Ok here's the story I need only honest REAL answers.. no jerks allowed!! This guy I was dating tells me he's done with me wants nothing to do with me, asks me to leave him alone. When I do, he calls me and just starts talking about whatever. Mostly stuff we are both intrested in (sports..etc) He knows I don't mind talking to him cause I still love him and want to work things out. He says we can still be JUST friends taht he doesn't want to date anyone. When we hang out we have fun but then he'll start making moves on me and says he loves me and wants us to work. The next day he'll be a cold hearted d*** and treat me like crap all over again. Then the circle starts all over again. When he tells me all these things he is very sincere and I think the crap part of all this is a sheild to protect himself from getting hurt again ( long story short he was cheated on by ex-fiancee) I think he really does love me but is unsure of trusting anyone again am I right or wrong. Please help me here!!!
2007-05-09 05:52:58 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's just using his ex fiance as an excuse to keep you around because he knows he can come back to you. You may love him but he doesn't love you. He just wants you to be there for him when he needs something. If he treats you like a dick afterwards you know it's not that he's trying to protect himself. He's trying to find someone else but still wants to get some from you. Dont' let his past cloud your judgement. He's using you and your caringness to treat you like crap afterwards.
So, what if his ex fiance cheated you are not her. You need to take a deep breath and think why is he doing this again? He keeps doing it and he won't change if he really wanted to change and have you guys work maybe you two should seek a counselor who can get him past his personal issues otherwise he's just going to repeat this pattern with you and you're just going to end up getting hurt again and you'll be by yourself again when there are probably a guy out there for you who will treat you much better then what your supposed guy is treating you.
2007-05-09 06:21:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
the girl i love does the same thing to me =[ you just cant give up. when he needs you, be there. dont try to push anything or put pressure on him. ( i noticed the girl really hates that lol ) dont change how you act or anything. its his problem (not really a problem) but he has to fix it himself, and when he does he will realize you have been there all along, and will always be there =] ive loved this girl for a year, and she is still having trust issues for the same reason but every day we get a little closer =] just dont give up!
2007-05-09 13:02:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think that he doesn't like you, and all those times that he was acting "nice" was him simply trying to get some sex because he was horney. I think that you are making excuses for him because you are seeing what you want to see because you are in love. I think that he is using you.
You wanted an honest answer. Sorry if it was not what you wanted to hear.
2007-05-09 13:03:58 · answer #3 · answered by Randy G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
easy.. since your leaving him alone.. hes more attracted. Guys love it when girls actually have a life outside the relationship. so when you dont pay much attention, he wants you more. It sounds like this guy is confused, talk to him and get this straightened out in my opinion.
2007-05-09 13:03:51 · answer #4 · answered by jeffdeloris 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is just trying to use i know becuase i do that
2007-05-09 13:03:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋