you tell your parents, they are excited for you and your fiance. Since weddings tend to get outrageously expensive quickly, both of the parents offer you a nice down payment on a house and a simple wedding OR you are allowed to have a sit down wedding, with all of the trimmings, etc.
Which would you and your spouse choose and why?
2007-05-09 09:06:01 · 41 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Nice house and simple wedding. Weddings are a way to scam the bride/groom and family. Everything is marked up and it's a shame that we have to start our lives together with big bills! If you select the house payment and small wedding you will be able to have your wedding guests (and those who couldn't make it) over for get togethers, holidays, summer BBQ's and in the long run I would rather see my friends/family throughout the year relaxing at my house than all stuffed up at a wedding.
2007-05-09 10:57:06 · answer #1 · answered by Jennifer T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's great you're parents are doing that for you. : ) I think it would be a wiser decision to put it (atleast the majority of the money) towards a house just because the house is more permanent and a way better investment. To be honest, my husband and I are looking at houses right now, (wedding was a 2 months ago, cost around $30k), and we have a $40k down payment for a house...but when we saw this dream house of ours, we realized that if we had a $70k down payment INSTEAD, we'd be looking at only half of the monthly payment, and no PMI costs. We are going with our second pick because of the $40k down payment (dont' get me wrong, it's still a gorgeous 5 bedroom/3 bathroom house), it's just that if had that extra money, it would be less stress for us in the long run. I don't regret my wedding, but I think if I scaled some things back, we'd have a much easier time getting the house we really wanted. That's just my opinion. I'd talk to your fiance about it and see what they want to do. Hope it all turns out great either way.
2016-05-19 01:26:05 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in this exact same situation. My parents told us they would throw us a fancy wedding or we can just have the money and use it for a down payment on a house. We took the money and put a down payment on our house. It was so much easier planning a simple backyard wedding than to plan a big expensive outrageous over the hedge wedding. I had so much fun decorating the house and my son's room. I found out I was pregnant a month after we moved in our house so you see it was fun planning that and painting the room and now my son is 11 months old and plays in his room and our big yard everyday. So you decide. Our wedding was simple but we still remember every detail.
If you have more questions are need some ideas on what we did at our wedding then email me.
ericasmith_05@yahoo.com
2007-05-09 09:33:42 · answer #3 · answered by ericasmith_05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take the down payment on the house. DON'T BE STUPID!!!
After the big day is over, you will not see anywhere near what you spent in the envelopes to make up and why pay rent to someone else when you are lucky enough to have parents to give you a down payment. Have a nice wedding but take the down payment for the house. I know the big wedding is important now but, later you will be sorry you traded a 1 day party for a house that you can make a home everyday.
2007-05-09 09:39:23 · answer #4 · answered by Kat G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had to make this decision. But no one was offering it to me. I had always dreamed of the big beautiful wedding with all the trimmings and details and fairy tale endings. But when we started planning for it and I added up all the expenses I realized that with the money we were going to spend on the wedding, we could give a downpayment on a house. So rather than have my expensive wedding, we both opted for a simpler affair (keep in mind that my fiancee was ready and willing to pay for whatever kind of wedding I wanted). We still have not bought the house, but we are that much closer to it. We're looking at some beautiful homes right now. And if we would have to choose again between the big wedding or the house, it would definetely be the house. We have such amazing memories of our wedding!! Everytime I remember its as if it was yesterday and I wouldnt have changed a thing (well except my husband and my injuries, but other than that nothing).
2007-05-09 09:25:55 · answer #5 · answered by MariChelita 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely the simple wedding with the house down payment. Money is the number one thing that married people fight about and with a down payment on a house you all would be starting off the right way. Unless you have dreamed of a large wedding your whole life, go with the more practical choice.
2007-05-09 09:31:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would definately choose a simple wedding and go for the down payment! It's so difficult to come up with the down for a house! It just about killed me to save and save forever to have enough (especially since I live in the Los Angeles area). I know weddings are important and everything, but it's only one day in your life and having a home is your entire future! I wish my parents could have helped me with a down payment. I'm having a very simple wedding this September and thats what my parents are helping with now.
2007-05-09 10:07:00 · answer #7 · answered by bg918 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A down payment on a house and a simple wedding, why because your wedding day is special but that just one day of happiness. Your house becomes you and the one you love home for the rest of your lives. The wedding day is the beginning, but the house is your happily ever after.
2007-05-09 09:20:17 · answer #8 · answered by tasheema22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You only get married once, or so the saying goes. It's a time for celebration and the merging of two families. Hundreds of memories will be made and pictures to show later generations. Also, when couples marry they function as a team, no matter where work takes them. Are both of you happy in your current job? No chance of relocation? Also, who's family is giving the most money towards the house? Is this going to cause conflict later if something like a divorce should arise? You have the rest of your lives together to save for a house, but only one wedding day.
2007-05-09 09:15:59 · answer #9 · answered by Kasie M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a small reception and put a down payment on your home, you will have an investment then. with a big wedding all you are doing is feeding the five thousand and what do you have once it's over a few photos and memory's and you can't live in a memory, You have to build for the future and it's hard enough to get a down payment on a place of your own so it's nice to have a bit of a boost to get you off to a good start. go for it gal get your house as you will need one sooner or later.
Dr Knowitall.
2007-05-09 09:14:58 · answer #10 · answered by coofooman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋