a couple days ago i finally got the courage to have sex with the one i love. it hurt soo bad and i kept moving, we almost had him all the way in a couple times but i didn't know if i wanted my cherry to pop right away.. you know..? its just.... that is a really big deal to most girls... especcially me. i just was worried. i am still young and have NEVER let anyone get that close, i was nervous and had alot of thoughts going thru my head... i think i am ready to go all the way now... and i would just like to know if there is anything i should know... or what ever?? anyone have advice? or anything..... thank you
2007-05-09 07:02:10 · 11 answers · asked by B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
let me ask you this first how old are you? you sound kinda young and really shouldnt be worried about being in love or having sex. second you obviuosly aernt very comftorable with having sex or you wouldnt be asking this question. you cant make someone else happy unless you are happy. if you feel that you are ready to have sex make sure that you use protection and that you make sure you will not regret it later. also make sure that you are sure that he is the one that you want your first time to be with. if you choose to sleep with this boy and something happens you will end up regreting it for a long time. you must also think about the consquences as well. say you get caught in the moment and you dont use something and you get pregnant or what if he has something and he doesnt know it you could get that. you need to really think about your decision before you do it. i am only trying to help becuase the first time i had sex with a condom and all i got pregnant and now i have my daughter. i was 15 and all alone and still am. her father did not stay around andi can see that you have a good head on your shoulders and your are thinking about this before you do it. so good luck and if you ever need to talk i am here for you to talk to
2007-05-17 02:26:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It shouldn't hurt if he has you turned on enough - so make him do more work!! The amount that a hymen breaking hurts is seriously overrated: it doesn't. It hurts the smallest amount. The only other pain I've experienced is from not being wet enough, which is either psychological on my part, or laziness / inability on theirs!! But it is not fun if it hurts, so why bother?
Just do all the other stuff, which really is very very fun. Once you are excited enough, it will go in, and if it hurts after a couple of thrusts, just stop and carry on with the other stuff. You are not on a time limit remember, you have all the time in the world! So take the time to enjoy..
2007-05-09 14:26:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Gigi's answer ticked me off. This is about mutual pleasure, not just his.
Other answers were good:
1) protection
2) whether breaking a hymen really hurts. that is something of a myth. Some girls/women's hymens are broken before they ever have sex, for totally unrelated non-invasive reasons.
3) your age. have you considered if you are truly ready for this?
4) this physical sign of virginity (the hymen) is cultural. I, for one, got over it. As long as you are true to the one you love when you get married, your past is your past.
5) Nervous. Then don't do it. Keep it on the back-burner until you aren't nervous. Don't do it because of pressure. Not just pressure from him but pressure you put on yourself. Think about that.
6) What you should know before you do this? That 1-5 above are no longer issues for you. If they are, you, sweet young woman, are not yet ready.
Be safe. Protect yourself emotionally and physically.
2007-05-17 13:31:06 · answer #3 · answered by margot 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For a lot of young women, the first time is going to be a little painful because your hymen is being broken. It is unavoidable regardless when you decide to have sex and with whom.
Also, the first few times is always going to be lacking because you are sexually inexperienced and need to work on how to be sensual and your techiques. What you can do to start doing is make sure he brings a condom and work on foreplay. That way it will be more enjoyable for each other.
2007-05-09 14:14:18 · answer #4 · answered by davester1970 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think dat if u know dat he is da one then it's ok. U know, just don't tell him to stop u know. Cuz dat will give him blue balls LOL. Which will hurt him alot LOL. But yea ur gonna lose it eventually u know. Might aswell lose it to da one u love. Unless u just don't want to then u don't have to. Cuz if u tell him u don't want to yet. He should respect ur decision u know, and he won't pressue into it. Well maybe a little bit cuz dats how guyz are LOL!
2007-05-10 13:07:42 · answer #5 · answered by Junior13 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to the first guy... haha i have had some friends tell me about girls that started to cry and were apologizing for how bad it's gonna be the first time they did it... haha yeah, don't do that
2007-05-09 14:11:27 · answer #6 · answered by Wes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Practice makes perfect;)
It is always awkward the first time, don't worry about that. If he is the right guy, it won't bother him.
Just make sure that you are ready, and that you are sure he is the right guy.
2007-05-09 14:10:08 · answer #7 · answered by Bigshow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Use birth control -take a condom and use it - make sure its on right. I would suggest that you should get on the pill to make sure you don't get pregnant.
2007-05-09 14:08:17 · answer #8 · answered by elaeblue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just make sure it good for him do whatever he says because if not then he will tell his friends how boring you were and how much of a **** you really are. and you dont want that..BE KINKY.
2007-05-09 14:14:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
you will know when you are ready. please take precotions use condoms and be carefull
2007-05-16 16:36:52 · answer #10 · answered by cumminsman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋