Me and my ex just got back together after a year and a half seperation. i am sooo glad about it, but we live four hours apart. we can't really drive and see each other every so often. especially with the gas prices the way they are. we broke up cause of the long distance factor, so we wanted to try and make it work this time, especially with like alittle of a year of school left. I like my boyfriend so much, but there is this guy down where i live too that i have interest in. How do i make this work? I want to stay true to my boyfriend and yet, i have this feeling we will end up breaking up for the same reasons. ( i am going to go see him this summer, but what about after this summer?) i am so confused. i also thought about moving back up there where he lives, but i would be throwing away a good scholar ship if i did that. so maybe you all could help me out here. I would really appreciate it. Thanks!!!!
2007-05-09 06:54:36 · 8 answers · asked by photo_girl_90 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
For one, don't throw away your scholarship - as you've already broken up once over the distance, the relationship's future is not clear, whereas a scholarship is. And could help determine the rest of your life.
The distance thing... I say try and make it work. It is a strain making long distance work, especially if you don't have the resources to see each other, but if what you have is really special, then you can work through the distance. Seeing him this summer will be good, and if you find the time in between a struggle, summer is so close you should at least give it till then.
After that, take it week at a time. If you find the long distance a struggle, remember the golden rule.. if the relationship is making you feel bad more than it does good then that's when it is time to let it go. If it is keeping you happy, all to the good, but if you start yo-yoing from major highs to major lows, it's time to call it a day. But that may never happen :)
Good luck! x
2007-05-09 07:10:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Long distance relationships are awful and rarely work. Your situation sounds even more desperate and less hopeful. There has to be some sort of resolution in the very near future to a long-distance relationship or it's doomed. These distance things are bad, at best, but for a fragile relationship such as yours, it doesn't look good.
My question is, why are you pursuing this relationship when there are so many other potential relationships all around you?
2007-05-09 07:01:42 · answer #2 · answered by John B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been through it and it will honestly take ALOT of work. you need to have great communication skills and keep things interesting. Also don't throw your future away on a relationship that may not work , especially since you're saying you may be interested in some other guy. you're young, which means many opportunities are going to come your way.
2007-05-09 07:04:25 · answer #3 · answered by Miss Shorty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need to make up your mind what you really want.
Concentrate on your studies, and if the long distance guy is who you want to be with, make the sacrifices to pull it through. If you know you can't handle them, then be honest with him.
But decide either way, and don't be thinking you have the second guy as a back up plan, that will doom the first relationship.
2007-05-09 07:04:00 · answer #4 · answered by Bigshow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are so interested in this other guy, it was probably a mistake to hook up with your ex bf. But more important than any bf, strive to get that scholarship and further your education. Boyfriends come and go, but an education can never be taken from you. You can still see the guy of your choice and get a good education.
2007-05-09 07:09:00 · answer #5 · answered by Suzie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you quite opt to diminish your mom sum slack. I hate to allow you to understand yet 13 is thanks to youthful to be making use of 5 hours away to satisfy a guy. and per chance it really is merely 'friendship', yet your mom won't be able to understand this. She reads the records that comments youngster being pregnant and STD's and panics even as she thinks of you as a statistic. no longer in hassle-free words that yet she probable recollects what she became like at 13. there isn't any longer some thing incorrect with you holding your friendship with this boy by e-mail, telephone, etc. in spite of the indisputable fact that it really is okay to have limits too. Plus, i quite won't be able to imagine making use of 10 hours roundtrip merely to work out a football interest - that quite is somewhat extreme. earnings from the friendship and in case you stay acquaintances with this guy for a lengthy time period, per chance your mom will artwork with you after a lengthy time period. per chance do a weekend to Columbus jointly so she will meet him. in the interim, enhance a believe together with your mom (be affected individual, it really is going to take time) and enable her acclimate on your new 'youngster' years earlier doing some thing drastic.
2016-11-26 22:00:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my personal experience is that long distance doesnt work ... period
why not just be young and date everyone you can, and figure out who you really want ... and down the road if you two end up in the same city it must have been ment to be
2007-05-09 07:04:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you broke up because of long distance problems then chances are it will happen again.
2007-05-09 07:01:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋