I like a girl and in the past I felt that I really love her personality and by who she is. I have told her my feeling last year but she said she just wanna be friends. I do not know how she feels now towards me, but there's another guy who is also after her.
Now I feel that the feeling has tranformed into a bit of sexual attraction. I kept wanting to look at her - her body, her legs, her face.. I still am in love with her personality but at the same time sexual attraction towards her also develops. Is that wrong?
2007-05-09 03:36:03 · 20 answers · asked by En Route 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There's nothing wrong with being sexually attracted to someone. It's only natural. I still lust after my husband and I've known him for almost four years. It's just part of it. Plus the whole "will we, won't we" thing causes a lot of sexual tension. I say you need to ask her out again. That was last year that she said she wanted to be friends. It's possible she may feel differently now. Ask her out one more time and if she says "no" then forget about her and find someone else, but you can still be friends with her. I'd do it before this other guy beats you to it. Good luck. Carpe diem!
2007-05-09 03:47:43 · answer #1 · answered by sweetsar99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer is simple, of course it isn't wrong.. Wrong only comes into play if you try to push her into a physical relationship she does not want..Nature gives us these feelings of sexual attraction and as a young man you will be feeling these feelings often.. As do young women, but with men it seems to be far more often during a typical day.. there is nothing wrong with you.. Just understand that just because you feel this sexual attraction doesn't mean she does.. She has already let you know that she wishes to be only friends, so perhaps it is time to move on and find someone who finds you attractive in the same way.. good luck and be patient..
2007-05-09 04:04:25 · answer #2 · answered by brunette_godiva 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not wrong but to have sex with her is criminal in most places. Meaning you can have your attraction but to act out on it can get you into trouble if people find out. Even if you act out on those feelings, you'd have to be certain that she'd go for it. If not, that would have a very lasting impression on her. I'd say the best idea would be to find someone else who would make you forget about that attraction.
2016-04-01 03:44:49 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you are in love with someone, you accept everything about that person. And yes, that includes her physical attributes. As you said before, you loved her personality, so what makes you think that's the only thing you love about her? You love the whole package, and just like any person in love, you want to be with that person, spiritually, emotionally, intellectually, and physically. You are currently in confusion wanting to pursue a relationship with this person, and yet, you feel burdened with the knowledge that she's not into you. Hence, the reason you feel that the attraction you feel is wrong.
2007-05-09 03:47:24 · answer #4 · answered by shaoranjen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it's not wrong to have a sexual attraction towards someone, to want to admire who they are inside as well as the outside.
I would suggest asking this girl out if you like her personality etc...The worst thing she can say is "no sorry just want to be friends", but at least you tried.
Many guys i'm sure find this girl sexually attractive and in a year, ppl can really change (inside as well as the outside)....the only way you're going to find out how she feels bout you this year is to ask her out on a date. See how that goes. Bestwishes*
2007-05-09 03:45:21 · answer #5 · answered by friskymisty01 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it is not wrong to be sexually attracted to anyone.
She has already told you that she is not interested in you as nothing more than friends. That is how she feels. She is not interested in anything more that that. Period.
Where it becomes wrong is when you start stalking her. When you start following her around, making sure you are at the same places that she is, when you make unsolicited advances. You need to keep your feelings in check or you may find yourself in jail.
2007-05-09 03:50:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I think u should go for what u know. Don't give up if u really like her. I've been in that situation twice an won both of them. Hey in the long run they wasn't what i really wanted once i got them but hey i gottem.
2007-05-09 03:47:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is soooo right
u need to see yourself with her eyes and u will realize what she is looking for. Most often people love those who love them and dont show themselves desperate or victim. Be happy by yourself, control your feelings and desire u will see that this will impress her (or any girl!) and keep on be close to her on her happy moments, avoid bein close when she is not in good mood and she will relate you to good feelings.
Good luck!
2007-05-09 03:47:05 · answer #8 · answered by Inna D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its only human but if you try to force the issue then you are wrong.
2007-05-09 03:39:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds as normal as normal is to me ....you need to talk to her & tell her you have feelings for her & see what she says & how she reacts......if she's not interested you need to accept she is free & single to do whatever she feels & try to move on to someone else.
2007-05-09 03:44:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋