I have two kids daughter is 3 and son is 2. I am 23 with high blood pressure and I am constantly yelling at my kids. I don't mean to but they just don't listen (most of the time). It has gotten to the point where sometimes I just don't care. They listen to their father and everyone else but me. What can I do to keep them in line?
2007-05-09 07:57:52 · 12 answers · asked by Mommy to 3 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
spank them. u sound like my mum and my sisters. they listen to their dad, but not her. try spanking them and then theyll know that u really mean it
2007-05-09 08:03:25 · answer #1 · answered by texas_tec_chick 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I think if they aren't listening to you, but do to everyone else, then the problem is you. I mean this in the nicest way! It's just that if you yell and scream and threaten, but never follow through, then they just accept that is the way Mum is. They will never listen to you. You must think of a punishment that you know you can follow through on (ie. timeout in another room for two minutes or taking away a toy for 5 minutes, something manageable), without yelling (I know this is hard, but try.....the difference in the kids may astound you). I think they will learn to listen if you change your manner and give them a punishment. Otherwise, they are learning just to yell when something doesn't go right for them and you will have this battle for years, and years, and years to come. Good luck.
2007-05-09 22:24:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Discipline- children listen to those who have given them a consistent consequence. We have been using time-outs since age one and my son is two now. Sometimes when I get frustrated with his behavior I will put him in a time-out as a reminder and then he starts to behave better. The key to a time out is consistency, a timer and having nothing fun for the child to look at or will not work. He has been put in time-outs at church, outside, my parents and when we have company. He has even learned to count to 3 because that is his warning. If you do not get your kids under control now, you won't have them undercontrol in 10 years. Also, why are they misbehaving? After you give a consequences try to see if there is a reason such as wanting your attention. Good Luc h
2007-05-09 08:20:03 · answer #3 · answered by ma2snoopy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son is 3 and he used to be the same way...listened to Dad, but not to me. My Mama advised me, and so I went to the dollar store, got a timer and started putting him on the couch (1 minute for every year-old he is). At first it was a struggle, with putting him back on the couch and resetting the timer. But now I can say "No, or you'll go sit on the couch" and he stops way more often than not. Warn him once and then DON'T negotiate.
2007-05-09 08:08:56 · answer #4 · answered by thesunwasshiningonthesea 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I'm right there with you. I'm going through the same thing with my 5 year old here lately. Find out what you child's love language is - a book written by Gary Chapman - and learn to communicate with them in 'their' language. My son, maybe like your kids, needs a lot of undivided attention/quality time with me. More than the average child. Quality time is his love language. If I'm extra busy and don't slow down to give him attention, he behaves poorly so he can get negative attention at least. If I make time to listen to his stories, play games, read to him and not talk so much on the phone in front of him, he miraculously behaves better.
Timeouts are necessary but don't usually do the trick unless its very consistent. Now that means, even if they just got out of time out and repeat the behavior, you have to put them right back in again until they get it. And be prepared to do it over and over and over until they stop.
Next thing, cut the sugar out of their diet.
Lastly, lots and lots and lots of movement and exercise for the kiddos. Wear them out!
Hope this helps!
2007-05-09 10:16:52 · answer #5 · answered by Amazing A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My kids are also 2 and 3. We try to be careful with the yelling, so they dont start to tone it out, and will recognize it when needed such as for safety.
Are there any consequences when they dont listen to you? Timeouts, taking away stuff, etc?
2007-05-09 08:03:33 · answer #6 · answered by lillilou 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kids need you to discipline. If they misbehave at all, or don't listen, then take the kid to his / her room and leave them there for 5 minutes or until their fits end. After awhile they'll realize that you mean business. And your husband needs to stand up and MAKE the kids listen to you if he is around.
2007-05-09 08:03:40 · answer #7 · answered by GirlinNB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever you do, you have to be consistent. If you let them get away with something once and then discipline them for it the second time it will cause confusion. Set your rules and follow them religiously, then the kids will learn what the limits are.
2007-05-09 08:05:23 · answer #8 · answered by blakereik 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Change the diet - change the behavior! NO JUNK FOODS AND NO SWEETS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
If they continue to misbehave - discipline them or take things away from then until they finally listen. You must also learn how to say NO (and mean it) and to discipline with authority in your voice. Basically, it's all in the voice; talk softly and kids will walk all over you; talk like you mean it and they will listen.
2007-05-09 08:07:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i feel what you need to do is to beat them. Not to much but just enough to scare them up either that or give them the "treat reward". That means when they bring something good or do something worth rewarding they get a treat... the treat depends on you.
2007-05-09 08:08:49 · answer #10 · answered by Chris A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
bribe them with this song,if they are good play it for them- they can dance to it and i guarentee theyl love it.
go to youtube.com and type in Arka Noego - Nie lekaj sie.
its a polish song for kids. they play it at the nursery i work at and the kids go mad, they love it! let me know if it worked
2007-05-10 04:13:08 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋