Her memorial is tonight, its only going to be family, and I'm just the girlfriend. I never met her. Is it appropriate to go or should I decline and give my boyfriend flowers to take.
*My guy and I are 27, been dating almost 2 years, but its not that serious, b/c he talks about he's not ready to get married yet.*
Should I go?
2007-05-09 06:06:53 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I think you should go to give your boyfriend suport.
2007-05-09 06:19:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you 100% sure this is a family only service? If it's just for the family, please don't go. If you two were engaged I would say yes you can go to the "family only" service. Since it's not serious between you two and you never met the woman you should stay home. Call a florist to send flowers to the funeral home/church. Mail a sympathy card to their home within the next week or so.
If there is to be a gathering at someones home AFTER the memorial, your boyfriend can invite you to that. Or better yet, he should come and get you for that gathering. That way he can get out for a breather to take you home later.
We've had a lot of funerals lately and the family only service needs to be respected. Often times they are conducted in a small chapels or in small rooms at funeral homes.
Best of luck to you.
2007-05-09 13:23:20 · answer #2 · answered by wwhrd 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say yes, go to the memorial service unless it is at an extremely inconvenient time. It can't hurt. Maybe his relatives will see you and like you and push him to make the rela. more serious. But I would also say consider telling him (after all, he is 27, as you are) that either he commits to marriage within, say, a year or else you will leave him. And give him about a month to decide, then be firm. Two years should be enough time. he is not that young.
2007-05-09 13:56:23 · answer #3 · answered by sharonperess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your boyfriend what he would like for you to do. If the whole family and only the family is going to be there you could offer to stay at their home to look after things for them. I am from the South and somebody ususally does that.
2007-05-09 14:46:52 · answer #4 · answered by Spice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. If you don't, his family will think you're a bi*tch, and nothing you will do in the future will change that. If you think you're intruding, you can sit quietly off to the side for part of the time. Otherwise, stand next to your boyfriend. He needs you now, especially if he really loved his grandmother. When mine died, I fell apart.
2007-05-09 13:16:09 · answer #5 · answered by sandiemaye 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes. you need to be there to show support for your boyfriend. what if one of your family members passed away would you want your boyfriend to be there with you???or easier yet ask your bf if he would like you to go....................
2007-05-09 14:08:04 · answer #6 · answered by Classic Beauty 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if yo man hurting and you want to show respect. otherwise go shopping for a sexy dress and comfort him in another way when he gits home
2007-05-09 13:14:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go and support your boyfriend.
2007-05-09 14:50:45 · answer #8 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your boyfriend if he would like you to attend.
2007-05-09 14:05:45 · answer #9 · answered by Kabu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your BF if he wants you there or not. Do whatever he says.
2007-05-09 13:27:10 · answer #10 · answered by kiwi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋