Is it right or wrong to talk about past relations with new girlfriend??

Question

When I mention the past relationship with my GF, she ignores my questions, then I find out she lies about it to me...Is this a normal thing or what?
I feel jealous and upset at the same time...

Answer 1

The past is the past. Let it go. Talk about places you've been or things you've done, but don't mention the ex's or ask her about hers.

Answer 2

What is in the past should be left there! Don't dwell in the past, work for the future! Why do you want to know so much about her past relationships and why do you want to talk about yours b/c you're not happy with your current relationship? Leave it a lone! You are making yourself feel jealous and upset - until you can put your emotions aside and mature, the conversation should never be brought up again. You should be able to talk to your spouce about any and all topics - she is not your spouce and your relationship has to grow in order to get to either one. Maybe this will help...

Marriage is for those who can love eachother unconditionally, for the mature, for the honest and there is no room for jealousy and communication is part of the whole, if you have these things love can withstand any obsticals and any illusions and trust is there. But both must have the will and have the desire to want a lasting relationship -you can start off by syaing o.k. this is what we'll do but if one of you lacks the giving of these things you are back to square one. Communication must also go as far as dicussing s_x with one another, if you can not be honest or tell your spouce that strange has been on your mind then problems will arise!!! If you know what I mean, if you can't talk about s_x with your spouce then who can you talk to about it with... An open mind helps as well as being best friends... Things may be good now but things will not always to remain good, problems come and go we all have our ups and downs and good times and bad times. Be sure your love is strong and that you both have the qualities of ever lasting love!

Answer 3

There is nothing wrong with talking about past relationships to your current g/f, but make sure you aren't over doing it.. Perhaps she feels you talk about the ex a bit too much? She may not feel comfortable talking about her past relationships at the moment so that could be why she isn't telling you the truth. Talk to her about this not the past relationships, ask her if it is uncomfortable for her to talk about past relationships you have both had and why? If it is then just work on what you have now.. Good luck..

Answer 4

I think you should have pharsed your question more clearly but it isnt wrong to talk about your past relationship(s), as a matter of fact, its quite healthy. I'm guessing she's probably young, imature or is jus hiding something.I remember listening to my boyfriend about his X's, i used to feel uncomfortable an a lil jealous but when it was time for me to talk about my x it was normal because i was so over him. I have grown up an understands he loves me all an had his reasons for talking about his past which was a good thing. You need to ask her why she ignores you and the LIES is certainly not a normal thing, you need to deal with the matter before its too late. Don't stress yuhself! Talk to her! Stop the lies! Good Luck!!!

Answer 5

Hmmm let me get this straight...you talk about your past relationships with your new g/friend and she ignores your questions...Why would you ask her questions about your ex's?? then you find out she lies about it to you? What would she lie about if she's not answering your questions.
Girls don't like guys to talk about their past relationships they feel you're comparing your ex to your new g/friend. The past is the past so leave it there. Would you fancy your new g/friend talking bout her ex boyfriends and then asking you questions ?? (not sure what questions but perhaps it's "why would she do that? or why do women do that or ???"......NEVER ask questions to your new partner about things you've said or done with your old partner. Consider HER feelings(the new g/f).......HOW come YOU feel jealous and upset at the same time? If anything.....your new g/friend is probably feeling that right about now. I suggest you enjoy your time with the new love of your life and forget about whatever happend with your old g/friend* Move Forward with your life~ Best Wishes*

Answer 6

I think it is a good thing to talk about past relationships because you find out what your significant others ex did so you don't do the same. I think it should not be the topic of conversation everyday but if one day you guys honestly sit down and talk and get it all out in the open then she will tell you her likes and dislikes and you do the same. Me and my fiancee did this and we have been married for 2 years.

Answer 7

for me its wrong you dont have to talk about your past relationships with your new girlfriend its like telling her(new gf) that you still care, love her(ex). your new girlfriend has the right to feel jealous and not you, you make her upset at the same time. you know your starting a new relationship with your new gf because things didnt workout with you and your exgf so why bother talk about it if you think you have moved on and trying to start a new relationship that you think would last for a lifetime. be considerate of the feelings of your new gf its pretty obvious that she doesnt like to talk with your past relationship..

Answer 8

I don't feel the need to tell my boyfriend alot of details about my past relationships. And I definitely don't like to hear about his ex's either. It's a definite mood kill when anything is mentioned about the ex. What's past is past. It doesn't need to be dwelled on or brought back to life. I believe the less the ex's are mentioned the better for everyone.

Answer 9

A new relationship is all about you and her, spend time getting to know her and she will want to spend time getting to know you, not your ex's. From a woman's view, she might think that if you are talking about your old flames, you might still be hung up on them. If she wants to know about them, she will ask. If she is with you, that is where she wants to be. She might still be trying to get over something from the past, but you might be the person to get her through that. Jealousy will only come between you, be strong and there for her when she wants to talk about it, and keep in mind, everyone has a past and that is what makes us who we are today.

Answer 10

Just drop the subject if it upsets her. Why must you know everything about her past? What counts is that she's with you now. You're showing your insecurity and noone likes that. Just act like you're better than her exes could ever have been and leave it at that.