i've been sexually abused at least four times that i can remember. earliest was about 7 and most recent was about 15. i feel so depressed all the time, i wont let anyone touch me. sometimes i touch myself and i hate how it feels, but why do i do it. i always hurt myself after and wish i was dead.
i've tried to talk to someone about this but, everytime i try to speak nothing comes out, i've thought about online counselling, but i dont have a credit card to pay for things online, and i cant speak face to face to anyone.
anyone got some helpfull advice, places i could go?
2007-05-09 03:47:36 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
why dont you try writing down your feelings in a little book, and then instead of having to talk to someone, you can give them your book. They will then know how you feel and where to go from there, without you having to say a word.
hope this helps
2007-05-09 03:55:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bless your heart, you really do need counseling. I take it that you are a young person with her whole life ahead of her. If you don't get some help in dealing with this, you will have a hard time enjoying your future. You'll start looking for other ways to "fix" things. For instance, many people who have been abused turn to drugs. If you are in high school ask your guidance counselor to help you find someone with whom you would feel comfortable discussing these issues.
Remember, the therapist is there to help you. She won't judge you. The abuse is not your fault. You need help so that one of these days when you meet someone you love you can have a healthy sexual relationship that won't be marred by your bad memories. It takes a person who is trained to deal with sexual abuse to help you out of your current frame of mind. I don't think an online counselor could do it. So get help now--your whole future is at stake. Just tell the counselor what you've written here--how you have trouble talking about it, etc. She will know what to do. Good luck with this.
2007-05-09 11:19:18 · answer #2 · answered by KIZIAH 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
god bless you. mate , you know, i dont know what to say really.i just felt i had to connect with you somehow. surely there must be some sort of site that can at least get you interacted with other girls in your situation. maybe just try punching in on line help for sexual abuse. i do think you are on the right track in seeking help on line, text messages are always so much easier than talking to someone, for whatever reason. you are a strong person by taking the first steps in asking for help. please dont give up. you are one of gods children and although you may not yet know why, your place on this earth is an important one. good luck my friend. STAY STRONG.
2007-05-09 12:22:01 · answer #3 · answered by chooki 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well sweetheart? I would tell you to go to your local county mental health facility and tell them how you are feeling. It is free here in the USA. I feel for you. I have a beautiful 15 year old daughter who is going through exactly the same thing and I am sorry I don't know what to tell you to do because only you know how far you are willing to go to get help but I offer you all the compassion and understanding I possess and I will pray for you. Please don't hurt yourself. Try to look towards your future and try to work through it. If you feel the need to touch yourself, that is okay because most 15 year olds do start learning about themselves and their sexuality. You are not weird because of the feelings of wanting to please yourself. That is normal. Hurting yourself is not normal though, so please get help from a mental health facility before you do something you cannot take back. I will pray for you. Big hugs, ((((Sheri))))
2007-05-09 11:09:04 · answer #4 · answered by sherijgriggs 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly the same thing had happened to me and I felt so depressed all the time and after the fact the person who sexually abused me I also used to touch myself it is a terrible thing to go through and I know how you feel.
2007-05-09 11:44:07 · answer #5 · answered by Brad M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to contact someone in who can help you deal with your shame, guilt, and depression. The feelings you are experiencing are not your fault. They were caused by someone who violated your physical and emotional boundaries. Go to this link: http://www.allaboutcounseling.com/counselors/searchscreen.cfm
and please search for a professional in your city to talk to ASAP. Better yet, please go to a local church in your area and find a Pastor that can you can talk to. You must be able to speak to the counselor or pastor face to face in order for them to help you. They will keep everything confidential and you will be safe from further torment of the abuser. It is vital that you cut off all communication from the abuser. I pray that you will be able to find healing. God Bless you!
2007-05-09 11:17:36 · answer #6 · answered by Dr. G™ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you can just write them in a journal and hand it to someone, but you really need some councelling, I am really sorry about your situation.
2007-05-09 11:06:04 · answer #7 · answered by Destiny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋