I want to join the Air force, but I am already married to someone who is not in the military and can't travel with me should I be placed somewhere far away. Would joining the military put too much strain on my relationship? Would it be worth it to join?
2007-05-09 02:43:18 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Military
At the risk of sounding cold, you should do what your heart tells you. You won’t be much good in the air force if you want to be home all the time and you won’t be much good at home if you always will wonder what if I joined the air force. Do what is right for you!
There is nothing so stupid as the educated man if you get him off the thing he was educated in. - Will Rogers
2007-05-09 02:52:59 · answer #1 · answered by patrsup 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Better choose between your marriage and your career. You can get other jobs. I have been in the military and the constant moving is hard enough on a family when they CAN travel together. It is natural for a man to want to stay in a job where he is established. And let's face it, you get stationed far away, sooner or later someone is going to be unfaithful - marriage over. You took your vows - for better or for worse - it honestly sounds like you are being sort of selfish, unless he was 100% aware that you would be joining the military before you were married. If he knew this and accepted it then, he should go with it. I don't know what your husband does for a living, but there are some pretty good civilian jobs available with the federal government and as a "dependent". he would have a favorable hiring status if he is qualified.
2007-05-09 09:55:08 · answer #2 · answered by hankshammers 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to join the Air Force do it. This is a job that you can do anything anywhere ya know great pay and health insurance for the rest of your life . But for a tester you could join the reserves and see how that gos one weekend a month 2 weeks a year and you wont loose your job there is a law about it how they must hold your job for you. Same with the 6 week training they cant fire you over that.
2007-05-09 09:55:33 · answer #3 · answered by Shelli 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been in the army for 13 yrs and have been away from my family over half that time. I have seen the time away do one of two things. It either makes a relationship stronger or it destroys it. Only you and your spouse know your relationship. I have been married to a soldier and as soon as I got deployed she couldnt handle it and cheated and wantd a divorce. You never know how it is going to turn out you just have to wiegh your pros and cons and discuss it with your spouse and come to a joint decision. If this is something you really want to do then your spouse should support you in your decision just like he would want you to support him in his decisions to either reenlist or volunteer for a duty. Good luck with your decision and I hope everything works out for you!
2007-05-09 09:56:05 · answer #4 · answered by SSG A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are command sponsored, you can take your spouse with you. All of the Armed Services provide family housing to qualified service members. There are certain locations that you cannot take your spouse to however, but these are few and far between (combat deployments are the exception, no one can take family there).
2007-05-15 17:51:45 · answer #5 · answered by Mike A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that really depends on your relationship with your husband. this is really a case by case thing. some marriages it will destroy and others will be stronger for it. that is just one of the things about the military. and long distance relationships are not easy by all means. why is he not able to travel with you.
2007-05-09 09:51:27 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is a toughie. ;) But most of the time, depending on where you get stationed they will allow accompanied tours. Most of them are three years. Although you do have the option of paying for your spouse to come over to where you are, at your expense. If it is a three year tour then they will pay. Cheers
2007-05-09 10:02:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're married, it's really not a good idea to join.
2007-05-09 09:53:57 · answer #8 · answered by John L 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Military wives have done it for decades.
2007-05-16 12:19:44 · answer #9 · answered by TAT 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's your call but if it were me, lifestyle comes first over job.
2007-05-09 09:52:08 · answer #10 · answered by Land Warrior 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋