I am a life long Pagan. Love being the grand madness it is, I married a Christian. When we came back to the States she joined a Christian Church. The Church placed her in a Sunday School class with divorced people. Four months later she took our child and left.
When the the answers stop, I'll tell you what happened and the one closest will get the points.
2007-05-09 03:57:55 · 26 answers · asked by Terry 7 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
If you want to do some editing, this happened 5 years ago. Nobody is very close....you might want to read my profile as well.
2007-05-09 04:43:00 · update #1
One more hint and I'm going to give the points to the closest at the four hour Mark.
She left our home and went to church with our child that day, and did not come home from the church. She did not have an affair. She is not a dumb
lady. Though I know more of Christianity than most Christians I would never become a Christian...I told this to some of her class, tactfully, when we had them over to play Bridge.
2007-05-09 05:17:35 · update #2
As I promised I would tell you: I did nothing. I sat at home and waited. She called me twice but would not tell me where she was. After two weeks I got a call from one of the men in the class that he had talked to the pastor and he wanted me to know the pastor was calling me if it was all right. I was told by the pastor that two of the women in the class had convinced my wife she and our child would go to hell if she didn't leave me. They also "shared responsiblility to save her" by keeping her and our girl at their houses--while she took the house from me. The pastor asked my forgiveness and what he could do. I said, You're a trained clergyman, The truth needs to come from you.
He asked, are you going to sue. I said, no, not if you tell her the truth.
My wife came home the next day. She and BJ were driven by the pastor. My wife is still a Christian., but I don't think she will ever fully trust Christians or a church again. My daughter is being raised to study all religions.,
2007-05-09 09:05:23 · update #3
Well, I would have to say that I would stay in the marriage just like the Bible says to do. The Bible counsels that when you are in a situation like this, that you should remain there and live as an example of true Christianity... which doesn't mean beating your spouse over the head with the Bible.
However, I would imagine that the Sunday school class somehow convinced your wife that she would be better off without you, and that you were going to be a bad influence on your child. They may have told her that she shouldn't be "unequally yoked with an unbeliever." She may have met another divorcee in the class... and took off with him?
2007-05-09 04:06:50 · answer #1 · answered by Birdie 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Lets see you went to the church to see what the hell they were teaching her.
She got together with someone from the Sunday school class.
You now see your child every other weekend and on holidays.
If it was me I would have went with her to church even if I didn't agree with the things they said just to be apart of what she was interested in. That way I would hear what she did. If nothing else it would give me understand into where she was coming from. If I was in love I would keep looking until I found out what was going on and work to find a solution. I don't give up easily.
2007-05-09 04:18:32 · answer #2 · answered by Lil'witch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well there isn't enough information to this to fully answer it.
However I'll give it a try. ;-)
I would have gotten in touch with her and asked her why. Then see if she could point to anything you've done that would cause her concern other than what anyone else maybe said about you. If we were able to talk and get things worked out I would try and get her to come back (if you both love eahc other). If not then I would file for divorce and seek custody of my child. I would try to keep it as amiable as possible so the child wasn't torn between you two.
EDIT: I don't know but your comment about your ego being as big as your native state Texas was scary. lol
2007-05-09 04:07:35 · answer #3 · answered by Janet L 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-05 13:01:53 · answer #4 · answered by Erika 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The church should not have placed her in a class for divorced people unless she gave them an indication that she was divorced. If she wanted your marriage to work, she should have requested to be put in a class with married people. I don't know what type of church this was, but the churches that I have been to allow you to pick which class you go in, they don't place you in them themselves. Did she meet another divorced person that thought she was also divorced?
2007-05-09 04:08:19 · answer #5 · answered by God's Child 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no problem with marrying someone with another faith. I know a RC who married an atheist. She goes to church and he stays home, but they love each other and both accept each others believes. No problem here for years, even with children.
If your wife didn't stay than she didn't love you, that's the only reason. And leaving without telling why or discussion the problem is cowardice in my eyes. Sorry for you :(
2007-05-09 04:08:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, if you are a pagan, why did you marry a Christian? That has disaster spelled all over it. Anyway, I bet she divorced you and possibly married someone in her Sunday School class. ????? Am I right?????
PS. I am so very sorry that happend to you. It must have been a really hard time in your life. One doesn't get over that kind of thing very quickly. Do you have partial or full custody of your child? I hope so.
They kidnapped her and kept her from seeing you?
2007-05-09 04:03:58 · answer #7 · answered by Kaliko 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She was probably taught that Christians can not be unequally yoked:
2 Corinthians 6
14Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness? 15What harmony is there between Christ and Belial[b]? What does a believer have in common with an unbeliever? 16What agreement is there between the temple of God and idols? For we are the temple of the living God. As God has said: "I will live with them and walk among them, and I will be their God, and they will be my people."[c]
17"Therefore come out from them and be separate, says the Lord.
I wonder if separating a family pleases the Lord...
Did you convert in the end?
2007-05-09 04:07:21 · answer #8 · answered by G 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You expected too much. Christians do not have the high moral standards of Pagans. Pagans also are likely to do what they say while a Christian can always re-interpret the situation and do the opposite of what they preach.
2007-05-09 04:14:34 · answer #9 · answered by capekicks 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I am sorry that such a painful experience had to befall you both. And I have to say I admire you ability to do what I feel was the right thing and I am glad that your wife and daughter returned to you.
2007-05-09 09:10:18 · answer #10 · answered by Stephen 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋