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what do you do when you have done all you can do get your bf to just care about your feelings just once? i am 17 hes 15 i know thats young but we are in the same grade also. weve been together for 2 years and 6 mnths and a couple days ago he rolled his eyes and me for telling him how much i really wish he would care for me and pay more attention. i love him with all my heart... but sometimes i wonder if theres better ... last week he also said no he doesnt know how to show his love to me.... what do i do? am i the one with the problem? i appreciate all answers.

2007-05-09 04:45:41 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

he also says he cares but none is showing... i posted this question minutes ago but it was too complicated.. so here you go thanks!

2007-05-09 04:46:26 · update #1

22 answers

Well miss seems like you're having problems on your hands. It seems to me that he is to young to really know what love is. I am 18, and I definitely know the feeling of love. I am very surprised that you are still with him. I know you women like to talk about your feelings alot just to feel like someone cares. But to be honest bfs really dont like hearing about womens feelings. I am different how ever I listen to womens feelings and help them as much as I possibly can. Your bf doesnt act like he loves you therfore you should try and find someone better. But let me warn you the real mean jerks can and will disguise themselves as niceguys. It can be really hard to tell the difference unless you know how niceguys are. I will be a good friend to you if you need one miss. If you ever have any problems please feel free to ask I will be very happy to help solve your problems and listen to your feelings. I also promise that what you tell me will not leave my mind. i am a very trustworthy person, and if you can trust me then you will not be sorry. i HOPE THIS ADVICE HELPS YOU and GOOD LUCK!!!

2007-05-09 05:00:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Hmmm... i think I know what you mean. My ex had the same problem (she did'nt see that i cared for her sometimes). And it really can evolve into something serious. So I dunno. 2 years and 6 months huh? And he's never shown he cares for you? That seems an awful long time for sacrificing some happiness. I'm sure he has shown it somehow, but then again, he is 15. He's still pretty young. And even though he may not act immature, he may not be mature enough in the head to realize what needs to be done to show that he cares.

And yeah, there is more out there for you if you wanna look. Give him a couple more months. If you are'nt satisfied then i advise you talk to him about this problem. Maybe you should tell him what he should do to show he cares. I dunno. We're not mind readers.

2007-05-09 12:05:52 · answer #2 · answered by Danny S 5 · 0 0

There are other fish in the sea and no matter HOW old you are, letting go is never easy. I am 24 with the same problem and I can't let go either, so I know how you feel. But everyone tells me that I should love myself enough to find something better. Don't sell yourself short at 17 years old. Know that you are gonna get your heart broken at least a million times. Know that it is okay to cry and okay to hurt and know that someday something that is perfect for you will come along. I am still waiting at 24 and I know there are other people out there that are waiting too. Hang in the sweetie.... Dump the guy and be a free woman!! :o) GOOD LUCK!

2007-05-09 11:53:08 · answer #3 · answered by AngelPrincess 3 · 0 0

There are different types of personalities. Some showers you with a lot of affection and caring while some do not show anything at all. If you are sure he is also as madly as in love with you, take your time to discuss your feelings. And you can try out simple tasks i.e. ask him to show his affection by sending texts every two hours. Anyways, there are some things that you can never change, and if affection and attention to you is a priority in a relationship (it is to me!!) you better think twice in continuing the relationship. Sometimes parting as friends is a better idea ;o)

2007-05-09 12:00:11 · answer #4 · answered by j 2 · 0 0

He's 15! What he knows about love fits in a thimble. He told you the truth. He doesn't know how to show you how he feels, because he doesn't know how he feels. I know you don't want to hear it, but he is way to young to be expecting love from. You would do better to see someone a little older and more mature. Plus, you're 17. You only know a little more about the situation than he does. Give yourself a breather and just have fun with your friends. When you are ready for the real thing, you'll know.

2007-05-09 11:53:51 · answer #5 · answered by Alchemist 4 · 0 0

first things first at 15 he's too Immature to understand a feeling like love much less express it in a way that is satisfactory to you. I'm 21 and i just now and coming to a realization of what i think love might be. i have told ex-girlfriends i love them so i understand that you may think your in love...hell you may actually be in love and more power to you, but you have a lot of life ahead of you so go live it have fun. remember high school as a fun time you had not a period where u were miserable because you were dating an immature guy who made you unhappy. and if you are unhappy then leave because there is someone out there who will make you happy. that person may be you being single for awhile.

2007-05-09 11:54:17 · answer #6 · answered by Reed 2 · 0 0

he's still a child - think about how you were at that age, then bear in mind that boys mature slower, as someone else on here mentioned. making someone else's feelings a priority is a sign of maturity, and he's obviously just not there yet. that's neither of your faults, he's just being a 15 year old guy! if he's asking you how he can show his love to you that's a good sign, so give him some ideas, and if he still doesn't listen then maybe he's not ready to be in a relationship. i dont think playing hard to get is a good idea though, men seem not to like our fun little mind games much ;)

2007-05-09 11:59:43 · answer #7 · answered by steph 1 · 0 0

Girls and boys do not develop mentally at the same time.

At 17 you are a lady, at 15 he is still a boy. Even if you were both 15, you would be more mature than he is.

Keep trying. Perhaps an older boy could speak to him and put some mature sense into his childish brain.

2007-05-09 12:04:43 · answer #8 · answered by vince19472003 2 · 0 0

He has the problem not you. If you need things to change and him to show and tell you he cares for you. Then he must try to do that. If not - Then you need to find someone that will treat you the way you want. It will not be hard for you to find a good guy. But there are plenty of not so nice ones out there. Just be honest with yourself with what you really need and want.

2007-05-09 11:57:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

I am sorry my love but if he is really doing that, he will "not" care fpr you the way that you want. I would say by his reactions that in reality, he is more of a "friend" to you and always will be. You can never "force" someone to care for you the way you like, that has to come on their own, and generally before the relationship. I am sorry to say, but I would guess he truly does not care nearly as much as you do, otherwise you would not have to ask !

2007-05-09 11:50:24 · answer #10 · answered by Randall L 2 · 0 0

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