im 5 1/2 months pregnant, in the 1st trimester we had sex on a regualar basis, we also have two other children in the home that we focus on a lot through out the day and weekends so i know we are both exhuasted, but in the past this never stopped us from being intimate we were always into each other and spontaneous. i never nag my b/f i think it's pointless, but i did recently mention the fact that i dont have a sexlife anymore. so now he rubs on me and then to find him asleep 5 minutes later. there are other issues i noticed that have changed, im wondering if it's b/c im pregnant and he's turned off? or is he getting satisfied elsewhere and just dont want to hurt my feelings cause im knocked up..... HELP!!
2007-05-09 04:58:48 · 18 answers · asked by KAT 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well, you have two kids and a third on the way so I don't think its got anything to do with him not being attracted to you...has he been stressed about money or his job recently? those things can all sap sexual energy. also, he may be more tired if he feels like he's taking on more responsibility as your pregnancy gets further along...try talking to him about it. If nothing else, try initiating sex yourself. Maybe he feels like you don't want him... Still, I think if you just sit down and talk to him, explain your feelings, and let him know your sex drive is still strong, (don't just say "I have no sex life anymore") I don't see a reason why he wouldn't gladly help you out...good luck.
2007-05-09 05:09:43 · answer #1 · answered by kra_z_nic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can only determine if he is cheating if he claims hes going out with his friends a lot or has to stay late for work. If he does that he is most likely cheating. If he comes home after work and helps you take care of the kids then he may just be turned off because your pregnant and he is to tired to want to have sex. I think you need to sit down and talk to him and see why he's not interested in having sex with you
2007-05-09 12:07:15 · answer #2 · answered by Marissa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lots of times men just don't know how to act, and feel like they shouldn't be sleeping with you because you're pregnant. I definitely don't think that he's turned off by you, but the bigger that you get, the more he realizes that there is an actual baby in there. Also, you say you already have two children at home....I'm willing to bet he's just overwhelmed and TIRED. Trust me on this, my hubby was the same way. :) Just chill. You have a blessing on the way, and after you have it, chances are you'll regain your once great sex life. Congrats on your little baby!
2007-05-09 12:16:12 · answer #3 · answered by flowerbug26 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
having children and being exhausted go hand and hand as you may already know.... but a couple has to to keep the fire lit once it goes out it takes time to get back..... i don't your being pregnant is what is keeping him away..... has it in the past... i am assuming that you have other children with him........ talk to him tell him your concerns especially tell him that your needs are not being met.... this should be important to him does it matter what is causing him to act this way. whether he is cheating or not your needs are important and they are being neglected at the moment. don't attack him.... he will become defensive on this issue .... address it with caution for instance ask if there is something that you can do to him/ for him that you have never done..... that might turn him on / this should peak his interest ...... see where your efforts take you if it goes nowhere at all evaluate your relationship and what price you would pay to be sexually satisfied
2007-05-09 12:11:23 · answer #4 · answered by poeticallybias 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too tired to be intimate with you at night.
Wants to be intimate with you EVERY night- and has some new moves up his sleeves.
Starts working late- a lot.
Starts working out or wants to lose those unwanted pounds.
Turns his phone on silent when he is at home- and doesn't even look at it when it goes off.
He whispers and then hangs up the phone when you enter the room.
Starts having new hobbies and you're not included.
You can't find any of the cell phone bills... or the credit card statements.
Starts having a boys' night out- and never has before.
Buys new clothes... or comes home with new clothes and you're not sure who bought it.
Their cell phone never leaves their side.
He blows up at you for the slightest thing and then leaves the house for hours.
.He keeps that distance look in his eyes... like even when he's with you- he isn't.
You catch the look happening between someone he works with... 'the longer than normal' linger.
You get hang-up calls at home.
You meet people he works with and they seem strange acting to you... kinda of nervous...
Spends a lot of time at the computer- even after you go to sleep. And then erases the history files EVERY night.
Has email accounts you didn't know about- and changed his passwords to the ones you do know about.
You meet some woman he works with and she is very 'stand-offish'.
He buys a new sports car or makes sure his is spotless.
Your gut just says- "Something is not right."
2007-05-09 12:05:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You didn't give any info or facts to leed me to the assumption that he's cheating, so I guess its because your pregnant. I think you should just casually ask him one day out of the blue, "Hey baby are you cheating on me?" Make it as casual as possible and if you know him really well you will get a descent read off of him. Communication is the key to every relationship.
2007-05-09 12:10:33 · answer #6 · answered by Justin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it could be because your prego but most guys are turned on by that he could be affraid hes going to hurt the baby by having sex ask him about thats the only way to know for sure
2007-05-09 12:06:51 · answer #7 · answered by tigger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some guys dont like to have sex with pregnant women the further along they get. Its natural.
2007-05-09 12:05:27 · answer #8 · answered by Paige 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont think you should spy on him like that other person said because thats very wrong!!!! if he loves you then he he isnt cheating on you!!! i think it is because you are pregnant that he is acting like that!!!! he may be really tired because he is tending to everyone else!!!!! so if you trust, trust if you dont, dont! but if he loves you then he wont cheat on you!!!!
2007-05-09 12:08:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband is alot the same way through my pregnancies., the big belly turns him off but he never cheated, just lost interest until i lost weight...yuh hes a jerk i know
2007-05-09 12:03:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋