My boss is President of an International Association this year. This association is an Alumni Association for the college he graduated from. He (which means I) has been planning this annual meeting for the past several months, and it will take place in L.A. in July. (Local for us) He expects me to stay at the meeting all 3 days (he'll pay for the room) greet people, do registration, answer any questions, see them to their rooms, etc.
I don't want to. Shouldn't people from his own Association do this? Isn't that what a "hospitality" committee is for? He also wants me to wear traditional clothing from his culture. Am I being petty?
2007-05-09 04:54:04 · 12 answers · asked by toobusy4life 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
By the way, he owns the company. He is a physician who owns his practice. I work directly for him, and this event is not associated with our Medical Practice. His idea of "compensation" is paying for the room, I get to attend the event for free, and he'll buy the dress. I expect he'll probably pay me something too. Not much though.
2007-05-09 05:24:38 · update #1
Thanks everyone for such great insight.
2007-05-09 05:26:29 · update #2
why not girl?? it can be fun. He might think you should feel honored to be a hostess. its not that bad.
2007-05-09 07:12:05 · answer #1 · answered by Classic Beauty 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Several problems with this:
1. You've been working for 7 months on company time for a non-company event while being paid by the company
2. You're being asked to dress in a particular way inappropriate to American style of dress
3. If you've expressed to him that you don't want to do this, it smells like harassment; especially if he's told you your job depends on getting this done.
In addition to the above, how are you to be compensated for the three days of the event. Obviously, this is more than a weekend so you'll have to be away from your company for one weekday (regardless if it's over a holiday weekend).
Speak to an employment lawyer.
2007-05-09 05:10:37 · answer #2 · answered by canela 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would if I was paid, especially time and a half for weekend. Think of this as an opportunity to "network" with the various people that are there....you never know when you might meet one who will offer you a better job than the one you have, and you can thank your current boss then for allowing you the opportunity! Enjoy your life and think of things like this as opportunities and adventures....I have always done this on my job and I am still going 26 years later...(could have retired last year but riding this train as long as I can)!
2007-05-09 05:03:48 · answer #3 · answered by misterpetee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is asking way too much of you. If you are doing the planning on work time, that's ok because you are getting paid. You should not, under any circumstances be expected to "host" this event and do not wear any traditional clothing from his culture. He is way off base.
2007-05-09 07:09:53 · answer #4 · answered by Kabu 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That sounds like work, and I would want to be paid for the time plus travel expense and meals.
No Pay No expectations!!! You dont work for free. If he values you, he will pay. Your not his cheap hostess! (dont tell him that)
Tell him if your expected to be there and away from home on business you need compensated for your time. Room, expense, meals, and paid for the time. This is an excellent time to find out if your really worth anything to him and if you should get a new job.
2007-05-09 05:25:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
They can't expect an employee to go to a work function on the weekend!! Most of the time people can't stand those they work with.. why extend the week into the time you get to spend away from co-workers? Plus, you get to see eachother at your worst that night and the next morning haha Makes ya feel like family..
2016-05-19 00:09:37 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would ask him if he is planning on paying overtime for all of the "festivities" as it is not a part of your job since you do not belong to the association nor are you paid by them. if he is willing to compensate you for your time then go for it. or if you JUST don't want to do it then you have to speak up. tell him that you have no problem helping him plan while you are at work but you don't have the time to dedicate yourself away from work to this project as you have your own life and things you need to do.
2007-05-09 05:08:18 · answer #7 · answered by somebody's a mom!! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh sweet mercy.
If you want to keep your job, then do it.
Hopefully you can negotiate for time and a half extra pay per hour, or time and a half off for each day you play dress-up-slave. If this is agreeable to you, do the job with great joy and gusto (who said that only actors can act).
Just goes to show that the "old school" of business is still around. Sickening.
2007-05-09 05:01:15 · answer #8 · answered by Pacifica 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I really doubt that that was in the job description you were given when you applied for the job and I really doubt that you can be compelled to do that. Saying that, it may still be prudent for you to comply if you want to go any farther in that company because although I don't think he can fire you for that he can make you life a living Hell if you don't. Make sure he's going to pay you well for all that trouble.
2007-05-09 05:00:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you getting paid? Is this part of your job?
It all depends on what you signed up for when you took the job. I'd explain that I have a wedding to go to those three days.
2007-05-09 04:58:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Say no, and risk being sacked. If you really don't like doing it, talk to him nicely and ask if he can find someone else.
2007-05-09 21:26:17 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋