Can I do better than him?

Question

Alright can I do better than him?? If you read my other 3 questions you will know how I feel about this dude..lol

http://s169.photobucket.com/albums/u203/Haleyj1013/Me%20and%20Aron/

Okay I really like him but ppl are telling me to move on. I don't want to. So I was just asking for some suggestions. Because he tells me that he is my only friend and always will be close to me. He says he will always be there. He said he used to like me but never said anyhting about now. So I am confused. He has had 2 gf's since I have met him and liked him and I still do. But yet he can be a real jerk. he calls me an Idiot, Geek, Nerd, Loser, fat, and ugly sometimes. But then he will laugh and say he's sorry. Yetserday on AIM he said he wanted to see me cry. for no reason. So this is why I am asking..lol

Answer 1

alright, girl...
i just read the other Qs and honey, move on. you can still like him, you can still want to be with him, but he's a game player, so if you want him, then you need to toughen up and get in the game!
i'm not much of a game player, myself, but i know how to play the game. it takes effort and a lot of control over your feelings.
you're going to want to melt when he says cute stuff to you, but instead, you have to just look at him and say things like "i'm sorry, but i don't do sloppy seconds." and then grin like a chessie cat b/c he KNOWS that you're refering to his gf and him being with someone other than you.

basically, he's not that into you, if he's dating other people. that's lesson 1. i think the potential is there for him to be into you, but you have to work it a bit.
you have to turn the tables. teen love is all about control....well, in your case it is. you have to make him want YOU and no one else. so, back off...don't pant and wag your tail after him all the time. assert yourself. show him that you don't need him around to be happy. show him that you don't mind him around, but he's not everything to you. (i know that's not true, but remember darlin...this is a big ol game of love and sometimes we have to put on a show to get what we want).
eventually, either he will come wagging his tail after you and you will drive him crazy...OR he will take a stand and not break up with gf for you and then you will know for sure that he is not for you.

does that help???

the point of all of your interactions needs to be driving home the point that as long as he is docking his boat at another port, his boat isn't welcome at yours!
if he asks what's up with that, then tell him "well, i just realized that you ahve a gf and if you wanted to be with me then you would be....and you're not, so..."and just shrug your shoulders, like "so, you know..what's the point...sorry, you're loss fella".

i hope this helps!

take care and good luck.

Answer 2

If you think you can do better than him, then you've already answered your question. If you like the guy then stick with him. I feel sorry for the guy though. Because if you think you can do better, you'll just end up hurting him. Human nature - always get the best of things. Never happy with what you have till its gone.

Answer 3

Of course. Dump him and find a guy you know you'll like. You know he's not right for you otherwise you wouldn't be asking complete strangers about your situation.

Answer 4

If you really have to ask this question , the answer is a definite YES.

Answer 5

This is a no brainer.

Any time that question enters a woman's mind, the question answers itself.

Answer 6

I never read your previous ?'s, but going by the pics I don't think he's cute enough for you. It's your life though so who cares what other people think.

Answer 7

Haley, you know the answer... never settle for anything less than the best!

Answer 8

my guess is that if you're asking this, then the answer is probably yes.

and you probably know it.

good enough...just isn't. :)

Answer 9

probably, & maybe he could do better than you. when you find the right person, stick with em

Answer 10

ok, girl if your not with him yet, give up and say forget it.