He doesn't act the same anymore?

Question

Ever since my b/f started a new job he has changed. The sex hasn't but he has. He is drinking more and when he drinks we argue and it turns ugly. Everything is always my fault. He is a great man but drinking changes him. WE have been together 3years. He is always making smart remarks about me haveing another boyfriend even when he isn't drinking. I amgood to him. I go to work and come home everyday and keep the house clean and take care of our baby. I feel like I amdoing it all but is never good enough for him. It is always about me doing someone else. He is sooo nice when the alchol isn't talking. Is he cheating? do drunks really tell the truth? What should i do?

Answer 1

You sound ace, Fu ck that loser off and i'll marry you.
BTW he's just being himself now, the guy you used to know was an act, sorry.
You need to bring this to a head, and your baby will get the same either way, so you have to see how serious he can be about giving up the ale (addictions are hard to break, but think how much he is making you suffer for his problems). If your not worth giving up the ale for, he can't be worth hanging around for.
ps if he has/does get violent, run, fast as you can, take your baby and never look back. all people can keep a grip of their anger, so there are NO excuses.

Answer 2

When some one is an alcoholic they usually are abusive when they get drunk to. Not all of them, but a lot of them. Im not sure why, but some people that aren't normally mean wen they get drunk become total a**holes when they do, especialy acoholics. He may be developing an addiction and a problem. There may be things in his life that he is not happy with and he is covering them up through the liquor. And when he is not in his better judgment he brings it out on you. I would sit down and talkt to him about his drinking and the things he says to you when he is drunk. Tell him that you love him, but it is hurting you to see him act and do the things he does and says. You might see if he is willing to see a counselor because how he is acting is exactly how achololics act that are abusive, the play the blame game. And as far as the cheating thing. I don't think that he is. If he is making excuses to stay out late or gone all night. And is acting very secretive about what he was doing, phone calls he gets, and wont answer when you call, then You should be worriend. Also he wouldn't be interested as much in sex with you, because he would be getting it else where. But i think that it is more the alcohol than this. so, try and get him help or get out before its too late. Because its not just you you got to think about, its your baby to.

Answer 3

From what you are saying it seems he may have a new interest at his new job and it isn't the job... His drinking may be part of the problem or it may be because of the problem which could be that he is feeling guilty, some people when they are guilty of "Cheating" accuse their spouse/significant other of cheating because they think if they could do it so could you.. If you can catch him in a good mood and alcohol free, talk to him about the problem. Be honest about how you are feeling and ask him how he is truly feeling and what has changed.. You won't be happy until you know what is going on and if you can fix it. I wish you luck and send my prayers to you and your baby..

Answer 4

Some people transfer guilt, I mean if he is doing it, he might try to blame you for what he is doing so he doesnt feel as bad for doing it. That being said, the stress of a new job, especially if he doesnt like the job but feels stuck there, can be very hard, especially with a family to support. Some men respond differently, some get mean, and take it on the ones they love because its the only one they are comfortable venting on. It sucks, but it the way people are. I hope all turns out well for you, and put your foot dawn about the verbal assaults, because if you dont they will only get worse.

Answer 5

Drunks really do tell the truth!!! It seems he is verbally abusing you and that's not healthy for you or the baby. If he's making remark about you having another boyfriend, keep your eyes open for that other woman at his job. Keep a strong head and be prepared to move on, your baby needs you more than he does.

Answer 6

He sounds insecure to me. Only he knows the reason for him feeling this way. It sounds as though he is disappointed in himself, he may feel inadequate as a dad or may be he feels he's not deserving of you. On the other hand he could be cheating. Do he's stories add up or are you always cathching him out on a lie?
The question's to ask yourself are- are you and your baby safe? and are you happy?
if you can't get an answer out of a meaningful talk while he is sober maybe you should have a break to re-evaluate your relationship.

Answer 7

Do drunks always tell the truth? No. And more importantly it sounds like your boyfriend MIGHT be developing a drinking problem. You might want to talk to your local chapter of AA about this. They can probably give you some insight and maybe tell you what you can do about this. Good luck.

Answer 8

from what i am reading yall had a great relation ship untill he started a new job. then on top of that yall have a baby and the sex is good. well the only thing i have to say about this is, yall should take a time out and just talk about how u feel about him ever since he took the job and he talk to u about what u not doing that is not good enouth for him

Answer 9

You said you've got your own job...so you need to plan for the future and start putting a little money away each week into a secret bank account he doesnt know about...you need to save enough money to be financially independent to support your baby yourself in the event you have to pack up and leave quickly. Start saving money now! Once you have enough, then confront him about his drinking...so if he gets hostile, you can just leave on the spot without the fear of how you will survive from day-to-day...

Answer 10

Give him a wake up call. Stop looking after the house. You're his gf not his maid. Tell him he needs to be home by such and such a time on a certain night to watch the baby because YOU have plans to go out with your friends. See how he likes a taste of his own medicine. If you keep putting up with his behavior nothing will change.