I get this feeling from people all around me, family, friends , relatives and even class fellas,
I dont understand, i tried to change myself and feel like a different person each day just to fit in. Why dont poeple just accept who I am and LISTEN for Gods sake.
I dont know what to do, When I listen and be fair to ppl why cant they do the same. Now I have started to give and show them the same attitude, but they get along with each other and I feel alone. I have been in this problem for years and years, what do I do, 90% of my day I spend on thinking of a sloution. Looks like I am finished with al solutions.
Maybe its fate...
I am so tired, Im giving up.
2007-05-09 08:14:34 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
unaccepted by whom? The only one you need to be accepted by is God. He will make you stronger and rest come as you go living your life as a good Muslim. Islam is an individually based religion be strong you do not need people to be strong and accepted by other people all you need is you life is short be yourself.
2007-05-09 08:24:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 1⤋
Listen. I'm not a Muslim, but I CAN most definitely relate...
As a girl with many mental health problems, such as AD/HD, clinical depression, OCD, bipolar (type 2), and a slight undiagnosed schizophrenia and paranoia problem (I don't need another medication, trust me!), and my horrible inability to pick up on social cues, I am not exactly attached to any one group. The longer i stay with them, the more they notice that I'm not the same. Then eventually they figure it out, and then my whole class is against me.
So, I stopped caring about what people thought, and stopped hiding my true nature. There is no point to living your life if you're not being the REAL you. And you know what? I felt free. I still feel free. Without caring about all those stupid social guidelines I felt as if I could say anything I wanted. And so I did. And still do. One of the things I used to hate so much about girls were the catty comments. It was like they thought that if they hurt someone, no one would hurt them. (Emotionally and mentally.) One of my favorites was the "Oh my god, did you hear? She's still a virgin!" As if being a virgin is a horrible thing. And this was at the age of 13 that girls would say that! (Yes, I am going to turn 16 in September, and no, I have never even been kissed by a guy outside of my family.
So, if you're like me, or a free thinker, or a observer, or the true leader, be what you know you are, not what everyone thinks you should be. It's a lot easier, and a lot less painful.
Yes, breaking out of the social chains was hard for me, and some people hate who I am. Some people think I'm fake, others think I'm weird, and of course, some think I should be locked up. But I don't mind. It hurt at first, but after a little while, you think up of witty comebacks, and pretty soon, you'll be in the midst of what I like to call a "banter battle". I always win.
That's my happiness. I know it doesn't work out for everyone. Some people can't handle the harsh insults that come their way, so they retreat back. That's fine by me, but not something that I'll ever do.
Be who you are. I know I'm an "crackpot liberal" and an opinionated *****. I know it, and I admit to it. I'm not ashamed.
So, what is the real you?
2007-05-09 08:54:57 · answer #2 · answered by Lina 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Ok, you would not allow any non-Muslim to insult you, but unfortunately you have to listen to the insult, the most important thing don't demonstrate that you were offended and let the one who insult know that Allah (swt) would punish him for that. Hey, this world is filled with so many haters and once they know a false statement they believe it right away and then they say it to other people, so what happens here is false statements are being said about Islam.
I just want to see the faces of those who have been insulting Islam when they regret the days that they offended Muslims and said wrong statements about the majesty of Islam. For the ones that insult Muslims, they must be ignored because if they continue offending Islam, their fate in the after life will be in HELL.
Don't let people judge you for what you are, all Muslims are lucky for being Muslims. If the haters doesn't want to understand that then simply ignore them. A piece of advise from me is NEVER give up, go on with your life close to Allah (swt) and insha' Allah he'll protect you from being affected from misdemeanors and anything that makes you feel depressed.
Peace be with you, and upon the Christians and the Jews
May Allah provide you the life you wish to live.
2007-05-09 09:58:43 · answer #3 · answered by HanyJam 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if she feels content and peaceful now .. then it is a good thing. it is not really important for one to act 'girly' and stuff .. she is probably past that girly phase of her life and found something better. she may have called herself a scatterbrain but that doesnt mean YOU can call her that or mention her as a scatterbrain .. sheesh .. if anything, you must be compassionate towards and be there for her no matter what, see the good in her. if she blanks out then there might be something bothering her .. so she just finding peace in blanking out. dont try to "break her", show her that you will be there for her when ever she needs you and wants you .. eventually when she is ready, hopefully she will talk to you herself.. DON'T force her emotions out. .. okay .. you said she is stoic .. so there must be something in her mind .. she is going through a tough time probably .. so dont make it harder and just be there for her showing that you care for her.
2016-05-19 01:10:12 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope you will permit me to answer, even though I am a Christian... I know you believe in God, so why not ask him about it? Are your friends/family not Muslim like you? If not, then maybe that is the source of their anxiety. If you were my friend, I would listen to what you have to say, because I'm a really good listener and even though were different, that's what God would want and that is what friends should do. Often, I feel this way also... it has also been years. I don't have very many friends or family that believe like me or understand me, I have often felt like an outcast... but thats o.k. because I'm trusting in God and letting Him guide me and He listens to me and gives me comfort. So just put your trust in God through this and I know you'll be fine. I just want to encourage you and let you know you are not alone, and not feel discouraged. If you permit me, I'd like to pray for you that you will be blessed with peace and with friends. God bless you...
2007-05-09 08:26:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
Listen as a fellow Muslimah all you have to do is be good to people and they will do the same. Trust me Allah knows whats best. This life is only a test and like my father told me.. Islam is the way you treat one another (just and example Islam means peace) But the point is the way you treat someone they should treat you. Dont stress the small things. Inshallah one day you'll see that patiece comes in very handy...Good Luck
2007-05-09 08:29:50 · answer #6 · answered by Betty A 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
How old are you and where do you live? It depends on these things. I am not Muslim. But if you live in a Muslim country maybe it is because you have a mind and know how to use it and don't want to be a slave to a man and a baby factory. Try to rise above the circumstances of your birth. If you can, find people who like and love you for who you are as a person, and see you as a PERSON, and not a slave for others. Good luck.
2007-05-09 08:29:46 · answer #7 · answered by tonks_op 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
This is a tough time to be Muslim. Ask a Japanese person how the felt when WWII happened and they imprisoned them.
When Americans are being killed in the name of Allah it's kind of hard to think that Muslims are people we can trust. Why aren't the Muslims for peace speaking out against violent Muslims, etc.
Trust is not a free gift or a right. It is earned by what you do and not what you say.
2007-05-09 08:28:25 · answer #8 · answered by Who's got my back? 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Don't give up. Besides the religious dribble (as a Muslim would call it) I could pour out to you, you are a good person, you deserve good things. God wants you to be happy.
Just relax, eliminate your bad feelings, forgive those that have wronged you, do not give those who are evil power over you. Make a pact with yourself to be a better person, however you can. If this is not good enough for those people around you F*ck them!
Do this and you are on your way to feeling better.
Even though I do not know you, I LOVE YOU. I know this isn't much, but it is all I can do.
2007-05-09 08:21:59 · answer #9 · answered by great gig in the sky 7 · 6⤊ 1⤋
Are you a Muslim feeling rejected? I doubt your friends and family are rejecting you. I would work on how you feel inside, once you have confidence, self esteem then you will not care about what the world thinks. Just remember the world is full of hatred, there will always be someone out there trying to make you feel bad. Always remember too that there is someone out there with worst problems than you.
assalaam-o-alaikum
2007-05-09 08:22:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 9⤊ 1⤋