I am engaged to this really great guy. BUT everytime I see his pictures, I jump back, and feel scared. What the hell is that. We met through mutual friends and we had exchanged photos first. Well I had said no when I saw the pic, cause he scared me. But my friend convinced me to meet him ,I did and obviously we are doing well! BUT, is this a cause for concern? Do pictures tell more than what meets the eye?
2007-05-09 05:08:02 · 17 answers · asked by jennaj 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Look inside yourself and ask yourself what it was / is about his picture that freaked you out. This is one of the strangest cases I have ever heard of in my life. Has this happened before, or is it just with his picture? If it happened before, then you may need therapy. There is a psychological test employed by Psychoanalysts, the Rosarch Ink Blot Test you can take. This test will confirm whether or not you have a deep rooted psychologcal (subconscious) problem and get closer as to the nature of that problem. At least you state that you are doing well relationship wise, and if this chap is treating you fine, and respects you, then the problem does not lie with him.
Yes. Pictures do tell more than meets the eye, as this forms the basis of certain Psychlogical techniques and approaches, such as the one I have outlined above, (but there are others...)
I suspect that there are issues you have not resolved, and seeing the picture of this guy initially and your initial reaction may provide a key to what those issues are. Something in the picture stirred a latent uncomfortable memory, something you recognize, mostly at the subconscious level, beyond the level of the linguistic.
Do not worry about the overall relationship, or this guy, if he is as great as you say he is. You may need more time to get to grips with this problem, and visit with a therapist who has empathy and understanding...
Goodbye...
2007-05-09 05:35:00 · answer #1 · answered by John K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him out on a date that you plan. The date should include a photo shoot with the two of you, many, many photos. Take a look at pictures with the two of you together, not just him.
Don't worry, some people are just not photogenic sometimes. Don't ruin an otherwise amazing relationship due to superstition.
Best of luck to you!! :)
p.s. if it bothers you that much, cut up the pic and don't tell him about it.
2007-05-09 05:16:28 · answer #2 · answered by abby j 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm scared of pictures of clowns - is he a clown? Then its normal.
Seriously though - some part of you knows what it is about the picture that scares you. The question is will you listen to your inner voice without questioning the logic of the response.
Or get used to being scared a lot as when you're with someone for the rest of your life you tend to have a lot of pictures of each other.
2007-05-09 05:16:30 · answer #3 · answered by brett611 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know if its more than what meets the eye. Ive heard of people getting weird feelings toward people in person or pictures becuase they look odd and unusual and something youve never seen in your life. Most people look the same in some way which makes people go "ya she looks like christina ricci" or something, its just when you find someone that doesnt look like anybody that makes u afraid and unsure. could i see a pic of this dude?
2007-05-09 05:14:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
At first I thought you were going to say you got engaged to a man you only seen through a photo. WHEW!...But more importantly, does he look like his photos in person. If not, then I suggest you guys not take any photos at the wedding.
All jokes aside, this is not a problem. You get to see a person true colors in person and not through a photo
2007-05-09 05:15:52 · answer #5 · answered by plumprump26 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is very strange and a little scary. What is it about his pictures that scare you? Can you pinpoint it?
I think you should trust your gut, go with your first instinct. Besides, how are you going to display wedding pictures when the sight of him in pics gives you the willies?
2007-05-09 05:13:51 · answer #6 · answered by SheDemon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you like the guy and the picture scares you then maybe there is something that your don't notice but it scares you. If the pic gives you a bad vibe then maybe there is something about him that you are kind of unsure about but you don't think it is important. Think about the things he does that you don't like and see if maybe one of those things is the thing scaring you and not his picture.
2007-05-09 05:16:01 · answer #7 · answered by !*SoMeOnE_To_CaRe*! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats creepy, i would put the wedding off until i could figure out why the pictures scared me. Maybe there is a side to his personality u havent seen yet
2007-05-09 05:12:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow! That's just funny really...I mean, how can you want to marry someone when a picture of them scares you?
Anyway to answer your question...a friend of mine had a surreal poster on her wall and though it was pretty, it made me feel incredibly uneasy....
Strange but true, though not as strange as your experience!
2007-05-09 05:14:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A picture is worth 1,000 words.
What is it about the picture that scares you is what you need to ask your self.
Maybe there is something about him that is evil.
Ask him indirect questions to find out if he has ever done anything bad to anyone.
Thats all I have to say about that.
2007-05-09 06:17:44 · answer #10 · answered by jetski 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋