I havea friend who is an agnostic. well, not only is he agnostic, he's very avid anti-Christian.
he's always saying that marriage is pointless, and its only a Christian thing.
I was wondering how any of you guys felt about the issue.
do you believe in marriage?? why or why not??
2007-05-09 02:22:10 · 31 answers · asked by Lizzie_bee 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
farzana: yes, actually, I am engaged, but thats not what encouraged this, I was talking to some people about religion and stuff, and my friend piped in with the "marriage is only for christians, and he's a growing statistic" and all that
2007-05-09 02:29:52 · update #1
I believe that a good marriage is a great thing.
I believe that marriage in general has caused a lot of harm, though on the balance, more good than harm.
I believe that we rush people into pretending to make a commitment that they have no understanding of, let alone intention to keep. We used to marry, have children, and then die a few years later (the woman often dying in childbirth). Now you can expect to live 60 years after getting married. That changes the stakes immensely.
2007-05-09 02:24:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am an atheist, and I am married. I think it's a great thing.
Tell your friend that Jews, Muslims, Pagans, and Buddhists all marry. Tell him that (in the US, any way) there are a lot of benefits available to married people that singles don't have. Ask him why gay people are so interested in being able to marry each other if it doesn't have any benefits except the religious ones.
Marriage can be considered a social contract between the 2 parties, and lets them conserve assets. Some other benefits might be that a spouse can automatically inherit property, make decisions about when to turn off life support at the end of life, or not be forced to testify against their partner.
2007-05-09 02:30:16 · answer #2 · answered by Ralfcoder 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I'm with Paul S on this one.
Marriage is not only a christian thing. That's a silly statement especially since there is marriage in many other cultures all over the world who are NOT christian.
I think marriage with the right person with all the components to make a great relationship (communication, open-ness, etc) can be a wonderful & fulfilling experience.
2007-05-09 02:27:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is a sacred bond between a MAN and a WOMAN. It is something that is beyond religion. It is better for the 2 people, any children they may have and for society. Anyone who does not believe in marriage is just a coward and afraid of committment. I am a Christian and believe God is part of a marriage, but for those who are not Christians or have another religion still get married all the time.........and even in a Christian Church of all things. Why would they do that? Humm. Rambling on, sorry. Marriage is the right thing to do, without it, we are going down the road of no morals what so ever.
2007-05-09 02:35:19 · answer #4 · answered by Jeremy Doo 1 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Liz, Hopefully you are not engaged to him. But think about marriage is the foundation of society, If you want to create a family that is strong and has good bases marriage is the answer. yeah sometimes there are marriages that don't work, but that's not because is a Christian thing or because every marriage is going to fail.
2007-05-09 02:47:10 · answer #5 · answered by gap 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is primarily a legal contract, and seems a very strange thing for two people who are in love to do.
Sometimes it's necessary, such as with nationality issues; and to a lesser extend with children.
But in reality children, wealth division and all other issues can be sorted out by a specific legal contract designed to fit the circumstances and requirements of the people involved. Why sign up to an existing one-size-fits-all contract?
If two people simply love each other, getting married is like handcuffing them together. I see no sense in it at all.
CD
2007-05-09 02:33:06 · answer #6 · answered by Super Atheist 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is not a "Christian thing" quite honestly though I think that marriage has become so commercialized that it is beyond pointless to a lot of people. People want to get married so bad and have this huge thing, they go into debt and sometimes only get married for the wedding so they get divorced.
2007-05-09 02:32:01 · answer #7 · answered by like the ocean needs the waves 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Considering I'm Atheist and married, I'd have to say yes. Marriage existed since long before Christianity ever started. Its a public declaration of committment to each other in the eyes of family and local gvt, nothing more and nothing less.
Your friend is making excuses because he doesn't want to get married.
2007-05-09 02:43:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe in "marriage" to the extent that I think it's fine for 2 people to live together in a monogomous relationship and have children. But, as for actually having a wedding and saying vowels, wasting a lot of money etc. and eventually leading to divorce in 50% of cases, then I would say that it is all very unnecessary.
To me, actually getting married is a religious notion and I don't feel the desire to be any part of that. I don't need a certificate and a ring in order to prove that I'm going to stay true to my mate.
2007-05-09 02:33:43 · answer #9 · answered by Bipolar Bear 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is a legal contract between consenting adults. God has nothing to do with it unless those getting married want it to. My parents have about the strongest marriage I know. When my father became an atheist it did not make his marriage any less of a marriage. Ditto for myself.
2007-05-09 02:30:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋