Is getting married after high school is that ok to do.?

Question

Hey there I am a senior and getting ready to graduate next weekend and my boyfriend wants to get married that next monday in the courthouse? What do I do.

Answer 1

I graduated in May of 2005 and had a boyfriend at the time for 8 months. We had known each other a long time but didn't start dating until our senior year.
We got an apartment together and lived with each other for almost two years and it was so much different!!!!
We are now married and have our own house and about to start a family in the next few months.
In my experience, I am glad we took the time to REALLY get to know each other and develop what we have now.
We are now extremely happy but living together for a while and now having our own house really helped our relationship.
Believe me, you never really know somebody until you live together!!!!
If I were you, I would give it a while and live together first!!!
Hope this helps!!

PS.
We also by then had wonderful jobs and enough money to be able to afford a wonderful wedding with the white dress and everybody we knew there. Believe me, you will want that and so will the rest of your family. Don't leave your family out in such a big experience!!

Answer 2

Whoa. From the tone of your question, it sounds more like your boyfriend's idea than yours. If you don't want to get married, tell him you'd rather wait until you can have a proper wedding, etc. Whether it's true or not, tell him it's important to you, and that should hold him off. Is there a reason he wants to rush? If he's pushing you for no good reason, dump him. I had a boyfriend when I was that age who was pressuring me to do the same thing. I eventually dumped him and he married someone else a year or so later. Let's just say that some guys (and girls) are looking to get married and it doesn't seem to matter who to.
However, if you want to get married.... Talk it over with your parents and your friends and see what they have to say. They know you well and probably have some good advice. If you want my advice, you should wait. No reason to rush. You're young and you're going to change a lot over the next few years. I saw my ex's MySpace profile the other day, and it just made me cringe in horror at the thought of being married to him now. Plus, I wouldn't have met my current fiance who shares my interests, goals, etc. I also feel better about getting married now (I'll be almost 25) since I've graduated university, traveled the world, and have dated other people. If you're still in love and going strong in a few years, congratulations, and get married then.

Answer 3

First off, I do think that you two are too young to get married. Second, is that something that you want to do. I mean get married in a courthouse without your family and friends. I think that if the two of you really love each other you can wait until you both finish college and have jobs so you can support each other. You two are still growing and things are going to change alot over the next few years. Don't rush into this.

Answer 4

There are so many young adults that want to "play grown up". There is not reason to get married right out of high school. Graduate and take some time to come into your own as a person. So much changes from 18 to 25 - I don't think anyone should get married before they are 25. You can love him and still be with him but why rush into marriage.

Answer 5

I dont recommend this. I married my HS sweetheart as well, but we waited until we were finished college before we married. I would strongly suggest waiting a good long while so you both can mature alot. The years between 18 and 22 are critical for maturity and growth and if its meant to be your relationship will last, mine did, so I speak first handedly that it can work out. But I think things would have been much different if we had married right out of high school, we werent ready to be married. There were a few couples from our class who did marry right away and they are sadly all divorced now, we went to our class reunion 2 years ago and my husband and I were only 1 of 2 couples that actually made it and the other couple were like us, they waited to grow up before they took the plunge.

I really would wait, there is no reason to rush into marriage. And like I said, if its meant to be, you two will be together, but if its not meant to be its so much eaiser to find out while you are still dating or even engaged than it is to find out while you are married, the hurt from a divorce will be so much more compounded than it would from just calling off a wedding.

Answer 6

I did it 30 years ago. Regret it all the time. I feel as if I've missed so much! Looking back on it now I was just a baby! Your life and your wants and expectations change soooo much between 18 and 25. You can't imagine it right now but it's true.

Please slow down. Go to college and do the things you should do to secure the best future you can for yourself. If it is true love it can stand the test of time. If not you will discover that soon, whether you are married to him or not but if you are married to him it will be alot harder to fix especially if there are babies.

You won't believe how much you will change in the next few years. Wait to get married. If it is meant to be, it will be what is the harm in waiting?

Answer 7

It's a huge decision to make at this point of your life. By the sound of your question I would say that you love your boyfriend but not quite ready for a legal lifetime commitment. And to be honest - I don't blame you. A life time is a long time and you still have some discovering to do within your life. If you have to ask this question - you definitely need to put the brakes on immediately. I'm sure your boyfriend will think that you don't love him or whatever - but try to assure him that you are too young for this type of commitment at this point and so is he! I think once he's reassured that you're not going to dump him and run like hell he'll slow down and think more realistically himself too. Good Luck and enjoy graduation!

Answer 8

You must make your own decision. but consider this. if you ask any body there is a huge difference between the way you look at life when you are in high school and when you are out say two years. my opinion is that you wait, at least a year. If you get married it should be for life. you need a year or two to get to know the person you will spend the rest of your life with. if you get through that then, you can work it out and i mean its hard work to maintain a relationship. but if you can do it the benefits are amazing. I did it, 20 years ago married my high school sweetheart, two years after graduation. and life is good.

Answer 9

If your doubting it already & asking us what we think I'd say your not ready. What about college, that dream wedding you've dreamt about, your future? Have you both talked about these important factors already or is this spur of the moment? Not trying to be negative, but marrying young & quite possibly a lil one soon on its way is a shoe in for grants! Is this young man able to afford college on his own or maybe he has a scholarship? Think about this long & hard....how long have you two been together? Does your family know about this? ARE YOU READY for this commitment? Maybe you should ask him why the rush. Hope you figure everything out & fast! Good luck sweetie!

Answer 10

What's your rush? You will regret not allowing yourself the time to have a proper wedding pretty soon. If you still want a courthouse wedding once you have time to sit down and plan it all out, that's one thing, but marriage isn't something you just rush into on a whim...where will you guys live? How will you support yourselves? There is alot to consider here.

Also, you don't mention your parents' feelings on this. An adult takes advice from all angles, not just strangers on the Internet.