I am a big girl and have been witht his dude for 2 years. I use to be comfortable with taking all my clothes off when it came down to sex. Well, recently he asked me to ride him. I refused because i told him I will hurt you. (He is skinny!) ANyhow, now I refuse to take off my shirt during sex. I get uncomfortable. he gets mad when i don't takes it off. So he takes it off hisself but I can't overcome the uncomfortable feeling. I lovee being big but I am scared to get on top because i might hurt him. What should I do!!!
2007-05-09 05:16:55 · 19 answers · asked by babywitback 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hi you feel uncomfortable but he knows what you look like ,but i think all women have this problem no matter what size they are , i still dont like my hubby seeing me naked and i have been with him for 18 years ,oh my god 18 years ,i am only 33 but i have lost 7 stone but have a stretchy stomach from losing so much weight all i can see when he is behind me is my belly it puts me off ,sorry to be so graphic ,you wont hurt him so you go girl but i am just the same as you ,i will tell you what we will make a pact to both be more brave ,my hubby adores me the way i am and so does your partner,best of luck xx
2007-05-09 05:29:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie dont worry about hurting him...What you see on tv or in the movies (Nutty Professor) are all ficition...Get your freak on and get on top of that man. He's been with you for 2 years and it was never a problem before hand until he asked you to get on top. Apparently the man doesnt think you will hurt him to badly. You better stop playing around and ride him like no tomorrow..
2007-05-09 05:25:46 · answer #2 · answered by plumprump26 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a big girl myself and when I first met my husband (he is really in shape. A military man). I was very embarrassed for him to see me without clothes. Then I came to realize that as he wants me it was silly. He likes me the way I am and more importantly I like me or I would change. So, just relax and enjoy. I am certain, if while doing this, you begin to hurt him he will tell you and then you can readjust. No worries just fun. Go for it you big beautiful woman and love who you are.
2007-05-09 05:27:18 · answer #3 · answered by eaglelover_1967 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't seem to mind your size so there's no need to feel embarrassed. If he wants some girl on top action, you can at least try it. You can use your legs to control the amount of pressure you are putting on him. If it gets to the point where you are hurting him (which I doubt) he will let you know.
2007-05-09 05:21:58 · answer #4 · answered by Kristin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously you felt uncomfortable with the act, and now you are transferring that feeling to all sex. He wanted to experiment, and try something new. If you are uncomfortable with that, leave it at that. Don't ruin your sex life because you were uncomfortable with one thing he asked you to try. Try to get comfortable with yourself again. Don't miss out.
2007-05-09 05:22:55 · answer #5 · answered by aromaofsage 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he does not respect you enough to let you be comfortable (like leaving your shirt on) then he is not worth it. If he can't get over himself enough to think of how everything both of you do affects you too then it is not worth it. Plus if he gets mad enough to take your shirt off of you then his anger may cause trouble in the future of the relationship.
2007-05-09 05:22:39 · answer #6 · answered by !*SoMeOnE_To_CaRe*! 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
My girl is a lot bigger than me.
Trust me. You are NOT going to hurt him. If anything he's going to love the added force slapping into him.
2007-05-09 05:23:43 · answer #7 · answered by Atavacron 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well u shouldnt be embarrassed because he luvs you for you not yo size for the person you r u shouldn be scared if he thinks its ok then go for it but if it makes you uncomfortable then tell him yo dont wanna do that
2007-05-09 05:25:51 · answer #8 · answered by I still live wit the side effect 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get on top and give the man what he wants because if you dont he'll get it from somewhere else
2007-05-09 05:22:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants it - Ride him till it hurts
2007-05-09 05:20:31 · answer #10 · answered by Leigh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋