Ive been talking to a girl I dated a couple of years back and had the pleasure of taking he out on a couple of dates over the last few months, but she is making it very difficult for me to pursue a relationship with her: She rarely answers my phone calls and takes about 1 day to 1 week to call me back. Under normal circumstances I wouldnt care but I really like this girl. I figure that if she really wanted to have nothing to do with me she wouldnt call back at all or at least tell me straight up. Next time she calls should I not pick up and call her back a few days later just to put the burn in her stomach, or pick up and play it cool, or ????? need help.
2007-05-09 05:47:38 · 24 answers · asked by geroge d 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ok after all this saying "I really like this girl i want her to call me" why would you NOT pick up the phone the next time she calls you, thats what you wanted right. Anyways, just like you have morals of a relationship, she does too. Everyone is diferent and have different ways of handeling things. You may be the type to chase a girl but she may be the type that plays hard to get. But in the end it all works out because you both stuck it out. Maybe this is her way of seeing if you are really worth it...............like are you willing to be patient and visa versa. Its almost like lets say u met a girl at dinner and you wanted a kiss from her but she doesnt kiss on the first date....she wants to know more about you rather than jumping to sexual. Its all about patience.......but a person can only have so much patience. If your heart tells you to move on then move on but if you feel soemthing can work between you to then ok. Anyways i dont think she is MAKING it diffucult for you to pursue a relationship i think its just you guys have different morals.
2007-05-09 05:57:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are a couple of things that you can do about this situation.
1. You honestly don't want to play her game, the whole not picking up the phone thing; don't do it. Instead just pick up the phone and talk to her. Never ever assume that a girl will tell you that she doesn't like you.
Never do that. I was dealing with a female and she would never tell me. I even asked and she still wouldn't tell me.
In your case ask and if she doesn't want to give you an answer, let it go. Find someone who will talk to you directly. You don't need that run around BS.
2007-05-09 13:16:37 · answer #2 · answered by DLB 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may just be trying to keep a little distance between the two of you. You sound like you are pretty aggressively persuing her, and she may not be ready for that.
Answer the phone, return calls, etc. just like you always would. To do anything else is just playing games, and we're supposed to be adults here. If she senses that you are relaxing a bit, she may come around. If not, then maybe this is the level that the relationship stays at for a while.
Good luck!
2007-05-09 12:56:15 · answer #3 · answered by michaelsmaniacal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be you, geroge. If do onto others as they do onto you is your thing, then take our your frustrations on her. However, you can probably write her out of your life at that point.
What you need to do is talk with her about what's bothering you. What's the worse that can happen? That you'll never see her again? If that happens, then move on.
From what you've written here, your relationship sounds one-sided. You're interested, and that interest is not being returned. It appears that you are good for a meal or a movie when she has nothing else to do. But if you want to know where you stand, then talk with her, and listen to what she has to say.
2007-05-09 13:00:08 · answer #4 · answered by Flame 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's exactly what you're doing isn't it, "chasing her". Could be she has things on her mind right now that prevent her from giving you more time and being the person you want her to be. It may not be best to start playing games with her. May be best to be straight up like you'd expect her to be with you. When she calls, thank her for getting back to you, politely, tell her what you've got planned and that you were hoping she'd call because you want her to join you.
If you need someone in your life who'll give you more time and who is more responsive, she may not be the one at this particular time. Good luck.
2007-05-09 13:11:36 · answer #5 · answered by Worker Bee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She doesn't seem interested in pursuing a relationship but may not want to hurt your feelings. The only way to know for sure is to tell her that you like her but don't want to waste your time or hers trying to pursue something that she isn't interested in. Most girls would be more prompt about returning a phone call if they were truly interested in a guy.
Good luck
2007-05-09 12:59:45 · answer #6 · answered by cookie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Picture this mentally...
You're in a race, but there is no one running with you, no one running against you. You're running ALL BY YOURSELF...and yea...you cross the finish line, but who are you competing against? In ADDITION TO THAT, THERE ARE NO PRIZES AFTER YOU CROSS THE FINISH LINE.
So...you're running by yourself...and on top of that, there's no prize once you cross the finish line. So in essence, you're just running, but for what? SEEMS LIKE AN EMPTY RACE TO ME.
That's what you're doing with this chick. You're running an empty race with no prize at the end. Leave her alone. You deserve so much better than the mess she is dishing out to you. And don't you think you deserve more? Don't you think you at least deserve the truth, or maybe even a phone call? Because if you don't think you deserve that much, then I feel really sad for you. You can do so much better.
Think about it. Then leave the girl alone. If she likes you, she'll come around.
;)
2007-05-09 13:00:45 · answer #7 · answered by Valerie C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you tell her you quit playing the call game. Either your both going to talk to each other and try to maybe make something last or just forget it it and quit playing games. Aren't you over the game bit yet? Isn't that for kids?
2007-05-09 12:55:31 · answer #8 · answered by luckford2004 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i suggest not answering your phone and calling her back either later that night or the next day.
if she asked whats up, just say you were busy. she probably likes guys that are hard to get.
otherwise she could be busy and not have time to call you back or doesnt want to seem too desperate for you
2007-05-09 12:52:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude just move on shes giving you the cold sholder and your not getting the hint shes probably returning the calls just to be nice but if she really liked you she would make an effort to meet you up again
2007-05-09 12:53:39 · answer #10 · answered by phoenix 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋