I am usually happiest when I am in a relationship and I have been single for over a year. I have a good job and I live alone I just feel like I have some kind of a void in my life. Is it wrong to feel this way? Should I be happy with what I have instead of being upset what I dont have?
2007-05-09 05:29:47 · 32 answers · asked by hollygolightly 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I too am most happy while in a relationship, but I did love the independence when I was single. The best part about being single is that you get to choose who you want to spend time with. You can challenge guys to give you a reason to let them in your life. You can date as much as you like. I've found though people that are happy with themselves first, can find true love the best.
2007-05-09 05:34:02 · answer #1 · answered by cutie_pie28 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is normal to feel a bit awkward being single after indulging in many relationships... but you know what, being single is actually a great opportunity for you to get to know your self better. Get out there and celebrate being single for a while. It is freedom in a way. Also, once you get to know who you really are, your different qualities, your mood, that would be a great advantage in making the next relationship successful. (Think of this... you can avoid venting your mood swings on your partner because you already anticipated this and you have made sure you won't heighten his temper with it.) Then you wouldn't be single and unhappy again! Hope this helps =)
2007-05-09 05:41:02 · answer #2 · answered by kriZia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start out by staying away from guys in clubs! Not the best place to find a long term guy. And You ARE only 20. Why the hurry? Get your degree and into a good stable life of your own and enjoy yourself for a bit. If you start into a new relationship it will be hard to focus and concentrate on making something of yourself. You need to do that first. Men are so immature at your age level, by the time you are out of school and have your life in order there should be a nice mature guy out there somewhere just waiting for you to shine a light on him. And you will have your own life in order and be able to concentrate on making a go at a real stable mature relationship. DON'T BE IN SUCH A HURRY THE RIGHT GUY WILL BE THERE WHEN THE TIME IS RIGHT... QUIT LETTING IT BOTHER YOU!
2016-04-01 03:54:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Learn to be happy. A relationship is not the true lasting solution for that void. I suggest you try filling the void just by yourself, and then you decide if you want a partner or not (don´t put that responsibility on a guy. It´s not his job).
I suggest trying meditation to handle the void. If you´re interested on meditating I could give you some info on that.
2007-05-09 05:43:48 · answer #4 · answered by juamps 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not 'wrong', but it sure does take a lot of time out of your busy day. Why spend time being depressed? Get out and meet people. It's natural I suppose to feel a little down when you are alone, but you don't have to be lonely unless 'you' choose to be. There are too many things going on in your town I am sure - that would keep your involved and busy meeting new people. If you don't get out there and get involved, you will remain unhappy. Get your friends together and do something. Happiness starts from inside and radiates to the outside....get up and get going..
2007-05-09 05:38:09 · answer #5 · answered by THE SINGER 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a normal feeling to be depressed about being single. Just like a lot of married people get depressed about being married. The key is what are you doing about being depressed. Try hanging out with friends, treat yourself to a movie. I don't like be alone but since I am I try to keep myself busy so I don't have to think about "being alone". Sometimes you just have to make an effort to be happy.
2007-05-09 05:36:35 · answer #6 · answered by Dion B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think we all have that void in our life, which is why most people are looking for a relationship. It's normal to feel how you do, and hopefully you will find that right person and not be single for long.
2007-05-09 05:32:19 · answer #7 · answered by Aiden 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, it is normal. i have been really depressed about being single i am still trying to get over it, but i just realised that i will find the right guy sooner or later and it turns out that all i did was start talking to some from school, and we had so much in common just wait or try talking to someone and you will be more happy, at least i was, i sure you will to,
2007-05-09 05:37:51 · answer #8 · answered by buddyface15 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its completely normal how u r feeling. I have never had a proper girlfriend and I try not to get involved in people's lives, unless they're in trouble. Don't moan about ur life, when there are people like me who have no-one. Though in some cases I'm stronger for it. U will find someone eventually.
2007-05-09 06:17:18 · answer #9 · answered by spark 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel, I was single the entire time last year. Got a boyfriend late December and he was there like forever. Your mate is probably closer to you than you think. You need not stress yourself over being single. It has its pros and cons, you can probably list them. that made me feel better. Keep the faith. One Day, One Day!
2007-05-09 05:39:04 · answer #10 · answered by Cutiepie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋