Women I need advice......Please!!!!!?

Question

I was with my wife since I was 15.....I deployed at age 25 were she divorced me while I was deployed not because I was a bad husband but because she got lonely.........well to make a long story short I never did the teenage or college dating thing and now that I will be coming home soon I want to see what's out there.........where is a great spot to meet DECENT women and do you reccommend the online dating networks? Any advice passed my way is greatly appreciated ladies!!!!

Answer 1

Actually, I met my husband online and we are very happily married! However, I do caution you about the online dating thing. There are a lot of nuts out there, both male and female. I met my hubby on paltalk.com. It has camera capabilities, so we knew what eachother looked like, sounded like, etc. So it makes it a lot easier than just texting.

Do yourself a favor and stay away from the bar scene. People you meet there tend to be awfully flakey. Go to singles get togethers, get together with friends and let them know you are single again, church gatherings, social functions, etc.

Good luck to you!

And thank you for your service and sacrifice! Blessings to you and your family. We are very proud of you and I say that with the utmost respect and admiration!

Hey, I see you are a Sabres Fan, are you from Buffalo? That's my home town!

Answer 2

Welcome home and thank you for the contribution you have made to our country and to the people of the USA! I am sorry about your personal situation, but it seems you are ready to get back into the pool and find someone to fill your life. My first thought would be to direct you to your local church. Unfortunately, churches are filled with women and few men. If you have hobbies, or sports that you enjoy, you can possibly meet nice ladies there - especially if you play summer sports - I don't suggest bars - although I have some friends who have met some nice people there. Hook up with other men friends and ask them to throw some parties and include women you might meet. Look in the newspaper and watch for concerts and dances (learn the salsa) and dance clubs. Libraries, coffee shops, especially the ones which have compturs available can be great places to meet people. As far as ONLINE DATING, I'd be very careful. There are many people who are not honest and deceive people with their age and men are getting in trouble messing with young teens. Be careful if you decide to go this route. If you want to use a dating service, 'go' to one and sign up.. I wish you the best.

Answer 3

First, thank you for your service to the country. I am very sorry your marriage didn't survive it. Not all women are cut out to be military wives--it's definitely not easy.

A lot of where you can go to meet women depends on where you're going back to. I would suggest looking in places you have fun or places where you purchase things you like. For example, I've obtained several dates by going to book stores. I love books, so naturally, I want a man who reads. So when "shopping" I go to the bookstore and hang out in my favorite sections. Eventually, I start a conversation with a likely candidate. IT works often enough. Another good way to scope is at bars or venues where your favorite local band is playing. If you meet a woman at a place like that, you may have more in common than taste in music. Just go where you enjoy yourself and where you have interests...

The internet isn't a bad place to look either. I've never done it, but my cousin is now married to someone she met on the internet, and I swear there is no one in the world better for her. I also have a friend who met her husband on line and they have been happily married for seven years now and are having their second baby.

Essentially, there is no "bad" place to look...just bad choices. Good luck in your search! I'm happy you're returning home safely.

Answer 4

Wow. I could tell you to meet some women in a church but nowadays you meet the DEVIL RIGHT AT CHURCH so I won't suggest church anymore.

I would say colleges, universities, supermarkets (sometimes you'll meet really cool people while you do your shopping lol), maybe try some museums, a nice jazz club, art or car shows, charity events, or some gatherings that your friends have (you may meet one of your friend's friends who could turn out to be a really nice person)

but by all means, dont go looking in bars and some of those clubs where people go to get their party on. also, i wouldnt shimmy up to no woman who had "a drink or two or more" because that alone is like a first impression, you dont want those hassles.

the online dating networks ........ hmmm .....

i dont know about that one. i could say "try it", but then you may meet the wrong person thinking she's one way when she's not that way at all in person. then again, you can meet "psychos" anywhere at anytime. also, alot - AND I MEAN ALOT - of women post gorgeous pictures of themselves ONLINE like they are slim and/or nicely built & pretty but in person they are humongous fat ungodly looking creatures that make you want to RUN LIKE HELL

just be CAREFUL, whatever you do, that's all.

Answer 5

First of all THANK YOU for you service, thank you for sacrificing life here at home to keep home safe for all of us.
Second, where do you live? I could tell you a few places here in Houston.
As far as the dating sites go, I don't see any reason why you couldn't try to meet someone that way. After all it'd be better than picking up some drunk woman in a bar...not my idea of long-term relationship material.
Good luck and I hope you find someone who is perfect for you and your lifestyle.

Answer 6

get out there any way you can to meet people. as long as you have a good head on your shoulders and are a gentleman you will attract and meet the same in a woman. internet dating myspace or whatever the old steroe types of how that form of meeting people is weird is completely dated and untrue, however be patient quality people and relastionships take time. when it is rushed into it usually isn't right.

Answer 7

I would NOT go to online dating! You want the real deal not where someone can be as fake as they want. I also suggest just having fun. I'm assuming you're a good guy and just going out and having fun the right one will be where you least expect. Good Luck!!

Answer 8

Well you can find great women anywhere. Its for you to look until you seek what you truely want. Online networks well i dont believe in them but that might be a good thaing for some people

Answer 9

Try meeting women were you live and places you know they might be single woman , like the parks and beaches and church and etc. if it's meant to be it will be.. this one line dateing can be cool , but they can be who ever you want them to be also and not who you really want.

Answer 10

have friends and relatives set you up. visit the church the library the mall. no online dating. you need to see someone in the face to hear the flutter of your heart.