I am having a fairly small wedding (60 guests approx). Outdoors, formal attire but not super traditional ceremony. Must I have ushers? Can't I just reserve seats for family with some cards and have others sit where they please?
2007-05-09 06:46:35 · 15 answers · asked by blondissima622 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I don't think many people have ushers these days. I'm having just over 100 people and no ushers. The last wedding i went to back in January had about 75 people and no ushers. We just sat wherever we wanted. I think most people know that the front few pews are for immediate family so you don't have to worry about people taking those seats. Ushers are most definatly not neccessary.
2007-05-09 07:01:39 · answer #1 · answered by katskradle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have ushers, though not a lot of them. People will not sit where they are supposed to, people will stand around waiting to be told to sit down, etc. and the bride, groom, best man and maid of honor will all be busy with other things.
Ushering is a genuine, though small, duty. If it seems, like another poster said, to be a pointless duty, its because so many weddings have way too many ushers.
2 ushers would be right for your wedding, I'd think. 1 could probably handle it, but would likely get lonely. It doesn't mean they have to rent tuxes or anything, but actually getting 60 people seated in the (for some of them) right spots does, indeed, require someone to do it.
I actually think 'groomsman' is the bs duty. The groom doesn't need a posse, but the guests do need to be seated.
2007-05-09 15:50:06 · answer #2 · answered by kheserthorpe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need to have ushers if you don't want to. When my fiance's sister got married she had a small ceremony outside. They used cards to reserve the first two rows for family. Everyone else just found a seat as they arrived.
2007-05-09 13:59:11 · answer #3 · answered by LadyD1019 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you don't need ushers. Everyone knows it's just sort of the b***s*** wedding duty anyway. If you're an usher, it means the groom doesn't like you enough to make you a groomsman, but he also doesn't want your mom and dad to tear him a new one by not inviting you to do something. The female equivalent is guestbook attendant, which you so don't need, because who's stupid enough to not know what you're supposed to do with a guestbook? The same people who are too stupid to find their own seat at the ceremony, I guess, LOL.
2007-05-09 13:55:18 · answer #4 · answered by fizzygurrl1980 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Repeat after me: I AM THE BRIDE AND I CAN DO ANYTHING I WANT!
If you don't want to have ushers, then don't. It's not a big deal. People can figure out where to sit no problem. I've been to plenty of "non-ushered" weddings. Do what makes you happy. It's your day!
2007-05-09 14:11:35 · answer #5 · answered by teacherintheroom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have the groom choose two of the groomsmen to usher his mother and your mother, in that order, to their front row seats just before the ceremony begins.
2007-05-10 15:04:10 · answer #6 · answered by sprucemoose 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since it is your wedding, you can do whatever you good well please! Many weddings don't have ushers, but you might want to have someone in charge of seating, just to point people in the right direction.
2007-05-09 13:55:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not have to use ushers and I think your idea of reserved seats is a great one. Congrats.
2007-05-09 14:18:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
absolutely! There is nothing that says you HAVE to have ushers! Do what you want! Its your day! Good luck and Congrats!
2007-05-09 13:54:27 · answer #9 · answered by rokdiva84 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you dont have to have usher but it is nice to have some take you to your seat so eveything is correct how you want it
2007-05-09 15:39:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋