She and I were close in 9th or 10th grade, then werent so close later on. we graduated, then she went off to the military, I went to college. We have exchanged a handful of e-mails over the past 8 years, but nothing more than that. On one hand I have to wonder if, due to her multiple international deployments, she doesnt have many friends to invite or who could make it. I'm probably the only one from high school that she still knows, which may be why she's inviting me, so I feel bad. On the other hand, the truth is we are not really friends now, I don't really know her now, I am not loaded with $$ for a gift, I wont know anyone there and it's kinda pointless to go. im stuck!
2007-05-09 04:34:22 · 15 answers · asked by Lauren 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I would go. Take it as a compliment that after all these busy years she still thinks of you. You do not have to spend tons of money, just a nice and simple gift will do. She will proably just be happy to see you-what a great reason to reconnect!
2007-05-09 04:40:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think it will be nice to go. I had a wedding and I invited everyone that I knew no matter close or not close except some that I really had bad feeling before. I was kind of happy and glad to see some friends that I was not close to but showed up at my wedding. They have thought of me and spend the time to come which I am greatful. If you go, a gift doesn't have to be expensive and useable like something that she can use in her new home. And if you go and didn't enjoy the wedding, you can just leave early. Who knows you might even meet someone in the wedding. That is how I met my husband, in a friend's friend's wedding, how close is that?
2007-05-09 05:04:53 · answer #2 · answered by brain beauty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Same age but I doubt many that haven't seen me since Grad would know me. Still got hair, although mostly silver, but did pick up some poundage. Also have a beard( about 70%silver) and think I have actually shrunk in height. ( not that I was tall to begin with) Amazingly, most folks seem to recognize me a whole lot quicker than I recognize them. I have run into folks that hadn't seen me in 20 years and still seem to know me. Guess I am not good at faces and am always at a disadvantage remembering who they are. I work where there are about 850 employees and I know some I went to school with. Apparently many more since some are usually addressing me and I have no clue who they are, even when they start reminiscing about "how far back we go" Guess I just got ate up by the dmb azz.
2016-05-19 00:03:15 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tough call. maybe she is doing it to be nice. if you have to go out of your way to travel to the wedding and pay for a gift then i would just send a card saying you could not make it because of work or some thing. but if the church is down the street and you can front $30 to buy a gift card then why not. you may run into old friends and catch up on some gossip.
2007-05-09 04:39:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't go. Why do something out of guilt? So what if you do not go, the world is not going to end!! Send her a card with a gift card from Target or Walmart if you want. Stop feeling bad about it though. Sometimes you just have to say no.
2007-05-09 04:51:11 · answer #5 · answered by Lost in Maryland 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the wedding is local - you should go. Get her a small gift off of her registry. I am sure it is difficult for her to maintain friendships and she is trying with you. You should feel honored rather than burdened by this invitation. You do not have to stay long - just long enough for her to see you and greet you.
2007-05-09 04:43:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hey, she made the effort to invite you. It's not about a fancy gift, but rather about your being there to help her celebrate.
Have you considered that, perhaps, she wants to rekindle the friendship?
If you can make it to the wedding, go for it. It could be the start of a beautiful friendship...
2007-05-09 06:45:05 · answer #7 · answered by Andy G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's a pleasure to be invited to a wedding, she has obviously thought so much of you since then, i have the same thing going on with my wedding, i have a few friends from high school that i would love to have at my wedding (they went on to college, and i didn't) and i fell like they have forgotten about me, (although one did invite me to her wedding) and i don't know if i should invite them or not, but i would LOVE for them to be there, but i feel guitly asking them since i know that they are like you, strapped for cash and also they live miles away (18 hours) but not inviting them i would feel guilty cause i think so highly about them,
to sum all this up, she thinks so much about you that she wants you to be a special part of her day, and not going would be a slap in the face (over dramatic i know) and i really really really think you should go!
2007-05-09 04:48:15 · answer #8 · answered by hunkyscutie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't go out of guilt.
Go because you want to.
If I were invited I'd go only if it was local. Give them a nice card, and if you want to give a gift check out her registry for some cheap items (which they SHOULD have for all financial situations) or get them a gift card or nice photo frame for their wedding picture.
2007-05-09 04:49:32 · answer #9 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Feeling guilty is a horrible reason to make a decision.
She isn't really your friend anymore, just someone that you use to be friends with. You won't have fun, you will spend money that you don't have, and she still won't be your friend. Don't feel guilty about something you didn't do wrong, there is no good reason for you to go. Just send her a card saying congrats but that you can't be there.
2007-05-09 04:41:42 · answer #10 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋