2007-05-09 07:30:26 · 24 answers · asked by Guy's baby 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Let's put it this way: only honor people who honor you. If they don't honor you, just walk away.
2007-05-09 07:37:38 · answer #1 · answered by poeticjustice 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
All I can say is by the time people reach their twilight years, they should know better than to make snap judgements on others. If you gave that person a reason to dislike you, there's nothing you can do but be polite. However if they just seem bitter towards you for no reason, I would just be withdrawn and slightly abrasive if I could manage without being rude. There is no reason to kiss someone's behind because they happen to have 50 years on you. I respect my elders if they respect me as well. I may lack their life experience, but I'm still another human being. As other users said, respect is a two-way street.
2007-05-09 15:46:49 · answer #2 · answered by dolce 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's sad that some people try to put this control on you and don't even bother trying earn your respect. You are obligated, however to show respect for your elders the same way you would as if you'd been sold into service or were trying to earn a wage. Ultimately, the more responsibility you take for your own life the less you have to deal with authority figures. Don't make the situation worse by starting fights with them. Contribute to their cause until you can be free of them. Maybe things will turn around for you. Good luck.
2007-05-09 14:41:15 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's never good to disrespect anyone, but if someone is disrespecting you it's OK to tell them how you feel no matter what the age of the person. A good way to approach this is to say I feel instead of starting off the sentence with you, because people, as a rule get defensive if you begin with you did. Try expressing how you feel beginning with I feel, and I think you will see better results. Good Luck!
2007-05-09 14:39:53 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Technically, yes it would be rude.
I was in a situation like this recently.
I had inadvertently disrespected someone, and she made it publicly known that it happened.
To try to rectify the situation, I attempted to set up a meeting with her so we could work things out. She didn't bother responding or didn't seem interested in working it out.
So, I sent her an email stating my disappointment and gave her an apology in the email then asked for her apology for disrespecting me. The email was CC'd to a few mutual friends of ours.
She has yet to apologize, and has not spoken to me since, even though she is close friends of my roommates (I met her through them).
Our friends know everything of the situation from my side of the story, and have seen my attempts to set things right, seen my apology, and they know of her refusal to try to set things right from her end.
2007-05-09 19:45:19 · answer #5 · answered by collarncuffsboy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Respect or disrespect are feelings, rudeness is a behaviour. You can disrespect someone without being rude to them. I believe people earn respect of others, old age does not automatically entitles someone to respect.
Rudeness is unacceptable under any circumstances. If someone is rude to you try to avoid them.
2007-05-09 15:47:37 · answer #6 · answered by woman 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on the type of disrespect done on both parts. If someone disrespects you, you don't have to go out of your way to return the serve. Typically, respect should be earned, and you can avoid anyone who cannot respect you. My grandmother disrespected me about seven years ago. I told her off and never spoke to her after that.
2007-05-09 14:38:16 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do not return the disrespect, instead I would limit my exposure to the person. Be polite in thier presence, ask that they not be disrespectful to you or others if it gets too out-of-hand, and leave that room/place when possible.
Simply, don't share your life with rude people.
2007-05-09 14:41:20 · answer #8 · answered by bneffer2 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Some elders think they should be respected while they're completely disrespecting you. It's really hard to respect someone like this, but I guess if you can it will be a whole lot better. Sometimes just agree with them, while you're thinking how much you'd like to serve them an X-Lax brownie.
2007-05-09 14:36:44 · answer #9 · answered by Oreo Schmoreo 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
That's kinda tricky. I would never disrespect an elder, however I'm not one to take being disrespected very well. I would probably ask them why they are being disrespectful to me, and I would ask them to stop.
2007-05-09 14:36:17 · answer #10 · answered by Cresha B 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not at all. The concept of mutual respect is there for a reason. It's especially hard for alot of the younger community cause our elders treat us like hoodlums. If someone, anyone, treats you with disrespect, without your having done anything to cause it, they have automatically lost their right to recieve respect from you.
2007-05-09 14:36:03 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋