Where should I go from here?

Question

I have been taking care of my boyfriends little brother since the beginging of this month and he is 6 years old. His teeth are rotten, he still have a popcorn cornel in his ear since months ago. His mom is a substance abuser and no one wants to help but me. I just found out the mom is living in an apartment on me. Meaning my name is still on a lease. Soon she will be back on the streets smoking her pipe. I have tried every number and court in Maryland and they want me to pay over 100.00 to fill out applications. I don't have a job and I am trying to help this boy. What do I do from here. Should I take him up to the court so they can see how bad he look or what? Please help! I am in a desperte need. We have no social security card or birth certificate. He has never been in school either. I don't want my boyfriend to get mad at me becasue he know if I put his mom out there she will be in jail, wher she need to be. I have done so much for this family.

I am 21 with a 3 year old of my own. Witch is well taken car of.

Oh yeah not to mention she gets a fat check for him becasue she was in an accident about 10 years ago. So she will not give me custody! she got well over 1-3 million dollars

Answer 1

Call the police and show them what is going on. If your b/f gets mad.. oh well you wshouldn't want a man who gets mad because you have the best interest of a child at heart. Good luck sweetie. Try this website for a toll free number to help you.

http://www.childwelfare.gov/pubs/reslist/rl_dsp.cfm?rs_id=5&rate_chno=11-11172

Answer 2

first you should take this boy straight to childrens protection services and let them see what condtion this woman has put this child in. Secondly if you're boyfriend gave a crap about his brother then he would be trying to take care of him and take him away from the mom. There is a saying we use in the house a lot ( I AM MY BROTHERS KEEPER) that means you watch out and help take care of your brothers and this mother shouldn't be a mom until she gets herself clean, gets a damn job, and takes parenting classes. I've been clean for 18 yrs now and i would never put my kids through that bullshit ever! You need to explain to your bf that his brother needs a place where he can receive dental, medical, love, schooling, and stability. Don't worry about what he says. if he gets mad that you are doing the right thing for him then tell him that you are going to report to the landlord that the apartment his mom lives in was rented under fraud by signing your name when you didn't. That carries jail time. And if this woman runs out or doesn't pay her rent it falls onto your credit and screws things up for you.

Answer 3

First of all you need to call the Social services, child neglect is something they need to know about and that is what it sounds like to me.. You can call the police if you aren't sure how to get in touch with Social services, Report to the police that the child has been abandoned by the mother and you have been trying to care for him, but need help..They should put you in contact with the right branch of Social Services, from there they will decide what needs to happen.
If your boyfriend gets angry for you getting help for his baby brother then he isn't thinking clearly.. Their mother isn't caring for the child and it is obvious he isn't either and if you don't have a job there is no way you can either.. Good luck and I send my prayers to you and that poor child..

Answer 4

your boyfriend should be just as concerned as you are for this child more so than not wanting his mother to go to jail. She has Neglected her son and that is against the law. What a 'sin' for this poor lil defenceless 6yr old child...I would call Social Services and talk to them., let them know what has been going on and that you are stepping up to the plate to care for this child while his mother hopefully gets the help she needs for her substance abuse. Also, this child needs to be seen by a doctor for the popcorn kernal in his ear before he winds up deaf., and perhaps social assistance will help with his dental work. ,at this age it's very important to keep his teeth properly seen to , to make sure when his adult teeth start coming through, that everything is ok. As for his mom living in her appt , on you....You need to take care of that ASAP as you're responsible for anything that goes wrong in that appt she's living in. ANy damage done (from perhaps ppl she has over to the house to party), also the rent...YOUR name is on the lease so in a court of law, YOU are Responsible. So you definately need to see the landlord and have your name REMOVED off of that lease~ She'll then probably have to apply for that unit and perhaps the landlord willl kick her out, but that is NOT your problem...You will have problems tho if you don't remove yourself off that lease~ Then definately make sure you speak to social services for their advice and getting this child registered for next year in school., get him to the doctors to take that corn out of his ear and then to the dentist to have his teeth seen to. Contact your local health dept. and let them know the situation and where can you go to get this child his social security card and birth certificate~ God Bless You for stepping up to help this child~* GoodLuck*

Answer 5

Look you have to do what is right for the child, if mom is hitting the pipe then she could care less about her kid. does DCFS exist where you live? They are kind of worthless in my opinion but if they see the conditions you could make a difference; there is also the local pastor he may be of help.

Answer 6

Take him to the police station, with a note on how to get in touch with his parents.

You're being sweet and compassionate, but you're helping the rotten parents (both of them!) neglect their boy.

Alternatively (and you don't say how old you are, so I can't tell), you may wish to see if there's a way to adopt.

Otherwise, you really shouldn't be involved in this!

Answer 7

You are trying and that's nice but call CPS they will take care of the child. If your boyfriend gets mad and leaves then you are better off without him because he should be thinking of the child also.