I have recently been talking to this boy that has a girlfriend. we have sooo much in common and have fun together. We're now both going on hoilday to the same place and gonna be hanging out together the thing is that his girlfriend is gonna be there and he acts like shes not his girlfriend and treats her like any other girl. I'm i taking him away from her if i am should i stop or should i not care?
2007-05-09 07:15:51 · 15 answers · asked by Aamora S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Should you stop what? Talking to the guy? Unless you're being dishonest, there was nothing that you said that would indicate you're in the wrong. From what you've said, you aren't necessarily going after him so much as you enjoy his company. It would be nice if you could consider his girlfriend's feelings but it's not wrong if you don't because you're not in a relationship with her.
It is impossible to steal somebody's boyfriend or girlfriend. In order for that person to notice you in the first place, they have to take their eyes off their mate- which actually has nothing to do with you. If some other girl was around instead of you, at a time when he no longer wants to be in a relationship with his current girlfriend, that girl would be who he had eyes on. You just happen to be there at the time that it's happening.
Think about this. What is it about you that will guarantee that he won't get bored of you and start looking at someone else? Nothing, that's what. A guy that treats his girlfriend like that is not a guy that will treat you like a queen.
I guess you want someone to tell you that its okay to continue talking to this boy, regardless of him having a girlfriend. To be honest, yes it is okay. You can hang out all you want.. stay on the phone for hours, if you want. You aren't cheating unless YOU have a boyfriend. Even if he dumps his girl to be with you, you haven't done anything wrong. That's a choice that he made and will have to deal with. Far too often the blame for break-up gets misplaced. I've seen too many situations where the girl will mad at the girl on the side and want to fight her- but will say nothing to the man as if he didn't have an active part in what happened/is happening. Men aren't so weak where they can't help themselves.
What seems dumb in this situation is that you would consider being with him, knowing how he treats his current girlfriend. Again, I'm unsure what you feel makes you so different where he won't mistreat you. If he were honest enough to tell his girlfriend that he doesn't want the relationship anymore, I might think otherwise. But his actions are dishonest. Nothing good can come from that.
2007-05-09 07:39:50 · answer #1 · answered by Honey 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I feel sorry for his girlfriend. Why is she okay being treated this way? Do you want a guy that treats his girlfriend like that? You have him now but what if he finds someone and does the same thing to you?
2007-05-09 14:24:27 · answer #2 · answered by brain beauty 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
In a way you are if your trying to get this guy for you. Just think. Put yourself in her shoes, would you like that? I'm pretty sure you wouldn't. Also, if he treats his girlfriend like that what makes you think he won't do the same to you.
2007-05-09 14:27:33 · answer #3 · answered by muñeca 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should stop. If someone is taken, it should be given with respect. The guy needs to call it off before he starts a relationship with you.n
2007-05-09 14:30:04 · answer #4 · answered by Nikki 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
One one hand, you could be a "man stealer". You were able to get a guy to leave a relationship with another woman to be with you.
On the other hand, this guy was never the other woman's. So what are you stealing?
2007-05-09 14:22:05 · answer #5 · answered by davester1970 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Ask him what's up and tell him that you don't want to be a man stealer. Tell him that he should dump her if he's done with her, but if he is dumping her for you, you want no part of it.
2007-05-09 14:20:58 · answer #6 · answered by Mrs. Eric Cartman 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
first off you need to looK at yourself, would you want that to happen to you? just think about it , ok ,b/c i don't want you to think I'm tryin to judge you as a man-thief, put yo self in his girls place, how you feel, and would he do the samething to you?Just think about it, for yo own sake, OK?
2007-05-09 14:27:09 · answer #7 · answered by lil, mama 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
thinks about it this way. would you like it if you had a boyfriend that you love and he has this type of relationship with someone else
2007-05-09 14:20:08 · answer #8 · answered by Lovely 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont steal him away from her, if he really likes you then he will break up with her.
2007-05-09 14:21:59 · answer #9 · answered by chocolatecutie57 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a man stealer, find your own man that is (SINGLE)
2007-05-09 14:19:43 · answer #10 · answered by kitty 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋